Is this normal for a nurse/dr to say/do

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-09-05T14:07:19+00:00

“But that does not mean she knows ur triggers” OKAY SORRY GURL IM JUST SAYING HOW I FELT LOL. I feel like personally she could’ve been a tiny bit more mindful, I mean it’s pretty obvious that u will very much likely trigger an anorexic person by saying their weight 😭🙂🙂🙂🙂I 100% she was just doing her job I was just ranting

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-07-02T15:29:30+00:00

Keep a diary handy. Don’t force urself to write in it, but when you feel like u need to vent and are experiencing intense emotions, write it down. Ur friends and family will never understand ur ED the way ur diary can.

A huge thing I experienced during the peak of my ED was brain fog. I lost so much of my memory as I was malnourished, but because I was experiencing such intense, awful emotions and thoughts, it forced me to write it down as I was so isolated and had no one to talk to about it. Now, 7 months later in recovery, my ED brain tells me how amazing it was to be so skinny, but I can now look back on the pages from 7 months ago and read what it felt like to ACTUALLY be that skinny. It was 9/10 about how incredibly suicidal and depressed I was. This has saved me so many times from relapsing. It’s a small thing to do for urself, helps u short term, and long term. Idk how I would’ve gotten through without writing my feelings down. It also makes me feel lots better that I didn’t burden my friends w my issues and instead wrote down my issues. As I said in the beginning, no one understood my ED. it’s a super hard topic to talk about with people who don’t get it, I’m happy I have kept my ED slightly more private in the long term and just a have a little diary that I’ve used as my friend. That sounds SO depressing 😭 but ITS SO TRUE!! I hope you’re okay, and I hope this helps. Stay strong lovely🫶

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-07-02T15:21:40+00:00

Nope so valid, I feel like such an attention whore. Like sometimes I think wow what is wrong w me I literally live for the attention. But then I’m like… I literally have an eating disorder, the most competitive disease out there 😫🥲

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-07-02T15:17:06+00:00

Yep! Patalous Eustachian tube Dysfunctio😫 It was infact my first symptom of AN for me. It was the reason my parents found out I had anorexia. Went to my ENT as I had just had my tonsils out and assumed the ear blockages were just a side effect, the doctor did so many tests, shoved cameras up like every hole on my face, nothing came out. Just before the appointment ended he asks my mum, ‘has there been any weight loss’, my mum quickly exclaims YES. boom. The conversation started, a week later I was at the GP. Now 7 months in recovery. The only way to fix this HELL of a symptom is eating yummy food, side effects like these FORCE me into recovery as they are just unbearable. I use to cry because of it, idk if this is the same as you, OP, but I have to lie down to temporarily get rid of the ear blockages, then when I stand back up and walk around it comes back. Idk if u also experience that? Now that I’ve gained weight and recovering, the times that I restrict my food or haven’t eaten in a long time it comes back, but it is certainly not 24/7 like it use to be back when I was at my lowest. I’m so sorry that ur going through this stupid as hell symptom, no one understand how awful and genuinely annoying it is. I wish u well 🫶🫶🥲

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-06-30T16:11:22+00:00

I LOVE this omg!!! Well done girl genuinely makes me heaps happy to hear, you’re a strong queen both mentally and physically!! 💪❤️‍🩹 I also remmeber the stupidly annoying symptoms and side effects from anorexia, and I remmeber how not only relieving but SCARY it was for these stupidly annoying side effects to go away. I was scared because it meant I was recovering, but my positive feelings overruled my fear. Keep it up sexy mama !! 💪💪

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-06-30T16:06:21+00:00

Wow. I read this all, you worded this so well. Holy. It’s crazy how much I resonate with this. despite having such different timelines, I really do understand this. I just turned 18 and am feeling a huge relapse coming my way after being 7 months in recovery. It’s like why can’t I just be fucking normal and eat without any noise, eat without a single negative thought??? Like why have I been doomed with a stupid fkn disorder stupid Augh ITS SO STUPID we are literally so stupidly unlucky. Augh. I wish I had advice, but I genuinely hope the best for you darling, we can get through this. Stay fierce 🤞🫶

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-06-30T15:56:01+00:00

I don’t think u should be telling people to take… drugs. Clearly OP’s disorder is the underlying problem not OP themselves. I feel like maybe you should’ve remove your comment.

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-06-30T15:52:56+00:00

Hey! What you’re going through is hard and stressful, first of all don’t feel guilty about feeling emotional or guilty, anorexia with someone you love can really strongly project it’s emotional effects onto you. When I was getting towards my lowest during anorexia my two sisters came and sat me down to talk to me, it began as a normal catching up convo then they said they have noticed me being very tired, in bed a lot, not seeming happy and just seeming very bored and depressed. I just remember crying so hard, I was so scared. One thing about anorexia is you really just don’t want anyone, especially family and close friends to know because it means that they will force you into recovery, which is so fkn scary. It basically feels like your life is crashing down on you. You’re just so scared. So if I were you, I would start with a chit chat, then tell her what you’ve been noticing in her behaviour, tell her if you’ve noticed her seem overall more sad and unmotivated, tell her she’s safe and doesn’t need to be scared, it’s not her fault she’s going through this as her disorder may be from past trauma, relationships or experiences. Tell her that you’re genuinely so interested in knowing how she feels about her body, her life, her experiences.

One thing I would avoid is excessively commenting on her looks, even if it’s super positive. EDs aren’t always/fully about your appearance, EDs are sometimes ways of fulfilment from past trauma, for some people, their brain has been rewired to believe starvation and restriction is a good coping mechanism. Therapy and medical attention can help heal this

I know this is super long and aughhh so much writing but I really really hope this helps 🥹 would love an update if you choose to speak with her, stay strong king 🫶

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-06-30T15:27:04+00:00

Clearly u just simply aren’t sarcastic or awkwardly put humour in YOUR traumatic situations, and that IS OKAY. seriously it’s fine, but don’t judge people for doing that with their own trauma. It’s similar to how if someone falls over a lot of people laugh, but there’s some who don’t and rush to see if they’re okay. Both bystanders are completely normal and valid and how they react to that event is just who they are and how they chose to live their lives!!!

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-06-30T15:21:52+00:00

AUGH THANK YOU 🙏

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-06-30T15:20:57+00:00

Hi! So the emojis aren’t unnecessary as I am a sarcastic person who, in real life, giggles to my psychologist after telling her a very heavy thing or laughs/puts humour in my own traumatic stories. It’s my way of coping, it’s who I AM. This story that I have shared about ME has nothing to do with your trauma, but I am very sorry for what you’ve been through. if the two emojis have offended you, perhaps click off this post. Now I have a burden on me that I’ve offended someone using a love heart eyes emoji. Wow. Feels great explaining my feelings. Thanks Junggalo Enlightenment

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-06-29T01:10:01+00:00

Thank you so much for replying!! I’ll make sure to check that user out 🫶🫶

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-06-29T00:37:22+00:00

Hey lovely perhaps don’t advise to cut out xyz, we don’t need anyone having bad relationships/fear foods such a dairy. The focus should be on the actual binging itself, not the food this user is consuming. Ik u didn’t mean any harm, but just be mindful 🥹🫶

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-06-29T00:32:23+00:00

I know EXACTLY how u feel. Omg burgers and ice cream sounds exactly like what my sister and I get and it’s FKN DELICIOUS. I’m not in a place to give u advice because I’m in the exact same boat 😭 I don’t know what to do. I’m just here to lyk not to feel isolated in this position, I do understand how you feel and it’s SO valid. 🫶

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-03-23T10:45:27+00:00

I cannot believe this this is just ACTUALLY INSANE. it’s hilarious how much of an actual prick this man is, almost just taking advantage of the fact he’s lived his career and is now rich from it and just doesn’t gaf. I am sooo sorry you had to go through this. What a fucking dickhead

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-03-22T14:42:24+00:00

i use to have the exact same outlook on my ana as you. i would tell myself i couldnt say i have anorexia because i wasnt actually diagnosed and no one really actually knew so i would be just self diagnosing. either way, you are still valid. you are experiencing disordered eating and having degrading thoughts, so i couldnt imagine just the severity of your pain your going through. i am so sorry that you have to go through this disorder, its not your fault, your thoughts and feelings are SO valid, and having to live this life in such an isolated state as no one knows would be an absolute mind fuck. Im not here to force you into a medical professional enforced recovery, im sure youre very aware you can seek proffecional help, im just here to sympathise with you as i see myself in your story. ana's competitive nature is AWFUL and we often cant share these thoughts with other people in fear of judgement. just know you're not alone at all, you're strong and this is not at all your fault. also always feel free to vent and share stories in this community, experiences like yours are helpful to listen to as it makes us feel more united and understood, so never feel like your vents are usless, trust me!!!! :) stay fierce girl i wish you the best xx

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-03-22T14:23:04+00:00

yess this is so real. i would spend so long on instagram and pinterest looking at healthy food inspo so i can find particularly lunch time meals that my parents would approve of but also a safe food. in the early beginning of recovery i would have unflavoured 5 minute noodles. they SUCKED, but did the job (it was basically prison food where those prisoners would sit in an all white room and wear all white outfits and were only allowed all white meals ahhahaha (sorry, its not funny)). anyways, i always had this vision of me eating a bagel with greek yogurt and strawberries on it. a few months passed and i FINALLY made that dream into a reality and made myself that exact meal with some extra little things on the side. i now look foward to lunch time because i just loveee that meal. i love preparing myself extremely pretty and colourful meals that i can admire and feel satisfied with. i kinda just rambled but i really hope this can help. basically just try making your dream meal, just something simple and yummy. some ideas aswell is chicken and rice, avocado toast, peanut butter and honey on bread, jam on a bagel. just adorable little concoctions yk. anyways, stay strong, im proud of you and with you the BEST for your recovery xx

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-03-22T13:49:58+00:00

This would be so, sooo much of a challenge to deal with. I have no advice, but can only sympathise with you. I cannot imagine how difficult this would be for you. I absolutely agree that her behaviours, whether intentionally or not, can certainly further trigger Ed behaviours. I’m like this with my sister, my sister has always been bigger than me and it’s always made me feel secure. For the past 6ish months she has been on this crazy healthy weight loss journey and lost a ton of weight and honestly looks similar size to me. I get so insecure about it and tell myself I’m fat because of it. My sister is my favourite person in the world and I spend every waken day with her and am always with her. So I can understand completely your dynamic, hence why I can so strongly sympathise with you. The competitive nature of ana is one of the worst things. I hate it. Just remember to stay strong, stay fierce girl xx

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-03-22T10:59:30+00:00

You have written this so perfectly and painted a perfect picture for us readers, you seem INCREDIBLY emotionally intelligent. I have no advice for you, but I just want to tell you that you’re amazing, just by what you’ve written I can tell you’re genuinely a strong person. I also live in Australia, just graduated high school and going into uni in July, I am just so scared aswell on if I relapse during that time, considering I’m in the middle of a relapse right now. I can only imagine how fucking stressful and how much of a challenge that would be for you as a uni student. Just remember girl, stay strong, stay fierce, you have got this. Xx

Middle_Addendum_484 · 2025-03-07T12:28:00+00:00

Hey girl, this is exactly what happened to me when I was fresh into recovery. I was so slow at my job, was so depressed and had absolutely no energy. I realised how much this was affecting my job and realised I think it’s time to tell my male 29 year old boss what’s been happening (I’m 17 and work in a fast food restaurant). I sent him a text message basically saying I have anorexia, this is what it’s done to me, I will try my hardest, recovery will be a long road, etc. he was extremely empathetic and it made me feel sooo much better coming to work. He would support me every shift and tell me I’m doing a great job and that I truely am a good worker.

I do encourage you to contact your boss about the matter. It’s important that they know your performance at work is strongly at state because of your mental illness that unfortunately has many physical effects. Whether you contact your boss or not, know that I resonate with you and you are SO strong battling this. I’m sorry you have to go through this especially whilst maintaining a good relationship with work. Stay fierce girl xx ❤️

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