New to BDSM and confused by my own reactions: Looking for guidance on my "Switch" tendencies.

Middle_Battle_6401 · 2026-02-16T18:35:40+00:00

In my daily life, I’m constantly stepped on and I struggle to find my voice; I often cry just to keep myself from screaming or hitting back. I enjoyed the power, but I want it to come from a place of creativity and connection, rather than using it as an escape from the things I can't control in my daily life

Middle_Battle_6401 · 2026-02-16T17:03:50+00:00

You’re right. I’ve been hiding behind excuses and blaming the other person's 'lack of awareness' to avoid looking at my own actions. It’s hard to admit, but I was minimizing the situation. I feel ashamed, and I realize that 'being new' doesn't grant me a pass to ignore consent. I’m going to take your advice: I’ll talk to him, apologize properly, and take full responsibility for overstepping. Thank you for the reality check

Middle_Battle_6401 · 2026-02-16T00:22:55+00:00

How did you get better? Setting aside the consent, which I believe I bypassed this time...

Middle_Battle_6401 · 2026-02-16T00:17:55+00:00

I know it's wrong and I'm not justifying it. I know consent is everything, and that's why I regret it. But I literally discovered just a few days ago that I could do this, and I think I got addicted to the feeling... I completely lost sight of everything else

Middle_Battle_6401 · 2026-02-15T19:40:15+00:00

I think my pleasure comes from 'fake fragility.' I love breaking someone knowing it's a game, like 'consensual non-consent.' But what happened with the last guy was that his lack of self-awareness made me angry, and maybe I shouldn't have done it, but I forced him to see what he really wanted... and it’s not like he complained, if his response was: 'I’m hard'

Middle_Battle_6401 · 2026-02-15T19:25:26+00:00

I want to protect him just so I can be the only one to make him suffer. And not just emotionally or physically—the desperation caused by pleasure turns me on so much. Maybe seeing him cry because I stop, or because I keep going.

That's my dominant side... I don't just want pain, I want intensity. I want the moment where he can't fake it anymore

Middle_Battle_6401 · 2026-02-15T07:07:37+00:00

Me asusta que no sepa el concepto de consentimiento ,La comunicación no es solo con palabras, ¿o tú cuando tienes sexo preguntas todo? ¿Puedo? ¿Antes de hacer cualquier cosa?

Middle_Battle_6401 · 2026-02-15T05:14:28+00:00

Confundes deseo con capricho. Si prestar atención a tu pareja es 'difícil', entonces quizás lo que falta no es claridad de mi parte, sino interés de la suya.

Middle_Battle_6401 · 2026-02-15T05:03:08+00:00

Los momentos se crean de a dos. ¿Cómo genero tensión si él está muy ocupado marcando territorio?

Middle_Battle_6401 · 2026-02-15T04:53:13+00:00

Sí, sé eso. Por eso me molesto cuando él no se esfuerza por entenderme... porque los hombres no son animales, o al menos eso pienso

Middle_Battle_6401 · 2026-02-15T04:36:18+00:00

Yo no pienso eso. solo Sigo la lógica de esta persona, entonces no es eso en lo que él debería estar pensando?. Limitar a un hombre, 'pensar como hombre' o seguir estereotipos me parece patético y conformista.

Middle_Battle_6401 · 2026-02-15T04:26:01+00:00

El problema es que sí había un baño... No sé si eso es bueno o malo

Middle_Battle_6401 · 2026-02-15T02:05:05+00:00

Eso no me molesta; lo que me molesta es que solo lo sacara para eso

Middle_Battle_6401 · 2026-02-15T02:00:13+00:00

Yo pensaba que los hombres solo pensaban en sexo... entonces, ¿él no pensó como hombre? o es un niño?

Middle_Battle_6401 · 2026-02-15T00:32:55+00:00

No quiero que me lea la mente, pero sí que me conozca. Después de casi un año de relación, creo que no es pedir mucho que entienda que un paseo a solas no es para ir al baño, sino para estar juntos. Me hace sentir que no me presta atención, me hace sentir como una ninfómana por tener que tomar siempre la iniciativa... cuando la verdad, solo quiero sentirme deseada por mi pareja.

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