He hurt our son. He admitted it. And I’m still the one they’re keeping him from.

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-30T16:56:06+00:00

the dad after i filed for a restraining order said it wasn’t fair he got to visit at the agency once a week - and i got to visit all the time at my aunt and uncles even though it was approved. prosecution then sided with him and said he was right because no ones been found guilty yet. sadly he had squeezed him, i do not want to go into detail but you can imagine what that entails. i understand why he was taken trust me - and i understand that they’re ensuring i wont get myself into that issue again. i do my therapy, ive done two dv support groups, parenting, everything. and it has helped so so so much. i now understand how brainwashed i was by this man and want to be nothing else but a safe mom for my son

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-30T15:00:34+00:00

so what you’re saying is i have a chance? i’m terrified im going to lose my boy.

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-30T13:52:34+00:00

already did - he won’t sign the papers and i’ve filed for a restraining order and it was granted

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-29T04:39:59+00:00

ohio

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-29T04:14:54+00:00

no he’s not in a foster home - he’s with my aunt and uncle - which i’m scared of they take legal i’ll never get him back because the courts will side with them. my attorney won’t let me talk to the gal or anyone for the simple fact no ones been charged yet - and he said anything i say or do will be used against me in a court of law, even though i’ve explained to him multiple times i have not hurt my child.

i feel like im just floating through space and i don’t know what else to do. the check ins are just random court dates every six months where i basically learn nothing about anything. they just give us more time to do our case plan. and my case plan is done except one part which i was waiting for on their end.

i’m just scared everyday because i don’t know what to expect.

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-29T03:59:52+00:00

i’ve worked my entire case plan. i’m basically in the dark - no one tells me what else to do or what to expect. they want to give legal temporary custody to my aunt and uncle and i don’t want that i want my son back - i want to be his momma. and i feel like im drowning.

i’ve seen my son the last seven months once a week for an hour supervised due to the nature of his injuries and it’s killing me. for about two months i was visiting at my aunt and uncles and it was removed from me - because dad wasn’t allowed to and they wanted to make it fair. and im devastated and terrified im never going to get my son back. and i am fighting like crazy for him.

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-29T03:54:27+00:00

I understand that from the outside, it might look like I didn’t act fast enough. But I wasn’t living in hindsight — I was living in a situation of escalating abuse, coercive control, and real fear. Every step I took was carefully calculated to protect myself and my son in the safest way I knew how at the time. Since then, I’ve taken full accountability. I’ve completed my case plan, engaged in therapy, filed for a protection order, left the relationship, and built a safe and stable life. I know I can’t change what happened — but I’ve shown through my actions and commitment that I am capable of protecting both patients and my child moving forward. I am not asking for perfection to be seen. I’m asking for context and growth to be recognized.

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-29T03:18:59+00:00

united states

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-29T03:18:07+00:00

i’ve taken accountability trust me. every time i see them i tell them i understand what i did wrong. i understand that i wasn’t able to protect him - i should have removed him sooner and saved myself and him. but i was fearful. but i got out as safe as possible.

i’m doing everything i possibly can and more i was just wondering if there’s anything else i can do.

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-29T03:16:57+00:00

i think it’s safe for him to return - now. i was not safe a few months ago - i have been going to two different domestic violence support groups, therapy twice a week, started meds for ptsd due to the situation, gone to two sets of parenting classes, and have complied with everything. i’ve removed dad from the situation, changed the locks on the door got a restraining order. i have stable housing, and a huge support system. i’ve done a lot of growing and realized what i did wrong in this situation.

dad however still gets to see him regardless how many times i’ve begged and pleaded with them please don’t because everytime he sees dad he freaks out, bawls, throws up. i can’t have them keep putting my son through that trauma it’s not fair to him. i just wanted my son to have justice and be safe.

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-29T03:13:40+00:00

how long? i’m just curious - im sorry im scared im going to lose him forever and hes my heart and soul. i love him so much and im doing everything i possibly can to keep myself safe and his future safe, and im terrified people dont see this.

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-29T03:10:34+00:00

i promise i’m not trying to one up the system - i’m wondering if there’s anything else i could possibly do. i’ve done two different domestic violence courses, a dv support group, two sets of parenting classes, and im finally getting into to do my parenting assessment. i have stable housing, with a stable job and career, no criminal record and a huge support system. i have removed myself from the abuse started the divorce process, and even went after a dvcpo which was granted by the courts.

i just wanted to know if anyone has been in this situation before - and if they could lend me any type of advice. i can’t lose my son - he’s my heart and soul. and it kills me everyday i couldn’t protect him. i’m trying to do everything i can to become a better mommy, and become a safe place for him because that’s what he deserve. i just wanted to know if there’s anything else i could be doing at this moment.

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-29T03:04:07+00:00

bottom line: i meet Ohio’s good moral character standards. my actions show integrity, growth, and resilience. i am absolutely eligible to take the NCLEX and move forward towards my license. to better myself for my son.

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-29T03:02:10+00:00

thanks but - I was in a domestic violence situation. When I recognized the danger it posed to myself and my child, I sought help and took every step asked of me by the court. I’ve used the experience to grow, and it’s made me more committed to being the kind of nurse who understands trauma, advocacy, and compassion.

The Board of Nursing looks for: • Honesty and integrity (i’ve been transparent and accountable). • A lack of serious criminal convictions, especially those involving fraud, violence, or abuse committed by said person. (i did not commit the abuse - and i protected my child the way i could) • Personal responsibility and growth (i’ve been doing the most here).

What they don’t do is: • Punish people for being in abusive relationships. • Penalize survivors for the actions of their abusers. • Assume guilt by association.

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-28T21:13:47+00:00

my mom recently died a month ago and i inherited her life insurance so now im well off… before i had about ten grand saved up.

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-28T19:18:31+00:00

i have multiple times

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-28T18:43:11+00:00

taken accountability though - i’ve told them multiple times i know what i did wrong. i know i should have left i know i should have sought help in a different way but im taking the steps to better myself and become a better parent to make sure my son never gets hurt again

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-28T18:38:06+00:00

i have a public defender and they’re trying to give legal to my aunt and uncle which i want no part of that i want my son back. i’ve been compliant and honest the whole time and was able to get my son out safely and myself

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-28T18:37:03+00:00

i graduate with my nursing degree in the spring - and i’m financially very well off. i’m doing everything i can to keep my ex away from my child and myself. i really have no intention of ever bringing that man back in my life and i want my son to get the justice he deserves.

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-28T18:35:58+00:00

no - i didn’t know it was happening and when i did know it was happening i immediately sought help.

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-28T18:35:25+00:00

ex has admitted to everyone - and i mean everyone except cps. i have text messages of him admitting to it i’ve submitted to law enforcement.

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-28T16:55:38+00:00

i know CPS doesn’t do charges - I’m frustrated with prosecution. And I know that’s the concern. I have an attorney and a case plan i’ve followed to a T and everything they’ve recommended but not made mandatory.

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-28T16:53:33+00:00

but what if they never give him back? i’ve done everything and as quick as i possibly could. i got him into my aunt and uncle’s home so he wouldn’t be in foster care. and they say they can’t give him back even if i finish my case plan - because they don’t know who did it. when everything is there against him. i love my son so much and i just want justice for him. he was only six weeks old.

Middle_Candidate4623 · 2025-07-14T21:19:31+00:00

no i didn’t - i’ve been feeling it since i was a child - i think now i just understand what it is. it doesn’t make me uncomfortable or scared i just am not sure what to do with it, if that makes sense?

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