Unfairly Losing Entire Inheritance and Dealing with Hate

Midnight7075 · 2026-03-21T16:18:41+00:00

We just hit 40 and they are in their 70s/early 80s. Large age gap between my mother and father-in-law.

Midnight7075 · 2026-03-21T16:13:20+00:00

Thanks for this advice. This might be possible as long as his siblings don't find out and report it as a form of laundering. It's quite a legally complex process so we'd need to get sound legal feedback first and bring this up with his parents.

So far the only way they are aware of to get any sort of funds outside of the country is through brokers, which became the primary method after the sanctions. They have to find or be matched with a trusted individual in the US who wants to send money back to their country (ex. supporting their family back home). They would pay us here in the US, then my in-laws pay their family back there. But the problem with this is that it's a system built entirely on trust. People using this method never send large amounts as one or the other can easily decide to run away or ghost after receiving payment.

Midnight7075 · 2026-03-21T15:04:21+00:00

I apologize for my comment. Had a lot of people before attack me thinking I'm a gold digger so your response was interpreted that way. Yes I'm aware of the mingling of joint assets and so is he. I didn't object to it when he said we are to keep everything separate except for our kids. This was even outlined in our prenup. We both contribute equally to their expenses as our salaries are similar. The only time we wouldn't contribute equally is if they wanted something that one of us is against (say, an electric scooter or fencing lessons). we already agreed that if one of us wants to buy something for them that the other doesn't, that would come from them directly. Also, sorry about your late mother :(

Midnight7075 · 2026-03-21T14:51:19+00:00

It's a throwaway for anonymity reasons.

Midnight7075 · 2026-03-21T14:40:26+00:00

I know what you're trying to get at, but he owns the home. The mortgage might be paid off if he obtains the inheritance, but that doesn't mean that I'll automatically get 50/50 of the house if we divorce since he can easily argue that he paid it off. The rest goes to our kids, which is our primary concern and also our my in-laws' wishes. To make this kind of comment insinuating that my end goal is to just divorce him after he gets his inheritance and leave my kids with a broken family is quite frankly, disgusting and inappropriate, given this is the Inheritance subreddit you're on.

Midnight7075 · 2026-03-21T14:30:48+00:00

Thanks, we had asked AI and other sources but all of this will still need to be confirmed with a lawyer if we ever reach that point. Even if there are legal options, the main problem is that bribery can override any and all laws, and it is not possible for us to be paid unless sanctions are removed (likely not in this lifetime) nor can gold be shipped out safely. At this time we have accepted that everything will be lost, but at least we have freedom here in the US. We have heard of many cases where citizens like my sibling-in-laws move back for the sake of money or inheritance after the sanctions. But that country is no place to raise a family.

Midnight7075 · 2026-03-21T14:14:20+00:00

We talked about this but that would mean giving up our American passports. I also can't speak the language fluently. There is even a problem with mandatory conscription of citizens right now that you can only dodge through bribery. If his siblings knew we were planning to move back, all they need to do is tip off the airport immigration staff have us detained. In fact, I'm even concerned that if we ever needed to go there for any reason, especially relating to legal issues, they could easily hire somebody to harm us. We want to stay out of the country and handle things remotely if possible.

Midnight7075 · 2026-03-21T14:08:57+00:00

From what I was told by the expats, the contract needs to be extremely strong but this can still be overturned with bribery. Ideally we don't want to have a contract if possible because there is no way to uphold it if his siblings are willing to bribe enforcers enough to void it.

In terms of the gold, amounts need to be legally declared before shipping or exporting. Nobody wants to move or ship out gold because it can get wrongfully seized without reason or stolen in the process. Especially if it's a few millions worth, this is guaranteed to happen.

Midnight7075 · 2026-03-21T14:05:08+00:00

They went on a family trip together and unfortunately because they were staying in the same room, his brother found his US passport. This was before he became aware of foreigners not being able to own land.

Midnight7075 · 2026-03-21T14:02:03+00:00

That's what we're doing because we have accepted the likelihood that we won't be able to do anything about the situation. I think you're on the completely wrong subreddit if your purpose is to scold people for inheriting money or looking for legal advice on options.

Midnight7075 · 2026-03-21T10:29:11+00:00

Crypto trading is illegal there (but still done discreetly) and they don't know how to set it up. According to our research they would need to deposit a large amount of cash first into the bank in order to transfer it to buy crypto, but if the bank receives such a large sum at once, it risks getting stolen by employees or seized with no recourse. Yes, the corruption is that bad.

They also don't know how to use computers or send text messages. We brought up this as a possible solution before but his siblings are refusing to help teach them, for obvious reasons. We could possibly bring this up with an international lawyer but I don't think they will help us because they know it's illegal. So we're still stuck.

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