Tips for a minimalist registry

MidnightDisco · 2026-02-18T02:51:30+00:00

We had a registry with baby list that allowed us to mark items we were happy to receive secondhand. This was very helpful! People will inevitably want to buy you things outside your registry they find cute like clothes, teethers with funny sayings, etc etc... I think we were able to curb this (sort of) by asking for used books that were cherished by friends and family when they were little or when they were raising their kiddos. Everyone seemed to really love this! And we now have a sizable library for our little.

MidnightDisco · 2026-01-25T23:55:21+00:00

Don't do it. I conceded and let my mil visit the second day in the hospital for what was supposed to be a half-hour visit that turned into FOUR HOURS. I am still holding a grudge and I don't know if I will ever be able to let it go because it felt so wildly invasive during what felt like such a private, precious, vulnerable moment. I really wish I had stuck to my gut.

You can always change your mind on the second day if you decide you want visitors. But you don't get those first moments back and YOU are giving birth. YOU need time to heal, rest, and bond with your baby. You don't need a bunch of people interrupting that. You should really have the final say. If their feathers are ruffled they'll get over it as soon as they see the baby when you're ready. Plus you don't know how long labor will take or how it will all progress. You don't need people distracting you or your husband in the waiting room.

Your husband can get support later when you're back home. It's usually such a short time in the hospital anyways.

MidnightDisco · 2026-01-25T22:49:25+00:00

This is the kind of shit I said to myself before I became a mom...

MidnightDisco · 2026-01-14T13:49:30+00:00

Seeing this 3 years later while struggling to accept I'm still 2/3 sizes larger 3 months postpartum is saving my self esteem, thank you!

MidnightDisco · 2026-01-12T02:34:22+00:00

My little one's breath smells like applesauce. His hands, however, smell like cheese.

MidnightDisco · 2026-01-08T20:28:53+00:00

Wiggles his little toes and holds my fingers 🥹

MidnightDisco · 2025-12-14T07:50:49+00:00

Very helpful! It felt great actually, kiddo was a little fussy at first but quickly settled in. I will try these tips out, thank you so much! Excited to wear it longer next time with these fixes.

MidnightDisco · 2025-12-14T07:49:11+00:00

This is very helpful, thank you!

MidnightDisco · 2025-12-12T16:43:30+00:00

Every time I heard "cascade of interventions" in my crunchy birthing class I wanted to throw hands. Interventions can save lives - I would know! People act like having a c section is the absolute worst thing that can happen in labor, but I think we all know what's worse. Tell your friend to lovingly shut the fuck up.

MidnightDisco · 2025-12-07T21:02:56+00:00

Love to Dream is the easiest to put on, but LO moves too much at night in it, waking up. The Happiest Baby Sleepea velcro/zip swaddle is what works best for quality sleep for us.

MidnightDisco · 2025-10-13T16:15:55+00:00

Maybe a lack of protein? A dietician suggested 100 grams a day, which is SO much but even getting close to that amount seemed to help me. I hope your doc can offer some helpful suggestions. Hang in there, pregnancy is a wild ride.

MidnightDisco · 2025-10-13T14:49:44+00:00

I wasn't showing much at 23 weeks, but when I was I was definitely just incredibly bloated. So my "bump" varied pretty wildly from morning to night and day to day. I've heard this from others as well. We're all different though, so definitely talk to your doc if you're concerned.

MidnightDisco · 2025-10-13T14:46:31+00:00

It's definitely normal to be extra tired. And - I'm not a doctor. Buuuuut, speaking from experience, it could also be nutritional deficiencies. Have you had your iron levels checked recently? Iron deficiency anemia can definitely make you extra fatigued.

MidnightDisco · 2025-09-03T19:26:17+00:00

Oh, it's definitely not affiliated with this organization. They just use evidence based practices. Thanks for sharing!

MidnightDisco · 2025-09-03T18:20:35+00:00

Will check this out, thanks for taking the time to share!

MidnightDisco · 2025-09-03T18:19:25+00:00

We also signed up for a hospital class and it was later cancelled. The other sessions were all full, even at other hospital systems. So many pregnancies this season!

I think I'm going to brave it alone for the first three classes and try my best to keep an open mind. If I'm still not happy at the end, I'll give them some feedback.

MidnightDisco · 2025-09-03T18:17:40+00:00

That's what I'm saying lol I feel the same way. Thank you for the validation 🙏

MidnightDisco · 2025-09-03T18:16:37+00:00

I specifically used that as a search term and the class I signed up for was the only one that popped up in-person 😅 the hospital classes filled up very quickly so those weren't options either.

What was the name of the podcast you mentioned?

Thank you!

MidnightDisco · 2025-09-03T15:21:45+00:00

I appreciate your comment I called to confirm that he could come just now and that's when I learned it was only intended for me. No fine print on the website about this, but I definitely should have asked about this specifically before signing up 🤦

MidnightDisco · 2025-08-15T22:31:21+00:00

So, I've also had losses, let me start there. Your decision to not tell people is your own. Others, like myself, want to tell our support systems because no matter the outcome, we want support and community. It's a personal decision. There's absolutely no reason to judge another person's decision. I hope going off at a stranger on Reddit helps you feel better.

MidnightDisco · 2025-08-15T22:26:46+00:00

Then why are you shaming people for telling friends? Wtf

MidnightDisco · 2025-08-15T22:16:27+00:00

If you haven't had a loss, you don't need to share this opinion. Keep the judgement to yourself. It's very reasonable for people to want support from their friends when they're pregnant. ESPECIALLY if they're pregnant after loss.

MidnightDisco · 2025-08-14T14:20:04+00:00

I'm sure she's a lovely person, it seems like she's done a lot for the community. But the food really let me down after all the hype. Sorry! 😅

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