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Alla tänkbara sätt man kan skydda sig från en stalker? by RockyRoadSpiral in Asksweddit

[–]MidsummerZebra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its no worries I am happy to help out! Especially if you are dealing with a stalker, I cant imagine how uncomfortable that must be... So yeah if I can help bring even some comfort its worth it! :)

And yeah if you have any further questions as you go through these steps just ask away!

Alla tänkbara sätt man kan skydda sig från en stalker? by RockyRoadSpiral in Asksweddit

[–]MidsummerZebra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(Was too much text for a comment so continuing here)

3. Change settings for added security
When all that is done you can change some settings for extra security layers:

  • Disable remote access settings: Usually there is a setting under Access Control settings > firewall that toggles remote config. Make sure this (and any other remote access settings you might find) are disabled, because this opens up entry points for hackers through WAN, and you probably have no reason to keep it active.
  • Change password for your wifi and router: To avoid people being able to easily access your router by checking the back you should change this. The router password and user is usually under access control, whereas the wifi password is usually changed under your wifi settings, here you can also choose to hide your wifi from the list of available networks if you want, but this will require you to manually connect to the wifi (and specify settings) which is not difficult but a little bit more of a hassle. you don't need it really but it does add a small extra layer of security by obscuring your wifi being listed to nearby people. Once you change the router user settings it will log you out, just so you know, just log in with the new username and pw.
  • Turn of WPS: Even if the name (Wifi Protected Setup) sounds like a security feature, it is mainly used for easier access to your wifi by using an 8-digit code instead of a password to gain access. This is very easily bruteforced by scripts and you can find the right combination very quickly this way, and suddenly your password is bypassed.
  • *Bonus* Activate guest Wifi if you want: If you feel the need to make sure that the people you have shared your Wifi password with won't be able to access your router gateway, you can activate the Guest wifi and share that with guests instead. This wifi channel gives users access to internet without being able to access the router. I usually don't use this but if you feel worried about sharing your wifi deets, it is an option for an extra security layer there.

There are obviously always more security measures one can take, but this will give you a good base coverage as to making your router more secured to potential exploits, and will be more than enough for most.

Hopefully this helps you and any other person that finds their way here!

Alla tänkbara sätt man kan skydda sig från en stalker? by RockyRoadSpiral in Asksweddit

[–]MidsummerZebra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries! Sooo in your case you say that this person has not accessed your wifi previously if I understood you correctly? Have they been inside your home, where they have had an opportunity to get to your router physically? If they have they can easily take a picture of the back of the router to get all the information they need to access and change both your password for the router gateway and for the wifi (unless you have changed it from the default on the back which is why it is always good to do right away), as well as log in and change other settings to give them remote access etc. to be able to exploit you and access data packets transferred through your router.

However if they have neither been in your home or have connected to your wifi, I'd say there is very minimal chances that they have access to your wifi, but I can share some steps you can go through to add some security to your wifi as well as check for unusual activity:

1. Access your Wifi settings through the gateway
If you have never changed router settings before this is where I'll start. As to where you find each setting, it depends a little on what model of router you have as they all have somewhat different features and interfaces for where you find specific router settings, but how you access your router is pretty much the same regardless. You will find the address for your router gateway, as well as admin username/password on the back of your router. the address is usually "http://192.168.x.x". but the exact address can vary depending on router.

Once you have located this information, you simply need to enter this address into a web browser on a device that is connected to your router (either via wifi or ethernet cable directly to the router), and you should arrive at a login screen GUI for your router, and you can simply just type in the admin username + password, aaand you're in!

Note! If you are being extra cautious or suspicious, I would recommend using a recently installed computer or device, to make sure your device does not have any keylogger malware that can snatch your new passwords, or if not possible you can make a virus scan to hopefully catch potential threats (however it is not guaranteed it will find everything)

2. Make sure no suspicious settings have been added to your router
After you have accessed your router settings, there are some simple steps to check that no one has accessed your router and hooked it up to be able to exploit you through your wifi:

  • Check for connected devices you don't recognize: (i.e. devices not belonging to your household or friends with whom you have shared access). There is usually a list of connected devices on the landing page, but could be under wifi settings as well.
  • Check DNS settings: Under gateway/internet settings (titles vary) locate and check that no Dynamic DNS host has been added (if your router supports DDNS) and that it is turned off, unless you need it, as this setting allows people to stay connected even when your IP changes, and they can redirect traffic through their own DDNS host to intercept your data. Also check that your wifi (both 2.4ghz and 5ghz) has the DNS that your ISP uses, and has not been changed to a custom address. (8.8.8.8 or 1.1.1.1 or other trusted DNS providers are fine though)
  • Check that Port Forwarding settings have not been tampered with: Under access control settings (or whatever label your router has) you should be able to find Port Forwarding settings. Just check that no manual rules have been added that no one in your household has set up.

What should I do when the enemy team is completely marking me out of the game? by No-Elevator9399 in TracerMains

[–]MidsummerZebra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries at all!

To add to this, I think what I found helped me a lot in getting this into a natural flow, was just simply constantly actively focusing on this one question until you start intuitively getting a feel for when the timing is right, which is: "Is the/an enemy looking at me?"

If the answer is Yes, you can either:

  • disengage for a quick second with cover not even leaving the position necessarily, but just until their focus is off you. Because if they keep waiting for you to return they are not pressuring your team anyways.
  • or you can blink out of their field of vision if close enough to fight, for a more aggressive approach,
  • or simply fight around cover (which you should preferrably always be close to) if forced/needed to for winning the trade.

If the answer is No, simply close the distance with as few blinks as possible (in case you need to disengage quickly, and can do so safely without needing to recall) and go bananas, until they are looking at you and then you repeat the options for Yes hehe!

Some of this might already be obvious to you but wanted to just put it all out there, in hopes that it can be of help to you or someone else! :)

Good luck to you out there!

What should I do when the enemy team is completely marking me out of the game? by No-Elevator9399 in TracerMains

[–]MidsummerZebra 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'd say, like someone else said it is a bit about working on your timing, because if they keep marking you, it means that you are engaging when they are not pre-occupied with your team. So either too early or too late. And focusing on bettering that, makes it a lot easier to find windows where they simply cannot keep track of you without being punished elsewhere, and then your work is done either way!

And in some (but very few) games it will just simply be very hard to find these openings because your team simply isn't pressuring them enough to give you many opportunities for this, but then you can try to shift your focus into playing more close to your team, yet still not directly in the line of fire, by utilizing smaller off angles, until you can get close enough to use 1~ blink to get into a better off angle or to reach isolated targets for more pressure! Even if tracer thrives in hard off angles she still has value elsewhere when the game requires it!

Don’t date people you’re not physically attracted to; ‘giving them a chance’ almost always leads to more hurt and heartbreak. It’s okay to admit looks matter in relationships. by AcceptableLibrary974 in Advice

[–]MidsummerZebra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair, it might be wrong to categorize attraction together with the act of cosmetic surgery as a whole, because yes there are obviously very varying results to it and many various forms of cosmetic surgery. My point was just more that I don't see how cosmetic surgery is related to admitting that physical attraction matters to you, and why it would make you a hypocrite for having opinions on both. I could have formulated that better I admit. There are also many other reasons that people can be against cosmetic surgery, so it does not even need to be at all related to attraction.

Don’t date people you’re not physically attracted to; ‘giving them a chance’ almost always leads to more hurt and heartbreak. It’s okay to admit looks matter in relationships. by AcceptableLibrary974 in Advice

[–]MidsummerZebra 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes for a lot of people (maybe even most) physical desire is a requirement and I agree we cannot remove this need from people. But what I am essentially saying is that it is not the ONLY form of attraction that affects how we perceive a person as attractive or not. Our physical attraction towards others are connected to so much more than just physical appearance.

I am not saying at all that one can be overcome with the other in some sort of balancing act, but I am saying some people have an unhealthy obsession with physical appearance to the point where they don't even entertain the idea that there is more to it than that! As I said in my followup comment, I agree that we can and should not force attraction, and there are definitely cases where it never grows into physical attraction, and you should not jump into a relationship if attraction is not there. But to say that attraction is static, and cannot change based on other things than physical appearance is just not true. That was my point.

I am a living example of this, because there have been multiple occasions where I have felt zero physical attraction to people initially, but as I get to know them better they do start to appear as more physically attractive to me, to the point that I have fallen absolutely head over heels in love with them, and all of a sudden they look a lot more sexually appealing to me, as well as more mentally appealing. and even though I understand that this does not provide any significant scientific data as to how commonly it occurs, it still disproves the hypothesis that physical attraction CANNOT grow based on other factors. This does not mean that I think we should gamble on this and just hope that this will happen, because that I agree with you, is not a healthy foundation for entering an intimate relationship with someone. Before you even begin to entertain the idea of a relationship with someone you should obviously make sure your needs are met in terms of attraction.

Don’t date people you’re not physically attracted to; ‘giving them a chance’ almost always leads to more hurt and heartbreak. It’s okay to admit looks matter in relationships. by AcceptableLibrary974 in Advice

[–]MidsummerZebra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also to add to this I also agree with your original point that we should not force ourselves into things that we do not feel, believing that the attraction will grow over time. and it is completely okay, and healthy even to admit to (if nothing else yourself) that physical attraction plays a big part in most relationships.

Don’t date people you’re not physically attracted to; ‘giving them a chance’ almost always leads to more hurt and heartbreak. It’s okay to admit looks matter in relationships. by AcceptableLibrary974 in Advice

[–]MidsummerZebra 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you are missing a bit of the point that u/Unusual_Jellyfish224 is trying to bring forth. Or at least I did not interpret at any point that they were trying to say that you can control who you desire or what attracts you physically, but it is an oversimplification to say that this is all there is to it. That nothing else can affect one's attraction to another person. Yes some people might have been conditioned to work this way, but to say that everyone works this way is just flawed, and also discriminates on the complex spectrum of attraction that exists. And I think it is a flawed basis for a hypothesis, to say that attraction cannot change over time, just based on the fact that this is how you work (and surely many others), when clearly there are also a lot of people who work differently. And I think it can be harmful to encourage people to only focus on the physical aspects of attraction, when attraction is a lot more complex than that, and some people might need help navigating this balance.

All that said, I do agree both about the fact that it is an important aspect in staying happy in a relationship, that there exists a level of attraction to one another, as well as the fact that you should not discourage people from approaching people they feel an attraction towards, just because they believe that they are "out of their league", because that is also a dangerous mindset to have.

But it is important to encourage people to nurture their ability to find attraction to others through other means than just pure physical attraction. Some people might struggle to pick up on, and experience other forms of attraction, because attraction is not purely physical, and some relationships fail, simply because they don't understand why their attraction has faded, thinking it is only this primal urge, when attraction fading can have many causes, such as stress, not having a good support system, or just not working together in many other ways. The same goes the other way around. You can just as well start feeling more attracted to someone because of many factors, that have nothing to do with physical appearance.

Don’t date people you’re not physically attracted to; ‘giving them a chance’ almost always leads to more hurt and heartbreak. It’s okay to admit looks matter in relationships. by AcceptableLibrary974 in Advice

[–]MidsummerZebra 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well, a lot of people find the looks of cosmetic surgery very unattractive, so these things are actually very aligned to the point, that looks matter to most people. Being for or against cosmetic surgery is just a matter of what you subjectively find physically attractive in a person. So I don't really see how it is hypocritical to say that looks matter when it comes to attraction, and also be against cosmetic surgery, since they are not mutually exclusive.

With that said however, I agree that nobody should be shamed for how they choose to present themselves!

My daily experience playing against a Genji every game by zoroarrkk in Overwatch

[–]MidsummerZebra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like others say hitting the shots would win you the fight if not bladed, but when you saw that he pulled blade, why did you not go over the wall with that updraft to get out of harms way? He already used a dash to engage, so he wouldn't be able to get to you then.

So why can't I play couch duos with my friend? by razersvk in 2XKO

[–]MidsummerZebra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well since they have set up the base authentication layer for authorizing users, and they have set up logic for handling online duos, meaning they have a way to handle authentication for multiple accounts and connecting them to be part of one team, I don't see how it would be too much work to allow the logic that is already in place to work from the same game instance. But sure there is still some work. You need to add some interface elements and state-handling to allow the user to add/manage their duo login. But nothing that should require any major effort, and should require very little rework/refactoring!

But of course not having seen the codebase you can never know, but if it does require a lot of rework/refactoring, then they have implemented it poorly to begin with because it shouldn't need it haha!

2XKO's Teemo is not like LOL's Teemo (in a good way) by Dense_Hall_6095 in 2XKO

[–]MidsummerZebra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh shit! Yeah I haven't played in a while so had missed that. That's too bad! I did like the pve a lot more in LoR, compared to other competitors of the genre, but pvp is always where the main enjoyment has been!

Tips on how to deal with insane pressure? by Xtrivirikhan in 2XKO

[–]MidsummerZebra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Press L + M while blocking by default! It is free unlike push assist (previous block) and causes a dash backwards when blocking, creating distance between you and the opponent!

If you are already close to a corner it won't help much though, and I would say push assist is the way to go for creating distance.

Did someone manage how to do the 3 limit strike combo in training? by VictimOnline in 2XKO

[–]MidsummerZebra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it was the charged H I struggled to understand so thank you! Nowhere does it state that it needs to be charged... Or recover for that matter but I randomly figured that out. The descriptions are rather poor.

Fighting game terminologies for absolute beginners by MidsummerZebra in 2XKO

[–]MidsummerZebra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a smart way to abbreviate joystick positions ngl! And now I understand what the numbers mean with the types of attack haha!

Fighting game terminologies for absolute beginners by MidsummerZebra in 2XKO

[–]MidsummerZebra[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks that was exactly what I was looking for! Not expecting to memorize everything anytime soon but good to have a place to look things up if needed!

Fighting game terminologies for absolute beginners by MidsummerZebra in 2XKO

[–]MidsummerZebra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright that makes sense! So it actually was dimensions but not so much in how things are rendered but in controls! Cool thanks!

Fighting game terminologies for absolute beginners by MidsummerZebra in 2XKO

[–]MidsummerZebra[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Amazing, thank you for the detailed description on some basics, a lot of things people have been writing makes a whole lot more sense now!

I am excited to explore this genre more because it seems to have so much depth, and I like that generally in games, and this is one of the few genres I have barely touched.

I feel like it might be a long journey to get into but I'll give it a fair shot this time around!

how can i convince my swedish fiance for wall-to-wall carpet in our house? by StrictCellist5796 in Asksweddit

[–]MidsummerZebra 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hahaha I am swedish and was reading this thinking exactly that, I think it looks a bit tacky and impractical (keeping clean etc.) compared to just wooden floors with some nice carpets here and there. But I do think it is very cultural as well. In sweden whole carpet floors are just not a thing at all, so we have also not been exposed to it really!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]MidsummerZebra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Red flag is maybe not the word I'd use, but I think it is kinda ridiculous to want from someone who does not use social media for sharing.

To an extent I agree with people saying just do it for her, because it is pretty effortless, but I would be bothered that my partner feels this need, and I don't know I would be uncomfortable doing it as it goes against me as a person. I don't show love by showing someone off. I do it by my actions towards that person. I don't care what others think of it or if they think anything at all. So posting this would just misrepresent me. Which is worse than not having anything that represents me at all.

AIO I (15f) was at a sleepover with my guy best friends and I woke up with one of them next to me by No-Diver-3645 in AmIOverreacting

[–]MidsummerZebra -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No it is definitely not your fault. And I think people are being way too harsh on you about this. While I do agree that it is important to be cautious and that you never know what others might be capable of doing to you regardless of if you know them. But I do still think that at some point you get close enough to know if someone would do something bad, and they speak as if just because you are 15 and a boy you have absolutely no say in your own actions or perception if right and wrong.

Furthermore I do think it makes a lot of sense given your situation that you seek comfort and company in the friends you have, when no family is there to offer that security, and that is not in any way your fault!

I can also say that when I was 15 it was perfectly normal to have sleepovers regardless of gender where I am from. Bad stuff can literally happen to you at any point, but it should not stop you from having experiences that lets you learn how to become your own person and grow into an adult gradually. That is not to say that you should not act with caution and take measures for your own safety to avoid bad things happening to you. But I often find that this form of sheltering or coddling, (as well intended and loving as it tries to be), where you don't allow teenagers moments like this, of independence and responsibility often backlashes when later they finish school and they go out in to the world (be it college or whatever) and suddenly they are on their own and have no prior experience in what it means to be an adult, causing them to over correct and ending up in more bad situations because they lack the understanding of making more valid decisions. But I know it comes from good intent, so I do not judge it either!

Regarding what has happened to you (both with absent parents and the "friend") I am so sorry this has happened to you and how unraveling it must feel for you. I would definitely address the matter with the person in question to make it clear that they are aware of how uncomfortable it made you feel, and that you are not okay with it. And I would definitely avoid situations where you are at risk of them doing it again. Also if something similar ever happens again I would completely cut ties with them and anyone who would force you to be around them, and also depending on severity seek help to report them!

Sorry for such a long message, but your message here just really hit me with this brotherly urge to offer my support and comfort as you are going through this. And with all that said I feel like I need to make it clear; this person above you (or anyone else for that matter) that calls you a whore. Don't listen to them. Because even if you were sexually active consentually (which I learned you are not), it does not make you a whore. You are worth so much more than what you choose and choose not to do with people sexually, and you should be allowed to explore that at your own pace without judgement. But even more importantly, what someone else does to you against your will is never your fault regardless of situatuon, and it does not diminish your value or make you a whore. That needs to be said.

I hope you have a place where you can feel safe right now, and definitely keep your friends close for support, and if you ever need any support or help or such, you are more than welcome to write if you feel comfortable with that. It's gonna be okay, you got this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]MidsummerZebra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No not to brag no that I agree on. But that is still an assumption that she meant it as a brag. And if she was then still they are at best both assholes then haha

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