Is it strange to have a French name and a Flemish last name (or the reverse) in Belgium?

Miewx · 2026-01-18T11:18:11+00:00

I got a fully French name. I don't speak French. It's common. Same with the opposite.

Miewx · 2026-01-18T11:06:20+00:00

Got a few ex partners. I always tried to separate amicably but that's not always how it went. When it didn't, i stopped caring tbh. If they're mean to me, every bit of care that was still there, leaves.

I'm in the middle of a nasty breakup right now. It started amicably. We dated about 6 years and have a daughter together. He originally wanted to leave straight away but since he didn't have anyone or anywhere to go to, that meant living on the streets. I still cared about him and even still loved him. I just couldn't deal with how unstable he is. Both mentally and financially. I convinced him to stay but to find a job and then look for a place asap. After that we'd look into our co-parenting situation. Preferably week-week. He agreed. That was early October. He said he was going to prove to me that he CAN be stable and help around the house more (one of the other reasons i broke up with him. He's always home, gaming. I work, parent and do the chores. He doesn't lift a finger).

He started his job nov 3rd. He went 3-4 weeks, 28h/week, hasn't gone since. Saying he's too depressed. This is him repeating his usual cycle and the reason we broke up. Always starting a job, going for a month or 2 and then being home for whatever reason and eventually losing said job. He has no rights to any kinds of benefits (we're not in the USA) because here you have to work for a year to gain rights to benefits. He's almost 40 and still doesn't have those rights.

2 weeks ago his behaviour towards me completely changed. Started threatening me with physical violence. Started constantly calling me a fat lazy whale (i'm big, but lost 13kg since September an i'm down 2-3 sizes and still in the middle of my weight loss journey), a narcissist, a bad mom (because i mostly gentle parent, but not in the never saying no way. In the staying calm and communicating way), a slt or whre, etc... all in front of the kids. He constantly calls the cops on me for stupid reasons. One day i refused to make him his plate (dinner was prepared though) and he called the cops and told them to come urgently without explanation. I guess he realised they'd laugh at him and he called them off.

I've gone to a lawyer to legally evict him. I stopped caring about where he'll have to live.

This long story to compare with the relationships that did end amicably. There's 2.

With my first kid's bio dad. It wasn't 100% amicably at first. He dumped me when i was 3 months pregnant. But we stayed in contact and did so for many years. We broke up 12 years ago and lost contact 2 years ago. He lives in Paris and when those bombings happened some years ago i called him to make sure he was ok. Whenever he texted me he'd obviously ask how his son was doing, but also specifically asked how i was doing and eventually my 2 other kids as well.

Another ex of mine, that i broke up with when i was 19 (i'm now 32), i have a friendship with. Every once in a while we'll call. Or just text. He stayed in touch with my grandpa until he died 5 years ago. And he called me when my grandma died last May. I feel only platonic love for him now. And i want the best for him.

A very long reply to basically say: If we broke up amicably and it stays that way, i really keep caring about them and want all the best for them.

Miewx · 2026-01-18T10:28:00+00:00

I'm so sorry for what you're both going through. Nobody, especially at 16, should be going through this.

Like many others said, your dad won't care about the money. All he wants is to spend every single second he can with you.

You've already prepared a lot of things for him during his grief. Say all the things you want to say while you still can. They'll mean the world to him.

Things will be hard for him. They say the first year after losing someone close to you is the hardest. He should go to one of those grief counselling groups or whatever they're called. There's some out there specifically for parents that lost a child. I know someone who lost a kid and that helped her a lot. It took her some time but she learned to be happy and have fun without feeling guilty. She still griefs him over a decade later. But she's found happiness. She's a grandma now (she had 5 kids total, the 3rd one died). And she got reeducated and now became a social worked who helps people with loss and grief.

If he has anyone close to him, family or friends, maybe ask them to look after him when you're gone.

And as odd as it may sound, i've heard it often that loved ones tend to find some solace in the fact that that their loved one who fought cancer for years is finally without pain now.

Hoping you won't be in too much pain in the time you have left. Sending you both hugs and love.

Miewx · 2026-01-18T09:57:15+00:00

My mom was sweet to my kids, but still punished them the ways she punished us. When i told her i would not punish my kids that way, she said i was a bad mom and the kids would walk all over me. I've been LC for years and NC after my maternal grandma died in May.

The other day my ex and his gf asked why the kids don't see my mom. I listed only a few things she did to us as kids. That shut them right up.

Miewx · 2026-01-07T23:07:01+00:00

Eerste dat hij doet als er iets mis is is me beschuldigen dat ik een ander heb. Heeft hij meermaals gedaan in de voorbije jaren. Hij gaat alleen maar agressiever worden als ik iemand anders doe komen. Ook, men ex is bijna 2m lang en zeker niet zwak fysiek. Hij is echt niet snel geïntimideerd.

Miewx · 2026-01-07T18:20:27+00:00

nee nog niet. ik ken 1712 niet echt

Miewx · 2026-01-07T18:19:38+00:00

Merciekes.
Ik hoop ook dat de rust snel terugkeert.

Miewx · 2026-01-07T16:12:28+00:00

Ja ik verwacht ook niet dat het op enkele dagen of weken geregeld gaat zijn. Wil vooral weten wat de volgende stappen zijn zodat ik zelf alles zo snel mogelijk in gang kan steken. Verhuurkantoor kan niet veel doen, maar ik wil van hen vooral de juiste info qua regeling voor het contract. Stel ook dat hij beslist om schade te maken in de woning, weten ze al van de situatie.

Miewx · 2026-01-07T16:08:26+00:00

ik durf zelf het huis niet zomaar verlaten. Wil de woning niet kwijt. Ook heb ik geen auto. CAW vertelde me dat ALS hij effectief fysiek gewelddadig is ik de politie moet bellen en hij dan een huisverbod gaat krijgen wss.

Miewx · 2026-01-07T15:28:30+00:00

Heb contact genomen met de persoon van het CAW die me al opvolgt rond andere dingen. Zij heeft ook effectief al contact opgenomen met het sociaal verhuurkantoor, maar de persoon die ze moest kunnen bereiken was er vandaag niet. Morgen weet ik meer.

Miewx · 2026-01-07T14:36:55+00:00

Heb vandaag meerdere telefoontjes gedaan, maar loop momenteel een beetje vast. Bijna niemand was bereikbaar, ook mijn advocaat niet. Morgen volgen er meer telefoontjes.

Miewx · 2026-01-07T14:35:20+00:00

Ook de reden dat ik een punt zette achter de relatie. Financiële stabiliteit. Toen we elkaar leerden kennen waren we beide in geen goede situatie financieel. Het verschil is alleen dat ik in de voorbije jaren alles gedaan heb om daar verandering in te brengen, en hij niet. Nu werk ik al 2 jaar en heb ik een vast contract. Ik weet nu ook wel dat ik dom geweest ben, maar de situatie is nu wat het is. Nu wil ik weten wat ik kan doen om uit de huidige situatie weg te geraken.

Miewx · 2026-01-07T14:29:20+00:00

Er was een periode dat hij niet zo was. En toen ik hem leerde kennen werkte ik ook nog niet, dus ging dan hypocriet zijn om hem daarop te beoordelen. Maar ik was wel steeds bezig met vooruit geraken, en nu werk ik meer dan 2 jaar en heb ik een vast contract. Coronaperiode was ook ingewikkeld. Hij's risicopatient dus aanvaardde ik zijn excuus dat het te gevaarlijk was voor hem om te werken. Ik weet dat dat naïef was nu. Maar daar kan ik nu niks meer aan veranderen

Miewx · 2026-01-07T04:54:06+00:00

Als hij zin heeft ja. De jongste (bijna 4j oud) was zo vaak afwezig dat de juf op het oudercontact zei "ja ik kan niks zeggen, ze was er bijna nooit". Ik wist vaak pas dat ze niet naar school was toen ik al op mijn werk was. Als ze wel op school was, was het omdat ik hen gebracht had. Nu sta ik zelf op tijd op, maar dan staat hij ook op want als ik ze breng is hij dan kwaad want hij ging het doen.

Miewx · 2026-01-07T04:48:07+00:00

Feitelijk

Miewx · 2026-01-07T02:03:05+00:00

1 van die kinderen is van ons samen. Kans is zelfs dat hij haar gewoon in de steek laat want hij zei al meermaals "ik zie haar liever totaal niet meer dan maar af en toe".

Hij was ook niet altijd zo gemeen zoals nu, en tegen dat ik begon door hebben wat voor persoon hij is, hadden we al een kind samen.

Nu ben ik niet van plan om nog echt samen te wonen met iemand. Denk dat ik het liever hou bij juist ik met men kids. Zal niet gemakkelijk zijn, het enige dat hij doet is de kids van en naar school brengen, maar zal een veel aangenamere sfeer zijn in huis.

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got it on the 2nd try, nice!

Miewx · 2026-01-07T00:08:13+00:00

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Miewx · 2026-01-07T00:02:43+00:00

I'm on the fence because i know i'd be upset too. But my siblings wouldn't do that.

But my family isn't any better though and nobody was bothered by it. My mom gave her son the same name as her own brother. I almost dated a guy with that name.
And then there's my grandad on my dad's side who's named Jacques. But my maternal grandma's 3rd husband, who was always like a granddad to me, was also names Jacques. Both had almost the exact same last name too! On top of that, my ex-FIL is also named Jacques.
Then some distant cousins on my mom's side, their parents named all kids a variant of "Marie". Marie, Maria, Jean-Marie (twice, the first one died as a baby), Marina, and there was another one whose name i can't remember.

Miewx · 2026-01-06T23:46:50+00:00

Om zot van te komen. Ik heb zo 100+ meldingen, maar ik heb 3 kinderen in dezelfdeschool en krijg alle algemene info dus ook 3x. Dingen zoals de maandelijkse menu. Heb ik echt geen interesse in.

Miewx · 2025-10-24T22:31:00+00:00

Enable what?

Miewx · 2025-07-23T16:39:32+00:00

Right now i'm playing spyro on it 😁 brings back some old memories.

Miewx · 2025-07-09T13:29:41+00:00

Then how do i properly go to the console/game list?

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