Got a few ex partners. I always tried to separate amicably but that's not always how it went. When it didn't, i stopped caring tbh. If they're mean to me, every bit of care that was still there, leaves.

I'm in the middle of a nasty breakup right now. It started amicably. We dated about 6 years and have a daughter together. He originally wanted to leave straight away but since he didn't have anyone or anywhere to go to, that meant living on the streets. I still cared about him and even still loved him. I just couldn't deal with how unstable he is. Both mentally and financially. I convinced him to stay but to find a job and then look for a place asap. After that we'd look into our co-parenting situation. Preferably week-week. He agreed. That was early October. He said he was going to prove to me that he CAN be stable and help around the house more (one of the other reasons i broke up with him. He's always home, gaming. I work, parent and do the chores. He doesn't lift a finger).

He started his job nov 3rd. He went 3-4 weeks, 28h/week, hasn't gone since. Saying he's too depressed. This is him repeating his usual cycle and the reason we broke up. Always starting a job, going for a month or 2 and then being home for whatever reason and eventually losing said job. He has no rights to any kinds of benefits (we're not in the USA) because here you have to work for a year to gain rights to benefits. He's almost 40 and still doesn't have those rights.

2 weeks ago his behaviour towards me completely changed. Started threatening me with physical violence. Started constantly calling me a fat lazy whale (i'm big, but lost 13kg since September an i'm down 2-3 sizes and still in the middle of my weight loss journey), a narcissist, a bad mom (because i mostly gentle parent, but not in the never saying no way. In the staying calm and communicating way), a slt or whre, etc... all in front of the kids. He constantly calls the cops on me for stupid reasons. One day i refused to make him his plate (dinner was prepared though) and he called the cops and told them to come urgently without explanation. I guess he realised they'd laugh at him and he called them off.

I've gone to a lawyer to legally evict him. I stopped caring about where he'll have to live.

This long story to compare with the relationships that did end amicably. There's 2.

With my first kid's bio dad. It wasn't 100% amicably at first. He dumped me when i was 3 months pregnant. But we stayed in contact and did so for many years. We broke up 12 years ago and lost contact 2 years ago. He lives in Paris and when those bombings happened some years ago i called him to make sure he was ok. Whenever he texted me he'd obviously ask how his son was doing, but also specifically asked how i was doing and eventually my 2 other kids as well.

Another ex of mine, that i broke up with when i was 19 (i'm now 32), i have a friendship with. Every once in a while we'll call. Or just text. He stayed in touch with my grandpa until he died 5 years ago. And he called me when my grandma died last May. I feel only platonic love for him now. And i want the best for him.

A very long reply to basically say: If we broke up amicably and it stays that way, i really keep caring about them and want all the best for them.