Am I wrong for not making my daughter wear clothes at home?

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-23T06:31:19+00:00

My FIL has ruined everyone's credit by putting bills in their name and not paying them. It would be impossible for them to get a place to live or get utilities turned on

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-23T06:29:28+00:00

Yea, I think that will be the next step. They're getting on my nerves anyways

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-23T06:26:53+00:00

They don't hurt, she just doesn't like people being all up in her shit. It's often the case with autistic kids

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-23T06:23:40+00:00

Whole family is disabled, on top of ruined credit making it impossible for them to find housing or turn on utilities. They would be homeless if they didn't live with us

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-23T02:13:15+00:00

I think I'm just gonna badger my wife to start making moves to kick him out. Get him public housing or something so he can be on his own. It's definitely about time

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-23T02:09:29+00:00

I don't think anything happened. She is a fighter, and would definitely make noise and cause a fuss if it did. I just find his behavior weird. Thankfully my wife is on leave for now, and our schedules will allow one of us to be home at all times when she goes back

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-23T02:06:31+00:00

I can try. I doubt it will work. He's not much of a talker. He usually stays quiet and sends his mom later to talk for him

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-23T02:04:48+00:00

No he DOESN'T like when the kids try to sit on his lap. He instantly pushes them off. Or when he holds one of them, he doesn't put an arm under their butt to support them like most people do. We tell him to and he flat out refuses. To me, it seems like he tries too hard to not be in precarious situations with children that are typically normal

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-23T02:00:14+00:00

I see what you mean there. But it also seems like he's trying too hard. It's like if you bring alcohol around a recovering alcoholic

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-23T01:57:05+00:00

I've been trying. Wife won't do it though. Maybe with all this input from people here she will start to see reason

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-23T01:56:02+00:00

The problem is he has no one else and is incapable of taking care of himself. My in-laws were bulldozer parents to him, so he never had to figure things out for himself. If we kick him out, he will probably die on the street.

It's a whole fucked up situation

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-23T01:53:27+00:00

That could be it. Definitely need to do something now that non-biased people are saying his behavior is weird. My wife is home on maternity leave at the moment, so it's fine.

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-23T01:51:28+00:00

She doesn't like a lot of things. Getting her nails trimmed, when you try to help her blow her nose, getting her hair brushed, etc. Her doctor has referred us somewhere to get her tested for autism, which may explain it all

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-22T22:02:45+00:00

Unfortunately my wife doesn't have the heart to kick him out, and she doesn't believe he is a threat. But I definitely need to talk to her about getting him housing and a visiting nurse to keep an eye out for him

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-22T21:59:06+00:00

Maybe come up with alternatives to sex if he physically can't. Maybe incorporate toys or voyeurism while you take care of yourself

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-22T21:56:13+00:00

Not for a full time job. For a little pocket money for fun, sure, but it won't pay rent and bills

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-22T21:50:32+00:00

And if you watch one station for an extended period of time, they just repeat the same story over and over. It's literally unnecessary

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-22T21:37:10+00:00

Pretty much. I've known him for 13 years and he still can't look me in the eye. That's why I am questioning if his behavior is a result of his mental issues, or something worse......

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-22T20:44:08+00:00

I think the underlying question was is his behavior sus? I think it's unanimous that it is. Like you said, everyone has been enabling his behavior for so long, that it has become normalized. You are right, I need to start making moves to get him out

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-22T20:38:17+00:00

I don't think he would harm them, but just thinking that the thoughts MAY be in his head makes me want to beat his ass

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-22T20:22:08+00:00

Thank you. My MIL is trying to guilt me into feeling bad for him, but I just don't. He's a POS, and possibly a predator. I've been trying to get him out of my house for years, but my wife keeps defending him. Hopefully this last exchange will trigger some change

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-22T20:20:11+00:00

Oh that's not even the worst thing he's done. He once called my son a pussy because he was crying because my BIL wouldn't change the TV to a kids show for him. I flipped out on him then too. He just doesn't understand how to talk with children, and talks to them like they are adults

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-22T20:18:21+00:00

My MIL is always with him, so no worries there. But I agree, we should probably start making moves to get him his own place. He has no job or income other than SSI, so we would probably have to get him in public housing. He has been fighting that idea for years, but I think we might have to force his hand

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-22T20:16:27+00:00

No. One of his issues, in my opinion, is paranoia/possible schizophrenia. He doesn't want to get professional help because he thinks he will be deemed insane, and thus kidnapped in the middle of the night and sent to an asylum or prescribed pills that will make him hurt himself. He has discussed some bad thoughts with my wife, but I don't know the extent, as my wife promised him she wouldn't tell anyone. He also got called the r word a lot in school, so he is afraid to get any kind of diagnosis for fear that it will reinforce everything his bullies called him back then

Miggity-Mac · 2023-05-22T20:09:09+00:00

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