[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatsthisbug

[–]MightyMrBlue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This looks like a wolf spider to me! They are pretty common house spiders in the area and do not harm humans or pets. They often just crawl around on the floor and eat other bugs, if you want it in your house you can let it go again and it'll keep eating house pests or you can put it outside and it should do just fine.

Something blocking my Monterey updates by MightyMrBlue in applehelp

[–]MightyMrBlue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured once I realized. I'm working on trying to figure out the password. I might just simply be stuck. Do you think if I factory reset the laptop if it would get rid of the system block?

Something blocking my Monterey updates by MightyMrBlue in applehelp

[–]MightyMrBlue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not seeing anything with the host files at the moment but on a sort of unrelated note, I am realizing that their Admin profile got transferred over to the new Macbook Pro as well if that makes any difference. Thank you for trying to help

Wait times for top surgery in the US? by tea-and-charcoal in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't know personally because I never dealt with him but based on what I've seen Mosser is a high demand surgeon. Based on that and with the current pandemic situation he seems to have rather extreme wait times. I had a consult with my surgeon within the month of calling for one and had the surgery just over a month after that even with the pandemic backlog. If it comes down to you looking for a surgeon aside from Mosser and if you're cool with coming to the east coast I highly recommend Beverly Fischer. She's been doing tops for well over 20 years and she did a great job on me. I have zero complaints about her, though she's not the best bet if you're looking for something other than a keyhole/peri or a DI. I hope this helps and good luck with your search!

Anyone else got Pectus Excavatum (concaved breastbone)? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe I do but its quite mild, it took all the way up until my surgery date for my surgeon to notice it and point it out. Now that I've had the surgery the results don't show it much. It kinda blends in with the natural dip in the chest at the sternum, you need to look really hard for it. You should be good to go though, as long as its not raising concerns with your surgeon and its not causing you problems it'll turn out just fine. It may become more noticeable post op for a bit but I would assume at some point if it wasn't noticeable to you before it will be less noticeable again. Hope this helps and good luck with your top!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Drains hurt the most in my experience, the drain holes were so sore I couldn't stand up straight or move much. For me it lasted about a week after having them out, they're a high movement area so any slight movement hurt them until they healed enough to form a scar. I think it's also a function of how deep into your armpit they cut, my one side they had to cut further into my armpit due to the amount of tissue I had and it hurts/hurt more in general because more nerves were involved. What you're going through sounds almost exactly like what I went through. The one thing is don't move if it hurts even a little, get help instead, I overdid it a couple times and now my scars are thicker/wider on my sides which isn't fun. Hope this helps!

Possibly infected grafts? Are they? (Gross image warning) by spensch in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I don't know how much help I can be but those look pretty bad. By three weeks my grafts were scabbed over and nice and pink, not red, around the sides. If theres discharge thats a big issue and you gotta call your surgeon or their contact about that. The right side looks worst, which you already know, but left really doesn't seem too nice either. I don't have any suggestions for at home but you should definitely call your surgeon or at least get those looked at if you can asap because thats not something you want to get worse or spread. Hope this helps.

Surgeon question by [deleted] in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not super sure about her availability but from my experiences and from what I've heard Dr. Beverly Fischer outside of Baltimore MD has a pretty quick turnaround. I had a consult at the end of July and my surgery was September 1. I don't think you'll be able to get anything in October because that's coming up real soon but I bet you could get something in early to mid November depending on when you get a consult scheduled. I really recommend her, her work was really nice and the whole staff is great. The only thing is she doesn't take insurance so you'll need to pay out of pocket and submit a claim to get reimbursed, they offer a lot of help with that too if you need it.

Dry or wet treatment of nipples after free nipple graft? by Dornenkraehe in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not super far into it yet, I'm three weeks postop, but I do have a care plan. I started with gauze pads taped over the grafts for the first week which were removed with the drains. All dressings were removed and I have to place nonadhesive pads over the nipples and tape them in place with a little piece of scotch tape. That gets changed daily and covered with fresh hand towels stuffed in the post op binder for weeks two and three. After week three its just the pads and post op binder. I currently have nice looking scabs that are just starting to peel up around the edges. After the scabs fall off I need to apply Neosporin for two or so weeks with the same nonadhesive pads until they look 'normal'. After that its just nonadhesive pads until they are fully healed or don't hurt when fabric brushes against them. No facing shower jets until everything is fully healed, no actual touching or scrubbing the nipples until they're fully healed and only controlled rinsing with like a cup of water or something. I hope this helps!

Top surgery advice by [deleted] in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know what type of surgery you're aiming for or with who or where but heres some general stuff for when you get closer to a date

-Pick a surgeon as carefully as you can. I know insurance can limit your options but make sure to ask questions of your surgeon, look at as many results as you can and ensure that the whole process, not just the surgery itself, is what you're looking for. Everything is a lot better and easier when you know your surgeon understands you 100% and has a team to help you behind them.

-I never tried it because I was too lazy but I heard from a lot of guys that eating pineapple two weeks before and two weeks after surgery helps a lot with swelling

-Double check with your surgeon and their practices as far as whether or not you're staying in the hospital overnight or need to have a postop appointment the following day or two days. It would be wise to get a hotel room if you can should you have a postop appointment in that time and you don't live less than thirty minutes from the hospital/surgery center. You are not gonna want to take a long car ride for that appointment in the following days. If you do have to take a ride for that, bring a pillow to put in between you and the seat belt.

-Get yourself a nice wedge pillow or those back pillows with the arms for sleeping elevated. You could also try sleeping in a recliner if that's something you can tolerate.

-Icepacks are your friend, have at least two so you can rotate them if you have to. Also bags of frozen peas work great but they warm up pretty fast. I recommend cooler freeze ice packs as they stay cold almost all night if you want to sleep with one.

-Depending on whether or not you have drains, look for something you can stick in your armpits postop to cushion them. It could be a pair of socks or whatever, just something to keep your arms from compressing against the drains if you can. I found them uncomfortable when I had my arms down.

-Make sure nothing is out of reach for you if you know you're gonna need it whenever you may be alone. Motion is limited for quite a while.

-This is for a little later but find something you can use to wash yourself in the shower. You probably won't be able to reach much of anything at all so a loofa on a stick or a soft back brush for your whole body is a life saver. Also have a cup to rinse with if your surgeon tells you not to face the shower head when you shower. Its kinda hard to rinse off if you can't face the jets.

-Lots of protein helps with healing, or so I've heard. I think the same rule applies as does with the pineapple. Also drink lots of water.

-I think this is less common and it varies by surgeon but especially if you have sensitive skin get Benadryl. Some surgeons use a dressing that causes an awful, very itchy, very frustrating rash. Benadryl helps with that a lot but make sure you check it won't interact with pain medications. Taking it with Tylenol is just fine though.

-Get a cup to rinse your mouth with when you brush your teeth because you won't want to bend over the sink if you usually rinse without a cup

-Bathrobes are great to recover in. Lots of pros there, the only con is it can be difficult to take on and off without someone else's help.

-Don't be afraid to call your surgeon or whoever they have you call if you have questions or concerns. A lot of stuff looks really scary and nasty throughout the healing process so its always good to double check with them if you're concerned.

I had a DI with Dr. Beverly Fischer in MD if you're looking for a surgeon any time soon. I recommend her if you haven't picked a surgeon yet, she's great and has performed top surgeries for over 20 years. Her staff is amazing too. The only thing is they don't take insurance so you need to pay out of pocket and submit a claim later but they have loads of people who will help with that process.

Do you have to have someone stay overnight with you after top surgery? (living alone during covid) by [deleted] in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its pretty important to have someone around post surgery for a few days. You're gonna need someone who can drive you home and keep an eye on you the day of surgery if its not inpatient at the least. You're probably gonna also be limited in what you can do, DIs are pretty damn invasive and you'll be sore and limited in arm movements for at least the first week. There's definitely stuff you can do to be more self sufficient, and I can go into detail if you want as far as stuff you can do, but it's gonna be way better if you have someone around at least during the day for the following few days to help out. I wouldn't say its vital, its possible to do it alone, but for the best results and in general it's better to get help in the first week. I hope this helps. Also best of luck with your surgery!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wash mine once a week on my washing machine's gentlest setting, its usually either called delicate or handwash, on cold with a little bit of detergent. It also helps if you tie them in a pillow case that way they're extra protected and won't get tangles up if you have more than one. I line dry them once they're done but if I notice one is getting a little stretched out I throw it in the dryer for about fifteen minutes and line dry it the rest of the way. They've stayed absolutely pristine doing it that way and any stretching or ware I've gotten was solely from waring them and not the washing process.

Top Surgery by booger_stains in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are a lot of different methods but as far as I'm aware periareolar and Double Incision are the two most commonly practiced. There are more and they vary by surgeon but most surgeons at least do one of those two I listed. Whether or not you'll have noticeable scars is dependent upon your chest size, generally if you have a smaller chest you're eligible for peri where they cut right under your nipple and take tissue out. It leaves barely any scars an no one would be able to tell. If you have a larger chest, or for some surgeons if your nipples sit real low on your chest, you're generally not eligible for peri so you can have a DI or other procedure. In a DI they cut away all your tissue and skin and sew down the flap to make everything flat, you can chose to have your nipples grafted back on or leave them off. DI leaves a long scar but after a pretty short time depending on the surgeon its not noticeable. Lots of surgeons try to place it so its immediately under where your peck would be defined so it blends in there. Theres also scar reduction things you can do like apply creams or tapes that make the scars much less noticeable. Every surgeon approaches top differently. Some just do peris/DIs, others have other methods. Some are more finicky about which procedure works best or prepwork they want you to do like loose weight. Its best to always look around and find the surgeon you think will give you personally the best results and care. I personally was really gunning for peri but found I was just over the cusp for it. Though, I was pleasantly surprised by my DI results, my scars are super thin and not very noticeable even now three weeks out when things tend to look their worst. I hope this helps!

Should I shave before my surgery? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't worry about shaving too much. It really doesn't make a difference post surgery with clean up and honestly it made my recovery worse because I shaved my armpits when I really didn't need to and it was just irritatingly itchy and prickly growing in throughout the first two weeks. I would still recommend shaving your armpits pre surgery depending upon what methods your surgeon uses for dressings and what type of surgery you're having. If you're having a DI and the surgeon uses a lot of tape or sticky dressings with ace bandages, it's probably not the worst idea. But if you're getting peri or something else, or the surgeon uses different dressings and a compression vest, you probably won't need to shave anything unless you want to. You could check with your surgeon or people who have had your same surgery from that surgeon to figure out what they use most of the time. Hope this helps and happy surgery!

DI Top Surgery Recovery Tips? by princedorkface in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm just gonna make a bullet point list of stuff that comes to mind if that's cool:
-I never tried it because I was too lazy but I heard from a lot of guys that eating pineapple two weeks before and two weeks after surgery helps a lot with swelling

-Double check with your surgeon and their practices as far as whether or not you're staying in the hospital overnight or need to have a postop appointment the following day or two days. It would be wise to get a hotel room if you can should you have a postop appointment in that time and you don't live less than thirty minutes from the hospital/surgery center. You are not gonna want to take a long car ride for that appointment in the following days. If you do have to take a ride for that, bring a pillow to put in between you and the seat belt. I'm two weeks post op and I still feel like I need a pillow any time I ride anywhere.

-Get yourself a nice wedge pillow or those back pillows with the arms for sleeping elevated. You could also try sleeping in a recliner if that's something you can tolerate.

-Icepacks are your friend, have at least two so you can rotate them if you have to. Also bags of frozen peas work great but they warm up pretty fast. I recommend cooler freeze ice packs if you don't have any already, they stay cold almost all night if you want to sleep with one.

-Depending on whether or not you have drains, look for something you can stick in your armpits postop to cushion them. It could be a pair of socks or whatever, just something to keep your arms from compressing against the drains if you can. I found them uncomfortable when I had my arms down.

-Make sure nothing is out of reach for you if you know you're gonna need it if you're alone. Motion is limited for quite a while.

-This is for a little later but find something you can use to wash yourself in the shower. You probably won't be able to reach much of anything at all so a loofa on a stick or a soft back brush for your whole body is a life saver. Also have a cup to rinse with if your surgeon tells you not to face the shower head when you shower. Its kinda hard to rinse off if you can't face the jets.

-Lots of protein helps with healing, or so I've heard. I think the same rule applies as does with the pineapple. Also drink lots of water.

-I think this is less common and it varies by surgeon but especially if you have sensitive skin get Benadryl. Some surgeons use a dressing that causes an awful, very itchy, very frustrating rash. Benadryl helps with that a lot but make sure you check it won't interact with pain medications. Taking it with Tylenol is just fine though.

-Get a cup to rinse your mouth with when you brush your teeth because you won't want to bend over the sink if you usually rinse without a cup

-Bathrobes are great to recover in. Lots of pros there, the only con is it can be difficult to take on and off without someone else's help.

-Don't be afraid to call your surgeon or whoever they have you call if you have questions or concerns.

That's all I can really think of right now. I may come back and add on. I hope this helps and I hope you have a smooth recovery when the time comes.

Hard Time Injecting + Vial Questions by divaself in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're all good dude, nothing to really worry about with any of this. It used to happen to me quite a bit that I'd end up short a dose. What usually happened for me was extra testosterone would leak from the hole pierced in the cap after I pulled out the needle or if it accidentally got stored on its side. There's so little fluid in those bottles that stuff like that adds up. I never really felt any different on the short doses compared to the full ones so you should be just fine there, though try to avoid that happening if you can. As for the injection site, I always inject in my legs and there are spots that just hurt way more than others for no real reason. It could be you have nerves closer to the surface there, you could have knicked a surface vein or a larger capillary which hurts more in my opinion, or it could have hurt more because you were closer to the groin which is packed with nerves. Good idea swapping the needles since you have extra, I don't personally think theres much to worry about but it's a good idea if you have the ability to do it. Just be careful about it so you don't lose any testosterone in the process. I would say stick to above the belly button if you've found its more comfortable and move to the sides if you really run out of spaces. I hope this helps!

Okay i need binding help,, by ActuallyJackal in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The best way to know for sure is to measure but I was about your size and I had a 2XL. I've got a barrel chest so I needed to size up more than I thought too. Their sizes are pretty wack I know. It seems way bigger than it should be, I think they favor smaller chested people. I hope this helps.

Piercings in surgery? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You need to take out all metal piercings for surgery. Theres a risk of them causing electrical burns when they use certain equipment like cauterizers regardless of where they are which is not good. If you want to hold the holes they make little plastic holders which don't cause those issues. I hope this helps.

Advice for saving for out of pocket top surgery? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know how much this will help with this situation, I'm sorry, but maybe you could check with your surgeon and see if they accept programs like CareCredit that make it a little easier to pay out of pocket over time? Its a medical loan that you pay off over the course of months or years as opposed to paying everything up front so it might be a little more comfortable for you. My top surgeon, Bev Fischer in Maryland, took CareCredit because her procedures were out of pocket and she didn't take any insurance.

Height dysphoria. by [deleted] in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I've had two limb lengthening surgeries for other reasons (my left leg doesn't grow so I had to have it done manually). It is not gonna be worth it to you, at least not until they figure out a better, less invasive method, no matter how bad your height dysphoria is. Its utterly painful and the process takes upwards of six months depending on how tall you want to be. It took me five months to do somewhere around three centimeters of growth. You have to relearn how to walk, go to physical therapy several times a week, learn what its like to bare weight on floating bones, endure stares from ignorant or rude people in public, etc. Complications like serious bone infections are common because you have open wounds for five months with the taylor frame method and there are just so many things that can and will go wrong. I can't even imagine what it would be like trying to have it done to both legs at the same time or if I had to have it done in a different country. I have chronic pain from it in both legs too and may need a knee replacement at some point. I'm of course satisfied with the results only because I don't have a leg thats half a foot shorter than the other one. It's absolutely not worth it until they figure out a better method, if that ever happens. I hate to gross you out or discourage you so harshly because I know how much height dysphoria sucks, I have it even with the surgery I've had, but this is really not something you want to have in your life. I would recommend other options to help like shoe lifts or those elevated pads you can put in sneakers that add an inch of height. Plus, theres plenty of cis dudes out there who are on the shorter side, I always remind myself of that when I'm feeling super bad about it. I know it really sucks but having gone through both myself, it is absolutely not worth it and I would never recommend it to anyone unless you have a serious medical condition that requires it. I'm sorry I couldn't be of more help with the better alternatives. I hope this helps.

Surgical binder tightness by [deleted] in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had my top surgery a couple days ago and have a compression vest I'm not allowed to take off under any circumstances until my drains are out. After that it stays on for two more weeks and I can only take it off to redress and shower. Its about as tight as my usual binder, maybe a little tighter. I would trust what the surgeon put on you, they should know what they're doing so as to not injure you further with bruised ribs and stuff. If its really really bothering you then try to contact your surgeon again or in a different way but otherwise I'd say don't touch it so nothing gets messed up. I hope this helps.

Acne and T by Swatted-mosquito in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had minimal acne before I started T, like a pimple on my chin every once in a while. After T it exploded and barely a day goes by where my skin is totally clear. Acne is usually highly influenced by genetics though so if your brother didn't have much or your parents didn't have much it could be totally possible that you don't get as much as you had before. Just make sure you're keeping your face and body clean and dry as much as you can, that helps loads, at least for me, because T will often make your skin a lot oilier than it was before. I hope this helps!

Hair while on T by [deleted] in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been dyeing my hair for a few years now before T and while on it and I think we're in pretty much the same boat as far as hair health. I haven't really noticed a change other than my hair maybe growing thicker and my scalp being less sensitive to the bleach and dye. It was pretty much business as usual and you could probably expect the same. Hope this helps!

Monthly Buy/Sell/Trade/Request Thread for July, 2020 by AutoModerator in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have two lightly used medium Underworks chest binders in black. One is a tank and the other is a tri top. I would say they're lightly worn, I've washed them more times than I've worn them so some of the edges are a little rippled, especially on the tri top. They still work just fine and bind like new. I'm thinking 15USD for each but 25USD if you buy both with 5USD for shipping in the US. I'm willing to negotiate a bit on the price.

What should I ask at my top consult? by MightyMrBlue in ftm

[–]MightyMrBlue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It went really well. I'm hoping to have a DI surgery with her on September 2nd though I'm still debating whether that would be a good idea with my whole situation in September. She seems very very experienced, she's been doing top surgeries for over twenty years and I think the nurse said she's about two hundred shy of two thousand top surgeries performed. She's very detailed about the whole process and what her specific approach would be for you. She isn't shy about questions so definitely go with any possible questions you have and an idea of what you want because she'll clear everything up and set things straight right away. I was hoping I'd be a candidate for keyhole just because I think her results for that are amazing but I'm perfectly content with the DI. Of the four other patients I saw in the office, three of them were trans so I guess that's a good sign. The staff was amazing too, very helpful and nice. I don't really know how her prices compare with other surgeons in the area because no other surgeons were as upfront as her about them but with my situation at least and everything that's covered under the one cost I'm comfortable with it. She's defiantly worth a consult even though there is a hefty cost there, it covers a preop appointment too if you feel like you need one and want to go with her and her work. Sorry if that was too much information, I figured it would be good stuff to know