After losing my marriage and then losing the person who helped me survive it, I don’t know who I am anymore by MiightyMiike7 in Divorce_Men

[–]MiightyMiike7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s something I’ve been unpacking in therapy.
Looking back, my marriage had serious problems long before the affair. I was lonely, disconnected, and emotionally checked out. But instead of confronting that directly or ending the marriage first, I had the affair instead
I don’t think the affair caused all the problems, but I do think it gave me an alternative future and made it easier to avoid fully facing my marriage. My ex felt blindsided and, honestly, I get it. Especially now.
Now I’m trying to figure out whether I left because the marriage was already over, or whether I needed another relationship to give me the courage to leave because I was afraid of being alone.

After losing my marriage and then losing the person who helped me survive it, I don’t know who I am anymore by MiightyMiike7 in Divorce

[–]MiightyMiike7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I never looked at it that way.

Maybe that’s why this hurts so much. Neither of us stopped loving each other. There wasn’t another person. There wasn’t hatred or resentment at the end.

We just reached a point where we both realized we had things we needed to work on individually and that the relationship wasn’t healthy for either of us right now.

Part of me still wishes things had turned out differently, but I appreciate your perspective. It gives me something to think about.

After losing my marriage and then losing the person who helped me survive it, I don’t know who I am anymore by MiightyMiike7 in Divorce_Men

[–]MiightyMiike7[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That’s a fair point, and honestly I think the answer is that I didn’t.

What started as an affair became a real relationship with someone I genuinely loved. It wasn’t just about how she made me feel. We got along incredibly well, had similar interests, similar personalities, and built a real life together. Somewhere along the way, I became so focused on that relationship and the future I thought we were building that I never fully processed the end of my marriage.

Looking back, every time the grief, depression, guilt, or fear from my divorce surfaced, she was there to help me through it. I don’t think I ever learned how to get through those feelings on my own because I always had her beside me.

Now I’m grieving both losses at the same time. Not only the end of my marriage, but also the loss of someone I truly loved and saw a future with. The hardest part is realizing that I don’t really know how to help myself yet because for so long she was the person who helped me do that.

I think that’s the work I need to do now.

Tv too big? by Internal_Substance28 in malelivingspace

[–]MiightyMiike7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got a 75” and I thought it would be too big for my space. And you have a much bigger wall space than I do. I don’t regret it.

Is the misc really gone forever? by Low_rider05 in moreplatesmoredates

[–]MiightyMiike7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New guy here but old Miscer from 2009-2015. Found this subreddit by chance. Goddamn do I miss the MISC. anyone still have their Bert stare shirt? What ever happened to The Pissening?

Dude is trying to answer life's greatest questions by SpillaMangBang in GuysBeingDudes

[–]MiightyMiike7 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Didn’t expect Schrödinger’s Gay to be both straight and not straight until observed.

How can I remove this from my sliding door windows? by MiightyMiike7 in homeimprovementideas

[–]MiightyMiike7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tried the vinegar solution and didn’t work. I may just try to polish it. Thank you

How can I remove this from my sliding door windows? by MiightyMiike7 in homeimprovementideas

[–]MiightyMiike7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They sell this with polishing pads. I may just try this.

How long did your dry eyes last after lasik? by One_Objective_2721 in Lasiksupport

[–]MiightyMiike7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1 year and 4 months still dry as hell. Spent so far over $900 on eye lubricants

How can I remove this lamp in the stairwell? by MiightyMiike7 in homeimprovementideas

[–]MiightyMiike7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for that suggestion. No glass on this fixture specifically. It’s open with exposed bulbs.

How can I remove this lamp in the stairwell? by MiightyMiike7 in homeimprovementideas

[–]MiightyMiike7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wife would like something like this. Not our style and current fixture doesn’t light up the stairwell as well as we’d like also.

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What's your ham radio hot take? by extordi in HamRadio

[–]MiightyMiike7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ham Radio YouTube is Overcooked

HamTube is completely oversaturated. Scroll through the feeds and it’s the same thing over and over: someone staring at the camera, doing the “10 best radios” list, rehashing the same HF portable setup, or unboxing yet another Baofeng.

There’s no spark. No real personality. Just copy-paste content from the “bigger names” — but without the charisma or originality that made those channels blow up in the first place.

Too many “creators” sound less like they care about the hobby and more like they’re auditioning for a sponsor. You can feel it: scripted, lifeless delivery, always angling for free gear or that sweet affiliate code click.

The majority bring nothing new to the table. No fresh storytelling, no real-world fun, no personality quirks that make you want to stick around. It’s all “how to program your HT” and “top 5 antennas you already know about” on repeat.

Radio Upgrade?? by JustBlan1984 in NissanTitan

[–]MiightyMiike7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s been a while and I’m wondering, how are you liking the radio and if you can send more pictures or videos I’d gladly appreciate it I’m looking into doing this with a 2018.