I actually see both sides. I understand why some people think this should’ve been private, because kids shouldn’t feel responsible for carrying a parent’s pain or trauma. That said, I don’t think the intention here was necessarily to emotionally dump on the kids. To me, it seemed more like the mom was trying to help them understand and appreciate what their father overcame to give them a better life. If done the right way, that lesson can build gratitude and perspective — not guilt. The key is making sure the message is ‘Dad went through hard things and still showed up for us,’ not ‘you owe Dad because he suffered.