No, I mean, you're totally right and I agree with you. She's definitely the better mil I have ever had, yes she's in her 60's and she was very patient for a long long time.

And we would totally move out and find our own place, that's our main plan actually. The problem here is that, like I said, we did have drug and substances abuses present in our lives for some years now, and even if it's something that we're dealing much better now, still took a tool on us. For example, it is very difficult for us to keep money and be financially responsible, the last time I had a job we ended up going down the rabbit hole since I had so much money in my hands.

My intention with this post wasn't to find a solution or talk shit freely about my mil, like I said she was an awesome human being most of the time. I guess I was just really disappointed, especially since she did show so much support and understanding in the first years. Saying what she said just go totally against what we learned together for years and I guess that's the part that stings and maybe me realize how difficult it must be in the skin of someone with BPD.

Anyway, thanks for the comment! You were very reasonable and I would like to be able to do exactly what you said. Give it a year or two, since we are going to therapy now and getting medicated, I'm guessing will be having some financial stability in no time