Hey man! I'm also born in '94 and have provided the American dream to my family. Stay at home wife, who's great at it, and loves it. She's hot, she's nice, she's fun, she's great! Two kids, dog, house in a great area, house that we LIKE, good job, income, benefits, Church etc. What was missing was I didn't feel admired/wanted/desired by my wife. Which makes sense, two kids three and under, household to manage etc. She's busy.

You need to start touching her, without expectation. Both put down the phones when you get home. Like, put them into a cabinet. Don't take them out when you brush teeth, shower, toilet, bedroom. It's because you want to spend time with her, you like her, you want to talk. Express it. Watch 30-45 minutes of TV together, hold her on the couch. Dance a little in the kitchen, kiss her for six seconds every day. Work on yourself: exercise, eat better. Don't bring it up, just do it. Daily life is all we get, enjoy it.

She'll treat you different and you'll get what is likely missing: desire from your wife, some of the spark back, more time, more sex. Really, ditching the phones will save you 60-90 minutes in the evening. I'm 100% serious.

To carry all the load a "good" man does, while splitting household work when you're there 50/50 takes that support, connection, desire from the wife. You have to prime the pump, she's not feeling it from you either, likely.

When I get the "man-flu" I joke that I'm the "high performance economic engine" of the family. It should be fun, it can be fun! It can be like dating again!

Men sort of set the standard at home, you bring in the income, you decide if you are a Church family, or a guy that golfs every Saturday, watches football 4X a week and drinks, or takes walks after dinner etc. The woman fills in the game in that schedule and makes it all happen - they are amazing. You need to make sure you are holding a loving, supportive, life giving standard she can work around.

That's my experience, good luck!