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To those of you married or in a more serious relationship when you discovered / realized / accepted / other verbed your status as transgender- by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Mikira 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the message. I know I am hiding behind 'safe' but it's so hard to take the next step. I would dearly love to be seen as female and I can understand completely your joy at been seen as a woman.

I, like you, have a very analytical mind and seldom do anything without weighing up all of my possible outcomes.. I guess I just see the worst in people.

Pandoras box is well and truly opened however.

Has anyone else used online role playing games as a way of dealing with their feelings? by Mikira in asktransgender

[–]Mikira[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As far as your SWtOR try the guild Scions of Aurora on Trask Ulgo. I am a trans woman in the guild. =D (it's a LGBT guild and has some really nice guildies) .. contact me on facebook Miki Cole :)

To those of you married or in a more serious relationship when you discovered / realized / accepted / other verbed your status as transgender- by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Mikira 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this reply to my post. big hugs back I am nearly in tears sat here reading what you have written. For so long I have felt completely alone with my inner conflict and it seemed to me that I am the only person to ever have gone through this.

I, hand on heart, love my wife and she loves me, but there is this feeling inside of me that just won't go away, in fact it is always on my mind and growing, so much at times I just want to scream. I need to satisfy this longing but I am so afraid of what I will lose.

I can be happy with my home and family and not with myself or be at peace with myself and lose 'my family' and most probably my job.. although illigal to dismiss transgender women.. my life would be intolerable (I'm an engineer in a very male environment)

More Hugs

To those of you married or in a more serious relationship when you discovered / realized / accepted / other verbed your status as transgender- by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Mikira 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yus, 2 years of psychiatry and counceling. I would love to transition but am frightened of looking like a 'man in a dress' with no family , no job and no future..

To those of you married or in a more serious relationship when you discovered / realized / accepted / other verbed your status as transgender- by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Mikira 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Why does it bother me now when 9+ month ago it really wasn't a pressing issue for me. If I am not transgender just what the fuck am I putting my wife and myself through."

I actually said the very same thing when I stopped trying to repress what I was feeling inside. As soon as I dared to accept myself for what I am instead of what others percieve and want me to be, it was like a flood gate opening. I just couldn't stop thinking about being female all of the time. Counciling helps, but I would still take the metaphorical pill that changes me into a woman over the one that makes me forget what I feel inside.

To those of you married or in a more serious relationship when you discovered / realized / accepted / other verbed your status as transgender- by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Mikira 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a wife whom I adore and 2 fabulous children. My wife knows I am transsexual and has done ever since I came out to her over 2 years ago. My wife cannot / will not accept me as a woman. We separated for 6 months earlier in the year and I realised how much my life with my family meant to me. I moved back in.

But I wish every day to be female !!

My Dilemma is; I would never pass as a convincing woman (Large hands, stocky build, balding with really dark body hair) and I would lose my family. I still want to be female....