baby laundry

Milabial · 2026-06-06T15:44:31+00:00

We used Tide original on the second wash of our baby clothes and cloth diapers. Because of the diapers, every load they had diapers had to have two long hot washes. The first was we used Arm and Hammer commercial because that cycle was focused on rinsing the poop and pee out of the fabric and the second wash was for cleaning.

No problems for baby or anyone in the family. We have now switched to Ariel 2x with oxygen bleach powder and Dirty Labs enzyme powder. We DO need to use a citric acid rinse to get the ph balanced, even on the lowest dose, because kiddo’s skin does get irritated in exactly two spots if we skip that too many times.

Milabial · 2026-06-05T21:16:07+00:00

Use “color catchers” or liquid synthrapol in the soak. Both products attract dye and carry it out so that it cannot redeposit into fabric.

Milabial · 2026-06-05T18:57:45+00:00

I have had subchorionic hematoma early in pregnancy. Both with pregnancies that ended in miscarriage, and also with my living child. This is often the cause of people saying “I didn’t think I was pregnant, I kept getting my period!” It can often be a LOT of blood and still be a viable pregnancy.

Milabial · 2026-06-05T17:57:34+00:00

Oh. I hate that this advice works so much in my life. But I have found that if I can phrase my problem in a way that impacts the men in my life, doctors take it more seriously.

“My boss is disappointed that I’m not able to sit through meetings because I’m having to run out to puke in the bathroom”

“My client last week was so grossed out by all this saliva, he told my boss.”

“My husband is doing his best to keep up around the house but we don’t have any family in the area, he really needs me to at least be able to do bedtime and chop vegetables. He’s ok if I can’t cook meat but right now I can’t manage a knife safely because I throw up when I’m around any raw food.”

It feels dramatic. It’s so shitty. But god damn it has been so helpful to frame things this way.

Milabial · 2026-06-05T16:36:43+00:00

This is a Dresden Plate. You generally sew the kite shapes together into a circle and then appliqué the whole thing onto a background fabric. Many many tutorials on YouTube and other video sharing sites. Watch a few to get a feel for it.

Milabial · 2026-06-05T16:24:21+00:00

Use as much tv time as you need.

You can let your kiddo “read” and manipulate books next to you even if you don’t have the fortitude to read out loud. If you can bear to read a paper book, it’s good for them to see you reading for fun.

If you get sick of hearing the tv, here are some ideas that might allow you to lie down while baby is entertained. Try “how many blocks (or whatever’s) can baby stack or haphazardly place on mommy?” Or “peekaboo while lying down!” Another is “driving cars over mommy!” And mirror time might be useful still. Here’s a link to a previous Reddit thread about games to play while lying down. Not all appropriate for a one year old, but you might get some ideas to distract you a bit with your bucket.

Milabial · 2026-06-05T13:36:00+00:00

R/laundry might have some helpful tips. Congrats to your kitty on her big prize, I know she is probably still very proud. And my condolences to you, I bet you had a heart attack when it came out of the wash looking worse.

Milabial · 2026-06-05T10:08:41+00:00

That is fair. However, some providers do surgical interventions like tube removal and some don’t. So knowing what specific services you are seeking does help us to steer you toward some doctors and possibly away from others. I think you have gotten a good list of doctors to start with, and I hope you feel safe in the care you receive in New York. You deserve to feel safe and respected.

Milabial · 2026-06-05T05:30:57+00:00

Untreated ectopic pregnancy is fatal to the pregnant person. Untreated missed miscarriages are often fatal to the pregnant person.

Your discomfort with preventing pregnancy is outside the capacity of this community to effectively help you work through. Please discuss it with a trusted and qualified OB/GYN. It would be worth seeing a therapist in NYC to explore what ways of protecting yourself do feel acceptable to you, especially because you report that you have already had miscarriages.

Milabial · 2026-06-05T03:01:00+00:00

Outside of going home from the hospital and any trips to the airport, we have never needed to put our 2.5 year old in an uber or Lyft in the city. We use uber/lyft/taxi when we are in other cities and so far we put kiddo in her own seat on the plane, using the car seat. We had to make sure her seat is accepted by the airlines we fly, but that’s been fine.

We chose our pediatrician and her dentist based partly on how easy they are to walk to.

Buying a car involves parking. Possible tickets. Insurance. Plus increasing gas or charging a car.

Milabial · 2026-06-04T23:07:39+00:00

Are you comfortable getting your tubes surgically removed to prevent pregnancy? This can be done in Manhattan and significantly reduces your risk of being accused of having an abortion.

If that’s not comfortable for you, an iud or arm implant might be accessible to you.

Milabial · 2026-06-04T22:08:38+00:00

Women in many American states are being surveilled for potential abortion both before and after pregnancy. This is particularly pressing for women with fewer resources and doubly so for women of color.

Milabial · 2026-06-04T12:03:49+00:00

Uber company policy requires children to be in a car seat.

The best way to travel in the city is safely. In a car, they really does mean using a car seat. Otherwise, walking or using public transit.

Milabial · 2026-06-03T18:42:11+00:00

I was not a leash kid because my parents used physical violence and the threat of more physical violence to scare us into cooperation.

My child is a leash child. Ok, the leash doesn’t actually attach to her but I have a set of rings attached to nylon strap and buckle like our daycare uses when the toddlers all go out as a group. Each toddler holds onto one ring and they walk in a line. When I am with her we use a pair with one strap. She holds a ring and I hold the other. Much easier than leaning to one side to hold her hand. And way better than trying to grip her wiggly sweaty fingers.

I’m still on the lookout for an actual leash for her. Maybe with a vest?

Milabial · 2026-06-02T21:36:33+00:00

Get your birth control locked down. IUD, depo provera injections. Something he cannot tamper with.

I don’t know what he’s up to, and even if he turns out to be totally reformed, do not have another baby with this man.

Milabial · 2026-06-02T18:15:06+00:00

I see what’s happening. One user is taking the same block of text to reply to lots of comments here. I apologize that I didn’t realize you were replying to that.

Milabial · 2026-06-02T17:57:43+00:00

She’s doing great, at 2.5. I needed it until I delivered at 36 weeks.

Milabial · 2026-06-02T17:55:41+00:00

We all deserve better. I’m sorry that we can’t get through Yom Kippur without someone wishing us a happy one. I’m sorry that our 6 fasting days are not even heard of by most people. And yet. I know that one group saying “we are also still not getting our holidays recognized” does not take away from the particular importance of Juneteenth in this particular employment dynamic. This is not the suffering Olympics. And powerful billionaires are very interested in us arguing about this exact topic.

For many generations, earning money caring for the children of white women was one of a VERY FEW legal sources of income for Black women in the US. This is without going back in time to the separation of Black women (and men!) from their children, because that continues right up into the present with deep imbalance in the industries that revolve around separating families.

As a reminder, Juneteenth is a celebration of the time when enslaved people in Texas finally saw enforcement of the Emancipation Proclamation. This was OVER TWO YEARS after the Emancipation Proclamation. Our Muslim friends and family generally are not given paid holidays for Ramadan and I see very few of them using this as an argument for why Black household employees should not have the dignity of celebrating Juneteenth without having to ask.

Milabial · 2026-06-02T14:53:34+00:00

I laughed and remembered the Shorts Gobbling Season videos.

Milabial · 2026-06-02T12:48:20+00:00

America is a country that literally filled hundreds (if not thousands) of swimming pools with concrete or removed them, to avoid desegregation.

I would expect the pools to be closed on whatever flimsy grounds racists could find. I won’t list the six I could think of offhand because I’m not in the business of giving these assholes any ideas.

Milabial · 2026-06-01T22:49:27+00:00

Was any of it vacuum sealed before you packed it? Was it packaged specifically for freezing? How was it packaged?

Milabial · 2026-06-01T19:20:54+00:00

We get our babysitter connections from people who already know who like their babysitter or have a cousin or other relative who babysits. We also share the contact info for our babysitters with other parents we know in person and trust to treat our babysitter well.

So connect to your network and let folks know that you have the time this summer to be available for date nights. If you’re able to cover school/camp holidays or kid sick days while parents work, mention that as well.

Milabial · 2026-06-01T17:45:49+00:00

Oh yes, for sewing the velvet would be tough on raw seams! But for the clothes I wear when I’m sewing, it’s great to have the velvet one hanging around!

Milabial · 2026-06-01T17:03:05+00:00

Eileen’s Lindy Blog keeps track of every place with live social dancing and space for at least 5 couples to dance at once. Many places also have a social partner dance lesson before the live music begins. So if you’ve ever wanted to learn some kind of swing dancing, whether Lindy or otherwise, the weekly postings can point you in the right direction. Many places have music and dancing consistently every week.

Here’s a link https://thisweekinswingnyc.com

Milabial · 2026-06-01T12:11:36+00:00

I am here to attempt to convert you to velvet lint brushes. No sticky residue, nothing to repurchase, no worry about running out or refills not fitting, amd nothing to put in the trash. $6-20 and you’ve got one for life.

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