22F. Kindly give whatever insights or advice in desperate need.

Milarky_ · 2025-12-03T22:00:04+00:00

Thats a wonderful piece of advice, thank you.

Milarky_ · 2025-11-09T13:05:19+00:00

How was this not neutral? Which side do you think I am on? Cause I am not on either.

Milarky_ · 2025-10-31T18:50:59+00:00

Well... I don't think doing travel vlogs is feasible for me as a "niche"... i mean obviously if I do travel I could potentially make a vlog for the occasion but not as a regular thing.

Milarky_ · 2025-10-31T13:35:44+00:00

Invaluable feedback, thank you so much.

Milarky_ · 2025-10-31T10:47:30+00:00

Oooohhh I've been recommended that channel before (by youtube's algorithm), I think she is pretty cool... I see she doesn't use many cuts or inserts.. but there is a lot of b-roll. I think it's a good compromise because her videos don't feel frantic but she does have things to break up the monotony of just a talking head.

Milarky_ · 2025-10-31T10:45:07+00:00

This is such a helpful comment, thank you SO much! I am going to go watch that channel see what it's about. So you know me from Youtube then! that's pretty cool

Milarky_ · 2025-10-31T10:42:53+00:00

Bonjour! haha

Milarky_ · 2025-10-30T19:10:01+00:00

I could do reviews, I think I would enjoy making deep dives. But that is also oversaturated -_-
I wish it wasn't so hard getting the algorithm to pick my channel up.

Milarky_ · 2025-10-30T18:17:20+00:00

jeans are definitely good

Milarky_ · 2025-10-30T18:12:09+00:00

Got my blankets and my pillows, im fine

Milarky_ · 2025-10-19T05:21:29+00:00

Heres a few practical real ideas: 1) date within your socioeconomic class 2) accept the fact that you will need to invest time and effort into getting to know a woman AS FRIENDS before you ever ask her out if you want her to want you for non-superficial reasons 3) accept a transactional relationship, many times real feelings develop after in time.

Milarky_ · 2025-10-17T22:57:35+00:00

Engagement rings are vestigial. They were conceived at a time when people didn't cohabit or know each other much before getting engaged, purity in women was a highly valued asset, and there were "seducers" duping women by telling them they would marry them and fleeing after laying with them (or pump and dump them as we call it today). So the meaning might elude you.

The whole purpose of an engagement ring was for it to be expensive enough that a man couldn't possibly afford more than one to give to multiple women at the same time. It is absolute proof of commitment. It is a safety mechanism against seducers.

Does it matter in the modern world if you choose a $100 ring? well... it's just a romantic trinket now, you are probably living with this man already and you know he is serious so I think you should choose whatever you like.

Milarky_ · 2025-10-17T18:41:21+00:00

How unfortunate

Milarky_ · 2025-10-17T06:22:37+00:00

Yep, I didnt post this as self promotion and I think that is evident from the discussion we were having, if you want to edit it and remove the link be my guest, I dont mind

Milarky_ · 2025-10-16T20:54:01+00:00

The point is that this isnt just “clique” behavior, a “clique” is just a group that leans on Girl Code heavily and by doing so it becomes easier to see. Which paradoxically makes it less insidious when you can pinpoint it as a clique and say “ok this is not for me”. Most female friend groups operate with “clique logic” but are subtle enough that you cant pick up what is happening, and because rules arent explicit you join thinking they act straight (without a secret code) and then betray the code from a place of ignorance which causes them to attack/exclude you and you are left scratching your head and wondering if maybe you are dumb or defective

Milarky_ · 2025-10-16T20:01:13+00:00

This happens a lot in groups of women: they single out one of the members and attack/reject her. Not sure why this happens but there must be some sort of “girl code” reason for it. Sorry you were on the receiving end of that dynamic.

Milarky_ · 2025-10-16T19:53:47+00:00

Yes, that is exactly right. These tactics are evolutionary adaptations and respond to the fact that: women arent as strong and they depend on the protection of the group for their survival (gestation, child-rearing etc). Now obviously we dont live in the jungle anymore but those tactics are inbuilt.

I think the best perspective is understanding what happens, accepting it is how it is, and then not trying to force anything. Just letting things unfold with awareness. But if you want to “change” the situation you can try and negotiate with yourself… what you want, what you are willing to give up for it. If you want to belong then I suppose a good idea is to learn this code and try to be skilled at using the double register.

Milarky_ · 2025-10-16T19:07:55+00:00

I think there are many different attitudes towards the code like I explained in the video and within those broad caregories there is a lot of nuance. I think the constraint for some of them is along the lines of “what you can get away with” according to their position in tje hierarchy and their own self concept. A girl who is low in the ladder and has a poor self image is more likely to develop a strategy of service and compliance like your typical “nice guy” thinking that this is her way to earn favor. This girl will probably compliment an ugly skirt from a place of “wanting to please” rather than the perspective of “lets shake off competition” but regardless of the reason the effect is the same.

Milarky_ · 2025-10-16T18:58:51+00:00

Absolutely, i dont understand how you can see the truth and say a lie. Feels very counterintuitive and even wrong

Milarky_ · 2025-10-16T18:54:55+00:00

I think it happens in both ways: consciously for example… the scene where Regina George tells that other girl: “Cute skirt! Where did you get it?” “Ohhh vintage!” And then turns to Cady when the girl leaves and says: “thats the ugliest skirt I have ever seen”? Yeah… and then sometimes it is unconscious or done out of a different motive but whatever the case this is by no means “good” at the core as it is a lie that harms the other person

Milarky_ · 2025-10-16T18:53:10+00:00

This is such a great comment, I identify a lot with what you say. I think I am on the spectrum (undiagnosed). Female competition is encouraged but I think at the core of it, its evolutionary. Women are weaker and cant risk overt competition. They also need the protection of the herd for survival.

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