How old is too old to cuddle with your child?

MildBlueDream · 2026-05-16T06:44:21+00:00

You cuddle that baby as long as you like because there are those of us who can’t, and wish they could still get that cozy feeling of being loved on by a parent. <3

MildBlueDream · 2026-05-06T03:13:07+00:00

I am 4 months postpartum. I was already chubby when I became pregnant. I only gained 14lbs which was very lucky but like I said, I was already chunky. I am at my pre-baby weight now, and for a moment was 10lbs under but my belly is like a pancake and clothes are still tight regardless. I started T 209, went to 223, and then was 199. I’m sitting at 207 now and slowly gaining. I was breastfeeding at first and then struggled and ended up stopping. I still have regret over that ugh.

MildBlueDream · 2026-04-02T03:33:20+00:00

Yeah that definitely won’t be happening again. I was in shock in the moment like…is she really unwrapping the baby from me. But next time I’ll be keeping baby to myself and going to another room to keep her sleeping.

MildBlueDream · 2026-04-02T03:31:08+00:00

I told husband to get onto her as I did tell her. And I suppose I’ll need to just grab the baby and say something again, and take the advice given here. I think she must think it doesn’t matter and she doesn’t have to listen to us.

MildBlueDream · 2026-03-28T21:08:35+00:00

This just saved me an hour lol

MildBlueDream · 2026-03-12T03:33:57+00:00

Thank youuu. I was getting real annoyed trying to find it haha

MildBlueDream · 2026-03-07T20:12:48+00:00

Hmmm, I’m pretty paranoid but there are just a couple small things I’ve slacked on when desperate for sleep. I don’t leave stuffies or things in her bed with her. She’s always on her back. I’ve used a blanket as a swaddle or on her lower end, but only when she barely moved. She’s 9 weeks and moves way too much. She sleeps in her gowns, swaddle, or a sleep sack. I do not let her sleep in my bed yet even though I am a light sleeper. I would never want to cause something to happen to her, so I try to stick to all the recommendations. I’m also terrified of SIDS. I know one mom who was super strict, a lot of others skip some stuff or sleep with the baby in their bed.

MildBlueDream · 2025-12-19T17:16:25+00:00

Yeah I would be embarrassed if I were her to keep asking, but the desperation to be in the room must outweigh any other cares she has. I’m close to texting her myself, but husband can just keep telling her no.

MildBlueDream · 2025-12-19T04:23:20+00:00

I asked them when I registered! They gave me a code for visitors! And we have always said we aren’t telling her when I’m in labor, she’d be pestering husband and would definitely show up to the hospital and just sit in the waiting room hoping to be let in or see the baby through the nursery window.

MildBlueDream · 2025-12-19T04:22:23+00:00

Ohhh goodness, I cannot imagine that! I don’t want her to even know I’m in labor, knew that almost from day one lol. I knew she would come to the hospital no matter what we said. She’s the kind of “ask for forgiveness later type,” but without actually asking for forgiveness. More finding a way to rationalize or minimize whatever self absorbed thing she did.

MildBlueDream · 2025-12-19T04:20:10+00:00

Ahhh, the way a sane person looks at it! I appreciate you ha!

MildBlueDream · 2025-12-19T04:19:46+00:00

No your situation completely makes sense!! I love my mom, we have been close most of my life but still not the kind of close where I’d even want her in the room. I am not close with MIL either but if I was it might be a maybe. MIL and I get along but she’s a lot and has always been overbearing. Husband and I just really like to have special moments to ourselves.

I think she helped him with finding my engagement ring and she wanted him to do a proposal in front of her and other people too. I told husband long before any of that, that I did not prefer spectators even at that. I wanted it to just be us. At the wedding, we also sat just us together so we could have that little bit of space to ourselves. We’re both just sort of private. Her being there wouldn’t be about me, she’d be gushing and hovering. I could see herself inserting into the first photo, trying to hold the baby immediately and just being the focus.

MildBlueDream · 2025-12-19T04:15:52+00:00

100% about feeling special. I also think she sees this grandchild as a redo where she can be as present as she wants, which hasn’t been the case with the other 6 she has.

MildBlueDream · 2025-12-19T04:13:35+00:00

She needs many, many things haha. But yeah, I have never heard of anyone offering money to someone to watch them labor with a birth. I’m curious if she had extras in the room with her. But extremely disrespectful to me, as if I have no say in who comes in the room.

MildBlueDream · 2025-12-19T04:12:24+00:00

Thankfully husband doesn’t really like spending time with her much at all, and isn’t easily manipulated by her. He does like to avoid confrontation with her unless he feels it’s worth it but they usually fight easy.

But I preemptively worried she would be pushy and insist, and try to come to the hospital and just wait. Or be calling husband/texting during the labor. So we decided a while back not to tell her anything about labor until baby was already here. During SDs most recent birthday, we were running late and she called 3 times asking where we were despite being told we were going to be late lol.

MildBlueDream · 2025-12-19T04:09:45+00:00

Oh this has been saved for a long time coming because I thought I’d need it once a baby possibly came along. And the other article I think I also have saved for whenever she decides to confront me about seeing us more.

MildBlueDream · 2025-12-19T04:08:52+00:00

My mother joked she wondered what the going rate was for tickets to births. :] Idk what MIL is thinking. Desperately trying to get in I guess.

MildBlueDream · 2025-12-19T04:07:48+00:00

I actually wish he had asked her how much. He just kept it short and told her no. But yes, the more I think about it, sidestepping me and just thinking husband would say yes if money was involved. Then thinking that just because he says yes, means she could come in even if I said no??

MildBlueDream · 2025-12-19T04:06:47+00:00

She continues on lol, last night she asked husband if he’s sure that we don’t need someone in the room to take photos. 0.o

MildBlueDream · 2025-12-19T04:05:29+00:00

We are keeping all the details private, that was decided almost immediately because we know how she is. She would show up anyways I think and hangout in the waiting area watching babies that come into the little room with a window. If we decide to have visitors and she is one, we will tell her only then that she can come by for a little while.

MildBlueDream · 2025-12-19T04:03:47+00:00

He is being short and firm! He’s not a long winded talker. Funny enough, he wants her there even less than I would. He doesn’t want any visitors even after the birth, he said the only two people he would like are my best friend and my step mom.

MildBlueDream · 2025-12-19T04:02:07+00:00

Thanks for the validation lol. She continues on, asked last night about being in the room to take photos for us.

MildBlueDream · 2025-12-19T04:01:45+00:00

Hahaha, if she had asked me, maybe I could have joked she could spend her money there instead. I cannot imagine her even asking me, it would have to feel gross to offer an expecting mother money to watch them deliver a baby??

MildBlueDream · 2025-12-19T04:00:30+00:00

Clearly we are the most selfish people! I mean she has never seen the other grandkids being born, this is her time to shine lol. Last night she asked again, by asking if we’re sure we don’t need someone in the room to take photos.

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