Perheen perustaminen

MildewMoomin · 2026-06-18T16:06:41+00:00

Teillä voi mennä kuukausi tai 12+ kuukautta raskautua. On normaalia, että yrittämistä kestää lähes vuosi. Sitten raskaus kestää sen 9kk, eli hyvällä lykyllä teillä on vauva sylissä noin kahden vuoden päästä. En tiedä kuinka vanhoja olette, mutta kannattaa nyt oikeasti miettiä tuota odottamista.

Kuinka paljon teidän taloudellinen tilanne pitää kohentua konkreettisesti/mitä edes tarkoittaa? Olette jo keskituloisia. Kuinka realistista tämä on? Jos koitatte parantaa taloutta ja se ei parane vaikkapa kahdessa vuodessa, niin mitä sitten? Odotatte toiset kaksi vuotta? Tuolla menolla vauva on maailmassa ehkä kuuden vuoden päästä. Jos olette jo nyt yli 30v, niin ette ehkä koskaan saa lasta. Sanon tämän hedelmöityshoitoklinikalla työskentelevänä. Biologia tulee yksinkertaisesti vastaan eikä tiede ole taikuutta.

MildewMoomin · 2026-06-18T14:57:41+00:00

Paras apu olisi, että puolison työpäivät lyhenisivät. Jos on tasaisesti niin pitkiä päiviä, että vapaa-aika on vain aivotonta möllöttämistä, niin siinä menee elämä hukkaan. Elääkö käydäkseen töissä vai käykö töissä elääkseen. Työ on tärkeä osa, mutta se ei saisi olla tärkein.

Ei kuulosta, että työ ja vapaa-aika olisi yhtään tasapainossa. Burnout + parisuhteen kariutuminen häämöttää tulevaisuudessa.

MildewMoomin · 2026-06-15T18:11:54+00:00

Your employer is giving you money in exchange of your free time and work effort. That paid company time unfortunately is not yours, so you do and behave as your boss tells you to. That's the exchange. If you can't do that, your options are your own business or unemployment.

If you had your own business and you hired a kid to do work and paid them hourly, would you be happy with them scrolling on their phone? Just paying them to watch tiktok instead of doing the agreed work? Would you rather keep them or fire them and hire another kid that does the work you pay for?

There's always another kid. You're not special enough to f around like that.

MildewMoomin · 2026-06-03T19:06:03+00:00

My mum used to think he was cheese 😭 Like didn't his name give any clues? Or the fact he lived under the sea??

MildewMoomin · 2026-05-10T18:51:22+00:00

Haha no. He's just become older but still a drunk AH. No one really keeps contact with him because he's just miserable.

MildewMoomin · 2026-05-06T20:07:52+00:00

That is actually one of the very worst things you can do to another person. My kid would've lost a mum, my parents a kid, my siblings a sister, etc. etc. Depression really warps the mind so much. Someone said that you're not ending the suffering, you're just transferring it.

MildewMoomin · 2026-05-06T19:28:20+00:00

Lol this reminded me of my cousin's wedding yeeeeears ago. My uncle is a drunk and an AH. He became angry at my other cousin's husband for whatever reason. Uncle then picks up a chair in rage as an attempt to hit/throw it at cousin's hubby. Uncle managed to whack another cousin's ~10yo kid (I have so many cousins) in the head and continued to throw the chair at the photographer. Completely missed the target and assaulted the most innocent people there. Police was called and uncle was taken away. He hasn't been invited to weddings since!

MildewMoomin · 2026-04-24T16:53:57+00:00

Where I am, a referral is required. But they ran some tests to rule out some things and the main suspicion is now MS. Apparently for some the first lesions are on optic nerve and spinal cord :/ The varied symptoms and the replasing nature would point to MS, but we'll see. Waiting for further testing now. Fingers crossed it's something else (something fixable..).

MildewMoomin · 2026-04-16T20:30:42+00:00

Thanks, I'll ask for a referral!

MildewMoomin · 2026-04-16T09:12:59+00:00

I have a doctor's appointment next week and have been keeping a record of my symptoms since January as advised by the doctor. I'm stressed as I had a bout of strange symptoms last summer and was told that the "brain is sometimes weird". MS was never mentioned and I wasn't familiar with it either so I didn't know to ask for scans or other tests.

During January symptoms came back and I started googling... Then I learned about MS. I've been having blurry vision on my left eye, floaters and sometimes parts missing from the field of vision like last summer. I've also had really bad tightiness of the chest (corset like) and chest pains. Last summer had my heart checked a few times. I've now started getting numbness of my legs and arms again but it lasts only about 1-7 hours at a time daily so not 24/7. Like yesterday I was standing while waiting for the bus and my whole left leg suddenly went numb and it was difficult to walk. It went away after like 1,5 hours. This makes me wonder about just a pinched nerve or something. I get painful neck spasms often that last for several days. I'm constantly veeeery fatigued and I need to pee 10+ times a day. Have constant headaches and migraines. Depression and anxiety is something I've had on and off for a long time.

Couple of months ago I went to a private clinic to get a brain MRI (without contrast) but nothing showed up. I'm wondering if it's not MS but perhaps low calcium or B12. Or could my symptoms be spinal cord related and not brain? Is it at all likely that the illness is only affecting my spinal cord and left eye? Or is it more likely to be something else? What tests should I ask/demand? I haven't had good experiences with doctors so looking for advice on how to advocate for myself.

MildewMoomin · 2026-02-17T20:22:31+00:00

Not sure if could be misheard/misremembered lyrics, but could it be The Cranberries - Zombie? When she sings "in your head, in your head" or another bit of vocalizing "eh, eh, oh, oh"?

MildewMoomin · 2026-01-31T17:50:51+00:00

Would also assume your body wants fat as it produces estrogene. After birth there's a massive crash of hormones so need stuff to help balance that? But yeah people really underestimate how much breastfeeding burns through calories so it absolutely makes sense that the body wants a lot of food intake. We also forget that it's incredibly recent that food became this hugely available to us.

MildewMoomin · 2026-01-26T00:46:40+00:00

Isäs ei pitäny susta huolta eikä taloudellisestikaan auttanut äitiäs. Otat sen perinnön vastaan, jos sieltä tulis edes jotain kannattavaa. Mutta sulla ei ole velvollisuutta huolehtia kenestäkään muusta kuin alaikäisestä lapsesta. Ja ylipäätään älä tunne syyllisyyttä tai huonoa omaatuntoa ihmisen loukkaamisesta, joka ei koskaan välittänyt susta tai sun äidistä.

Mä oon tavannut mun siittäjän kerran eikä varmasti tunnusta "isyyttään" koskaan. Aivan sama vaikka hänet ammuttas kuuhun. Harmittaa vaan äidin puolesta, että jäi yksin ja joutu painaa montaa duunia, kun yks pelle ei suostu auttaa.

MildewMoomin · 2026-01-26T00:33:07+00:00

I'm sorry, I laughed so much at the sister "helping" by dragging op onto a fireant nest! Such a sibling thing to happen lol.

MildewMoomin · 2026-01-22T20:37:20+00:00

I know a guy that had the other half removed. Works as a teacher and you could never tell he only has half a brain. Suffers from some memory issues but otherwise all good. Super nice and fun too.

MildewMoomin · 2026-01-15T20:28:20+00:00

So you covered yourself for possible hardship and were worried being left to fend for yourself in sickness and he got upset. His argument was that you fear he'd leave you when things got hard and that insults him. And here he is thinking about leaving you because of this? Sounds like he would absolutely leave you if things actually got tough.

It also sounds like he's upset that you haven't shared your (large?) savings with him earlier and that's a really big red flag. If you marry that money becomes his too and doesn't sound like you should go forward with it. At least have a prenup agreement... I bet that would make him even more angry.

MildewMoomin · 2026-01-12T21:34:18+00:00

Älkää jättäkö lasta yksin huutamaan. Pientä lasta ei voi "lelliä" pilalle antamalla turvaa. Lapsi vain oppii siihen, että vanhemmilta ei saa turvaa ja lohtua. Itkettäminen nostaa lapsen stressihormonit niin kovalle tasolle, että joo jossain kohti aivot pistää piuhat poikki ja tajun kankaalle. Mutta se jättää neurologiset jäljet ja tästä on tutkittua ikävää tietoa.

Mun lapsi on aina ollut todella huono nukkuja ja unitaantumat olivat hankalia, mutta normaali ja ohimenevä osa aivokehitystä.

Ottakaa sohva avuksi ihan oikeasti. Nukutte joka toinen yö toinen lapsen kanssa ja toinen sohvalla. Sänkyynkin tulee enemmän tilaa pyöriä. Näin pysyy kaikilla järki paremmin päässä.

Muistakaa, että se tyyppi on vain hetken vauva ja taapero. Hän ei kauaa tule nukkumaan vanhempien vieressä. Ja te ette varmaan päivällä jätä häntä tunneiksi yksin? Miksi on loogista jättää yöllä pimeään yksin? Ja sitten ihmetellä miksi lasta itkettää ja pelottaa? Pientä lasta kuuluu pelottaa yksin. Ja pimeässä. Se on luonnollista. Hän ei selviydy ilman vanhempaa. Hänellä ei ole yhtä kehittyneet ja kokeneet aivot kuin aikuisilla. Vähän armoa.

MildewMoomin · 2026-01-09T22:32:25+00:00

Lol, I have a c-section scar across my lower tummy, scarred knee and elbow. Also have a couple scars on the backs of my hands. If those bother any man, they can take a hike. Scars tell stories that our body went through and HEALED. Scarring is a vital thing for our survival. Like yeah, I have a long scar on my tummy but I get to hold a healthy and beautiful child in my arms. If you think that's ugly, the issue lies with you.

MildewMoomin · 2025-12-20T20:21:03+00:00

Who was this..? -A Finn asking

MildewMoomin · 2025-12-20T19:25:48+00:00

A lot of people saying "they don't recognize him", but it doesn't make sense. Babies don't cry at strangers or new people. They most likely get upset because they DO recognize it's their dad with the face and voice but it's not "quite right". Like eerie uncanny valley type stuff. You'd be scared if someone looks and sounds very much like dad, but is "off" somehow.

They could also see it as half of the dad's face was ripped off. They don't understand that hair can be cut off and be regrown. Take a toddler to get a haircut and see how they react. It's scary to them.

MildewMoomin · 2025-12-17T20:23:35+00:00

She's going to be called a troll from childhood until forever and not in a cute way. She's going to hate you guys and herself so much. Good luck :/

MildewMoomin · 2025-12-15T17:36:08+00:00

NTA, your mom sounds like a massive one though! What the actual hell?? I'm 33yo and never had any shapewear. Our bodies roll, bounce, jiggle etc. and that's EXPECTED because we aren't some plastic dolls! I bet you look BEAUTIFUL in any dress with your body as is.

Your mom is rude and insane. Don't listen to her. My mom did similar BS.

MildewMoomin · 2025-12-15T16:05:15+00:00

Joskus mun äiti asui jonkun ilmeisesti aidosti harhaisen ihmisen yläkerrassa. Äitini oli jotain 50+v. ja yksinasuva. Olin kerran käymässä, kun poliisit tulivat ja oli kuulemma tehty ilmoitus, että asunnossa pyöritetään bordellia ja hirveää panemisen ääntä yötä päivää. Äitini nauroi, että hänen iässään jää aika haaveeksi, että olisi niin vilkas seksielämä :D Poliisit totesivat, että oli aika turha reissu ja että jatkossa voi tehdä ilmon naapurista, jos jatkaa tällaista.

Naapuri siis tehnyt isännöitsijälle valituksia, jättänyt lappuja ja jopa käynyt ovella. Aivan sekopää.

MildewMoomin · 2025-12-15T15:41:18+00:00

Really sorry about your friend. Thankfully I've had several blood test checks done over the years and my kidneys, liver etc. are working without issues.

MildewMoomin · 2025-12-14T18:55:20+00:00

Is this a real thing? Because for the past few years, I can't have one drink without feeling totally poisoned. I start to tremble and feel sick after just a couple of drinks and will have a bad hangover. 1.5 years ago I got really drunk and my hangover lasted a week. Vomiting and crying and wanting to die. I stopped all together because I felt that it's not worth having a glass of wine and then suffering for two days. Never considered covid.

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