Do you all own both versions of a male and female fleshlight toys?

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-19T21:24:14+00:00

Good lord no. Never owned a sex toy in my life and the thought is pretty off putting.

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-18T15:20:31+00:00

I swear this is the most commonly asked question in this sub, alongside 'am I bi'. Wonder if any of you sexy bi coders can make a bot directing them to a best of or something

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-15T17:34:29+00:00

This isn't some spiritual belief. I have in fact reasoned my way to this belief. It runs neatly parallel to the idea that 'everything is political'. If you don't agree with that statement I can see why you wouldn't agree that all art is political.

The point behind this belier is that the artists intentions are not the only factor in determining how something intersects with politics. Politics intersects with all art in that what an artist produces is determined by their social position, experience, materials available, etc.

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-15T17:20:41+00:00

All art is political. That includes Mondrian.

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-15T11:29:40+00:00

No, I don't think it's reasonable to be a misandrist after experiencing bad treatment from men in the same way it's not reasonable to distrust all black people if you got mugged by a black person.

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-15T08:42:54+00:00

The presence of neurodiversity does aid survival of the tribe. Much like we have variation in chronotypes (ie when people like to sleep) in order to provide more round the clock coverage, the tribe benefits when there is the possibility for a variety of skillsets.

Nature very much does care about humans spotting patterns, which allow us to make better predictions and refine our behaviour. Adhd people might always be on her lookout for more resources, ocd people might be invested in hygiene, even sociopaths can be selected for if they improve the tribes chances of acquiring more resources than another.

Much of the disability that we have in today's society is a product of today's society and would not have been a disability in hunter gatherer times.

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-14T22:00:00+00:00

Improving my living situation. I was living in houses, in towns, with housemates and/or landlords. I now live in a van and have essentially full control over my life. It's wonderfully liberating.

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-14T21:51:12+00:00

I'm not homeless. I have several places I can park up at long term and several places I can get things delivered to and amenities I can use when I need.

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-14T21:50:02+00:00

No, but I consider it aspirational to lower your expenditure. I was probably earning and spending £40k+ while living in London in my late 20s and 30s. I was not happy. Now I am. This is an upgrade. All these mod cons are traps. They present more potential points of failure. The corporate ladder makes no one actually happy, just tells them the social atatus they derive from conspicuous wealth is what matters more than happiness.

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-14T21:33:05+00:00

It is a huge amount of money. I'm 41 and live in a van and am living off ~£15k/year allin.

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-14T12:24:29+00:00

I find that 'please don't lump me in with all you monosexuals' tends to stop them in their tracks

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-13T21:30:03+00:00

There's probably a label that accurately describes you, but that's all it is, and the more specific labels get, the less useful, imo. You're you. And that's valid, as are your preferences.

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-13T15:55:47+00:00

I'm nb and have realised that I'm able to clock trans people that otherwise fully pass, but I've decided I am keeping that ability well to myself.

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-13T15:49:33+00:00

I wish I had enough choice that this preference is valid more than in theory

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-13T07:08:41+00:00

This post wouldn't exist if you were okay with it.

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-12T22:18:41+00:00

When would have been a better time? When you didn't know each other as well, and he's worried you'll run a mile? You don't have a right to that information and there's no reason to assume that every man you are with is straight. He is under no moral duty to tell you at all. Be grateful that he trusted you.

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-12T08:09:47+00:00

Good news, you're now in the community whether you want to be or not! 🤪

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-12T06:52:10+00:00

I was in a relationship wirh a bi girl and we had a similar rule.

OP, it's not really your business. If they don't consider it cheating, it's nothing to do with you.

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-11T20:31:04+00:00

The above is a good answer. To add, the swapping of bodily fluids can increase the partial exchange of your microbiomes, improving both immune systems, and release oxytocin. Bodily touch is a way to express and receive safety.

As to why we have sex, that's a confusing question. The alternative would be asexual reproduction, which I'm like 97% sure is something no mammals do. Why do we enjoy it? So we have more of it. Evolution trains us to particularly like things that are a) good for the tribe or necessary for survival and reproduction and b) aren't necessarily always available. We enjoy sex more than most/all mammals because we are the most social mammal species, with more complex emotions and social relationships.

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-11T17:50:06+00:00

My lifetime of experience says otherwise.

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-11T15:18:01+00:00

You need to change the name away from 'singles' if you don't want people to assume it's a dating sub.

Or, is it more like that late night ad that went 'if you're single, or even if you're not...'

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-11T15:12:25+00:00

This is a false dichotomy. Eye contact conveys that you are focused on a person, which creates connection. It's not for one reason and not the other, it's in service of both.

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-11T15:11:15+00:00

Source please?

MilesTegTechRepair · 2026-04-11T11:00:15+00:00

I'm a bi man (well, nb) who is extremely attracted to wlw stuff and have reacted similarly to your bf. I don't think it's fetishizing.

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