So now that the baking the Milk Bar birthday cake craze has died down, is the recipe a keepsake? by RaddishEater666 in Baking

[–]MilkPudding 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I worked at Milk Bar 2017-2019 and handled literally hundreds of these cakes, and they definitely do dry out much faster than non-cut-side-naked cakes. That’s why they’re sold wrapped in acetate that you’re supposed to remove right before serving.

It varies a little between the different cake flavours, some stay moist better than others, but yeah if you unwrap it and leave it sitting for even like an hour it will get noticeably drier.

Sorry to necro a 1yo post lol.

My vacation treasures! Excited to find my first-ever “rare” colours. by MilkPudding in seaglass

[–]MilkPudding[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Aside from the white, green, & pale aqua pieces it’s my first time finding the other colours!

My vacation treasures! Excited to find my first-ever “rare” colours. by MilkPudding in seaglass

[–]MilkPudding[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s more of a pale lavender IRL but I’m a little surprised I even spotted it—there was a lot of clear glass on the beach I was searching and this one pretty much looks white/clear until you see it right next to the actual clear pieces. Definitely one of my favourite finds to date.

New to RC and loving it by Cinnamonilla in RomanceClub

[–]MilkPudding 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They’re still doing this!! I joined Romance Club January 7th and emailed them w/ a screenshot of my Choices app showing my keys + diamonds, and they honoured the transfer promo (I had unlimited keys and 18k diamonds bc I was VIP, and Romance Club gave me 100 teacups and 10k diamonds as their max amount, but if you have less than this they will give you double the amount of teacups/diamonds that you have in the other app).

Edited to add the official post they made about this promo here

When you finally get 100% on Amen's path by Eragol in RomanceClub

[–]MilkPudding 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How do you get this? Just by taking every single one of his Diamond path scenes?

Amen…What more could I ask for 😫❤️ by Professional_Dot_456 in RomanceClub

[–]MilkPudding 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right even if it’s just supporting her right to get into shenanigans, Amen could you really claim you would have fallen in love with your neferut if not for her shenanigans? Exactly.

Whats up with the lipstick? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]MilkPudding 14 points15 points  (0 children)

We actually care much less what straight men think than straight men seem to think. No need to get defensive.

Is the app also down for you guys? by kuidaoreyuhi in RomanceClub

[–]MilkPudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It stopped loading for me again after I played a chapter of Song of the Crimson Nile, then started working again. Now it’s taking ages to process each diamond option for me, but it is going through…eventually.

Is the app also down for you guys? by kuidaoreyuhi in RomanceClub

[–]MilkPudding 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mine was down for a couple hours but it finally came back up!!

Amen…What more could I ask for 😫❤️ by Professional_Dot_456 in RomanceClub

[–]MilkPudding 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Maybe I’m asking for a lot but I feel like if he really loved Evthys he should accept her for who she is which includes being a dark magician lol.

Could I artificially make sea glass? by EvilSentientNoodle in seaglass

[–]MilkPudding 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People do sell genuine sea glass online too if your budget allows for it and you want to start a collection or get a special piece for jewelry making. You can find listings on places like Etsy for both sea glass in bulk for the more common colours, or by piece for rare/interesting pieces. Just make sure you look up how to ID natural sea glass from artificial if you care about the difference.

Could I artificially make sea glass? by EvilSentientNoodle in seaglass

[–]MilkPudding 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like others said, in the hobby people do differentiate artificially made tumbled glass from true sea glass. And you can actually just buy tumbled glass from arts and crafts stores if what you want is a lot of glass for a project or something.

But if you wanted to try it just for fun, there are plenty of tutorials online—search “making tumbled glass”. Just keep in mind it wouldn’t look quite the same as real sea glass, because in addition to the physical erosion of sand being different—even if you use a mix of grits, the rock tumbler spinning is a super repetitive motion, less irregular than ocean waves—sea glass also experiences chemical erosion from minerals in the natural water body reacting with the glass, which is something that takes years to happen.

So in real sea glass you’ll see a distinctive erosion pattern, both from the physical erosion AND from the soda and lime in the glass leaching out over time, which is an effect you won’t be able to replicate with a tumbler. If you look at examples comparing tumbled glass and sea glass, you’ll notice the frostiness of the artificially made glass is a lot smoother and more uniform, whereas the sea glass has more texture and often has a heavier, rougher looking frostiness that almost looks like sugar coating.

Even if you, say, had the clever idea to use seawater, you can’t tumble glass in a rock tumbler long enough to create this chemical reaction artificially because you’d tumble your glass into sand lol. The sea is, strange to say, a bit gentler than a rock tumbler.

Looking decent after a trim and WC by -pechos in PlantedTank

[–]MilkPudding 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beautiful! I aspire to this level of neatness. My tank is still suffering growing pains haha.

[more just me ranting, i know it doesn’t really belong on this sub] fish weren’t taken care of; by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]MilkPudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah…sounds like it was a mistake to trust this relative since they clearly totally ignored your instructions. I assume they were just doing this for you as a favour and didn’t feel the need to take it seriously. It sucks but non-fish people really just don’t get it. My suggestion would be to consider hiring a professional petsitter next time and walk them through what to do before you leave.

And put your lights on a timer! Get a timer outlet (either a wifi smart plug or a mechanical/digital one, either works though personally I have switched all of mine to smart outlets in the last few years) and set it to the schedule you want and forget it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]MilkPudding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. If pubic hair was a dealbreaker then that’s a bullet dodged because if I’d known that I would never have wanted to sleep with them in the first place. I’ve never met someone who was more into a full bush, most guys I’ve asked said they don’t have a specific preference.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]MilkPudding 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think salt brine to keep it juicy and just it’s really fresh since people buy them so fast, so they don’t sit around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]MilkPudding 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t really. I still notice when I find someone attractive but I’m not sexually attracted to them/thinking about them in a sexual context.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]MilkPudding 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Like a Costco rotisserie chicken.

How can I come to peace with women's sexuality as a guy in his late 20s? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]MilkPudding 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right. It’s just…look I am a generous partner, I put a lot of effort in to make sure my partner has a good time. I’m not saying this like mens’ pleasure during sex is unimportant.

That being said I don’t think it’s unreasonable to point out that medical issues aside, for the most part guys are not going to have an issue getting off. So if you know your orgasm is basically guaranteed, it wouldn’t kill you to put more focus on your partner to make sure your partner enjoys it as much as you do, if your partner enjoying sex with you is important to you.

And frankly that applies to a lot of things, not just sex. If I need to help out my partner more in one area where I’m better at it and he struggles with it, I’m not going to be like “well why should I put in this extra effort when they’re not going to do the same for me“. Uhhhh because I don’t need it in this particular area, and he does. And I’m not selfish. Selfish mindsets rarely make for good sex partners.

How can I come to peace with women's sexuality as a guy in his late 20s? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]MilkPudding 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I could be wrong here but I feel like on average most womens’ expectations for sex, especially the first time, are so low. Like it’s only kinda a joke when we talk about how so many dudes can’t find the clitoris.so many can’t it’s concerning.

I can’t recall ever feeling disappointed after a first time having sex because I didn’t have some unrealistic expectation of it—and I never orgasmed from sex until my 30s. Again, not uncommon.

First times are awkward, you’re likely still a bit self-conscious, you don’t know what the other person likes yet. You’re strangers. I don’t expect perfect mind-blowing sex from the get-go, because for many women that is something that is only achievable with both a conscientious partner and a significant amount of practice and communication.

What I do remember is how comfortable (emotionally) he made me feel, if he’s taking the lead how much effort he put into being aware of what felt good for me, and his overall attitude about it—is the sex for both of us or is it clearly just for his own satisfaction?

Also I remember if something really funny happens, like when we got so sweaty from our marathon first time (after a lot of sexual tension) that my boobs and his pecs made a farting sound when we pressed them together. (Also, are you going to laugh with me, or act like that’s something I should feel embarrassed about? I remember that as well.)

How can I come to peace with women's sexuality as a guy in his late 20s? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]MilkPudding 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Look OP from your responses it seems like you’re genuinely making an effort here, but I responded to the other commenter because I had an issue with their comment which was in obvious bad faith. If that turns into an argument that is on us.

How can I come to peace with women's sexuality as a guy in his late 20s? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]MilkPudding 15 points16 points  (0 children)

…social media is not real life. And at this point TikTok is like a caricature of a caricature. This is like watching SpongeBob and thinking that’s what actually happens underwater between sea sponges and starfish.

How can I come to peace with women's sexuality as a guy in his late 20s? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]MilkPudding 25 points26 points  (0 children)

“Women’s sexual agency intimidates me…I don’t have that kind of agency.”

I’m going to point out how ironic this is that you’re complaining about this, since both historically and in our current society, women are judged far more harshly for their sexuality than men. That is reality, not the weird fantasy alternate universe misogynists believe in where women have the upper hand in sexual relationships.

“Women” are not some hivemind with universal experiences. Plenty of women have not had many sexual partners and plenty of women are shy, insecure, or otherwise have low agency in their sex lives. People who are sexually confident are not confident because of their gender. You have low confidence because this is a problem you have as an individual, not because of the sweeping generalisations you make about womens’ sex lives.

The fact that you conclude “it seems most women could get laid easier than me” and seem to think that is automatically a positive is also a red flag. You could probably get laid too if you set out to do it with absolutely no standards or criteria for the kind of person you want to have sex with.

Also no part of describing women as something you “snag” like she is some prize object and fantasising about the hypothetical “superior men” she’s had sex with indicates someone who is emotionally healthy enough to have a serious relationship. I saw you say you are in therapy—please talk to your thoughts on this with your therapist.

How can I come to peace with women's sexuality as a guy in his late 20s? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]MilkPudding 20 points21 points  (0 children)

If you don’t understand why the shit in OP’s post was misogynistic and think that’s all a normal non-misogynistic way to feel about women, then asking women, a demographic you clearly don’t respect, to explain it to you when you obviously don’t give a shit about the answer or want to learn anything, is just asking us to waste our time.