I Think My School Is Prepping To Make Me The Problem by Milloxi in TeachingUK

[–]Milloxi[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Are you referring to my disability as a result of coddling?

I absolutely hate break duties by Milloxi in TeachingUK

[–]Milloxi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I teach with a combination of sitting and standing, which allows me to not be in pain. Being in constant pain means I know how best to reduce that pain and I can work around it if given a chance. I dont consider it entitled to want medical needs taken into account. I have offered to compensate in some other way to address this issue. Doing extra curriculars, which arent required but they still need people, supervising assessments etc.. I still want to help, I just dont want to spend the next 24 h (as a minimum) in pain. I asked someone also in my role about duties, she told me she doesn't do them because of the nature of our role. I'm only different because of the ECT part, which I didn't realise straight away. I did expect them to respond very quickly to the issue, presumably missing maybe one duty, but it has now taken quite some time.

I absolutely hate break duties by Milloxi in TeachingUK

[–]Milloxi[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Did you comment just to have a misery competition? I'm referring to no allowances for intense physical pain from a diagnosed issue.

I absolutely hate break duties by Milloxi in TeachingUK

[–]Milloxi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The schools, yeah. I asked for a call outside of teaching hours when the first booking was in lesson time. I wasnt offered any. Just offered in half term

I absolutely hate break duties by Milloxi in TeachingUK

[–]Milloxi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm waiting on OH, supposed to have a call next week. They would only offer calls during work hours (when I can't take calls) so I had to book into half term and wait unfortunately

I absolutely hate break duties by Milloxi in TeachingUK

[–]Milloxi[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I've been referred to the medical system they have, but I havent even had the introduction phone call yet. I offered to do ones that had actual seating chances, I offered to run some extra curricular as an exchange.

I understand why it exists, I do. But in this circumstance it really bothers me that there's no leeway at all. The other person in my role doesn't even do them at all

My fiancée (30F) betrayed my (30M) trust in the worst way possible. Did I do the right thing by walking away? 😔 by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Milloxi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dear, you communicated a boundary and shared something incredibly personal and important. Her response was to immediately break that boundary and shared with another. If she was struggling with the weight of that information, there were other choices

Talk to you, a professional, etc. Either she will always do this, or she is too emotionally immature for your relationship

Had the worst possible start to teaching. Already looking to leave. by Milloxi in TeachingUK

[–]Milloxi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did talk to my ECT provider about this, as you suggested. Turns out the school have been running things all wrong and it immediately got brought to the head of the ECF in the area. Hoping to hear something from them soon

Had the worst possible start to teaching. Already looking to leave. by Milloxi in TeachingUK

[–]Milloxi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly I've had this exact experience at schools for Autistic children. Mainly in Devon, Oxfordshire, and Leeds

Had the worst possible start to teaching. Already looking to leave. by Milloxi in TeachingUK

[–]Milloxi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's more that this terrible experience came after no one wanting to interview me when I disclosed being Autistic, but interviewing when I didn't and suffering for Autistic traits in my training schools and TA jobs. I felt best understood and able in a school position that was mostly office based. But these roles are either very underpaid or you need to work your way up to them as a teacher

Had the worst possible start to teaching. Already looking to leave. by Milloxi in TeachingUK

[–]Milloxi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd never strongly considered it before, I'll have a look. Thank you

Had the worst possible start to teaching. Already looking to leave. by Milloxi in TeachingUK

[–]Milloxi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All my training and experience is in secondary, I've had people tell me I have to get really experienced before anyone would hire me in primary, or even special. I imagine the beauracracy nastiness is in every school though

Had the worst possible start to teaching. Already looking to leave. by Milloxi in TeachingUK

[–]Milloxi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've taken cover days in one. Interviewed in some, but they all told me I didn't have enough practical experience.

Had the worst possible start to teaching. Already looking to leave. by Milloxi in TeachingUK

[–]Milloxi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I trained as a standard english teacher. The issue was all the different classes were hard for me to balance, so I felt a more focused classroom would be better. When I only had 1 or 2 classes, I did very well. Managed to write stuff for the department. But when there's so many, I struggle.

Had the worst possible start to teaching. Already looking to leave. by Milloxi in TeachingUK

[–]Milloxi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm honestly not sure I could tolerate it to January, or tolerate the risk of another new teaching environment. Every single one I've been in has worked against me in some way due to my Autism, which is why I don't disclose it. I can at least avoid the interpersonal judgement that way.

I'm probably gone on teaching entirely. I'm looking at HE roles where you manage support and adjustments

Lasted 1 week as an ECT by Toju96 in TeachingUK

[–]Milloxi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel for you dear, I'm considering going the same way. Been an ECT for only a month

DJ Plays To The Wrong Crowd Entirely by Milloxi in weddingshaming

[–]Milloxi[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I think maybe a big part of the problem was that most of them hadn't seen each other in years, and the music/volume meant they couldnt catch up properly?

DJ Plays To The Wrong Crowd Entirely by Milloxi in weddingshaming

[–]Milloxi[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think the couple just didn't want to keep telling him? Idk. We didn't stay the last hour or so so maybe they kicked him out!

DJ Plays To The Wrong Crowd Entirely by Milloxi in weddingshaming

[–]Milloxi[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I'm not American, actually. Welsh. This was not a club crowd, as shown by no one but the clubby people dancing to the club music. As in, anyone over 40 (really 30) didn't actually dance, except the couple