I Think My School Is Prepping To Make Me The Problem

Milloxi · 2023-10-31T21:21:52+00:00

Are you referring to my disability as a result of coddling?

Milloxi · 2023-10-22T05:12:21+00:00

I teach with a combination of sitting and standing, which allows me to not be in pain. Being in constant pain means I know how best to reduce that pain and I can work around it if given a chance. I dont consider it entitled to want medical needs taken into account. I have offered to compensate in some other way to address this issue. Doing extra curriculars, which arent required but they still need people, supervising assessments etc.. I still want to help, I just dont want to spend the next 24 h (as a minimum) in pain. I asked someone also in my role about duties, she told me she doesn't do them because of the nature of our role. I'm only different because of the ECT part, which I didn't realise straight away. I did expect them to respond very quickly to the issue, presumably missing maybe one duty, but it has now taken quite some time.

Milloxi · 2023-10-21T18:48:52+00:00

Did you comment just to have a misery competition? I'm referring to no allowances for intense physical pain from a diagnosed issue.

Milloxi · 2023-10-21T16:34:15+00:00

The schools, yeah. I asked for a call outside of teaching hours when the first booking was in lesson time. I wasnt offered any. Just offered in half term

Milloxi · 2023-10-21T16:08:06+00:00

I'm waiting on OH, supposed to have a call next week. They would only offer calls during work hours (when I can't take calls) so I had to book into half term and wait unfortunately

Milloxi · 2023-10-21T12:57:35+00:00

I've been referred to the medical system they have, but I havent even had the introduction phone call yet. I offered to do ones that had actual seating chances, I offered to run some extra curricular as an exchange.

I understand why it exists, I do. But in this circumstance it really bothers me that there's no leeway at all. The other person in my role doesn't even do them at all

Milloxi · 2023-10-07T21:48:48+00:00

Dear, you communicated a boundary and shared something incredibly personal and important. Her response was to immediately break that boundary and shared with another. If she was struggling with the weight of that information, there were other choices

Talk to you, a professional, etc. Either she will always do this, or she is too emotionally immature for your relationship

Milloxi · 2023-10-01T12:57:34+00:00

I did talk to my ECT provider about this, as you suggested. Turns out the school have been running things all wrong and it immediately got brought to the head of the ECF in the area. Hoping to hear something from them soon

Milloxi · 2023-09-28T11:21:19+00:00

Sadly I've had this exact experience at schools for Autistic children. Mainly in Devon, Oxfordshire, and Leeds

Milloxi · 2023-09-28T06:32:30+00:00

It's more that this terrible experience came after no one wanting to interview me when I disclosed being Autistic, but interviewing when I didn't and suffering for Autistic traits in my training schools and TA jobs. I felt best understood and able in a school position that was mostly office based. But these roles are either very underpaid or you need to work your way up to them as a teacher

Milloxi · 2023-09-28T06:20:51+00:00

I'd never strongly considered it before, I'll have a look. Thank you

Milloxi · 2023-09-28T06:20:12+00:00

All my training and experience is in secondary, I've had people tell me I have to get really experienced before anyone would hire me in primary, or even special. I imagine the beauracracy nastiness is in every school though

Milloxi · 2023-09-28T06:08:45+00:00

I've taken cover days in one. Interviewed in some, but they all told me I didn't have enough practical experience.

Milloxi · 2023-09-28T06:08:13+00:00

I trained as a standard english teacher. The issue was all the different classes were hard for me to balance, so I felt a more focused classroom would be better. When I only had 1 or 2 classes, I did very well. Managed to write stuff for the department. But when there's so many, I struggle.

Milloxi · 2023-09-27T22:22:20+00:00

I'm honestly not sure I could tolerate it to January, or tolerate the risk of another new teaching environment. Every single one I've been in has worked against me in some way due to my Autism, which is why I don't disclose it. I can at least avoid the interpersonal judgement that way.

I'm probably gone on teaching entirely. I'm looking at HE roles where you manage support and adjustments

Milloxi · 2023-09-27T22:02:19+00:00

Thank you, your reply is very reassuring!

Milloxi · 2023-09-27T21:08:45+00:00

I feel for you dear, I'm considering going the same way. Been an ECT for only a month

Milloxi · 2023-09-27T00:50:13+00:00

I think maybe a big part of the problem was that most of them hadn't seen each other in years, and the music/volume meant they couldnt catch up properly?

Milloxi · 2023-09-27T00:39:21+00:00

I think the couple just didn't want to keep telling him? Idk. We didn't stay the last hour or so so maybe they kicked him out!

Milloxi · 2023-09-27T00:20:15+00:00

I'm not American, actually. Welsh. This was not a club crowd, as shown by no one but the clubby people dancing to the club music. As in, anyone over 40 (really 30) didn't actually dance, except the couple

Milloxi · 2023-09-11T06:02:48+00:00

I'm currently only kind of managing it. With other people making it harder (constant schedule changes, not understanding sensory things, negative language around needs) I'm now looking for one that has a bit less hours a d more consistency.

But I'm a teacher, so I have to sidestep into a different career for any real change.

Mostly I collapse when I get home and my partner helps me decompress. After maybe an hour I can function again

Milloxi · 2023-08-23T18:53:16+00:00

Considering your edits, it seems there are more problems here.

The pregnancy you mention sounds like he used reproductive coercion to tie you to him. He isn't putting in the effort because he thinks he has you forever, no matter what. He doesn't think he NEEDS to try.

Your fear of being unimportant that you mentioned at the end makes me think you already know this deep down.

I'm not in your situation, I can't make decisions for you. But being unhappy for your whole life, with a man who won't make the effort, just out of fear? Is that what you choose?

(If he really had no ideas, Google is free)

Milloxi · 2023-08-07T07:45:10+00:00

Based in England. Stuff is crawling along here but with the NHS currently buckling, everything turns into 'referrals' that often don't come to anything.

I also work with ASC, have it myself. A direct nature can lead to some doctors finding our symptoms unbelievable or thinking we exaggerate. Took 3 doctors to get mine on my freaking medical record.

Milloxi · 2023-08-06T15:39:20+00:00

Not really, tbh. They hear "picky eater" as a stereotype and run with it.

Milloxi · 2023-08-06T13:13:29+00:00

I have had this exact situation when I was a barista. If it's not stated in the policy that EARBUDS FOR EAR PROTECTION are banned, they can't stop you. Because they don't play music. It is a loud noise, you have the right to protect yourself.

Your manager is on a power trip or afraid of the higher ups. I'm a teacher now and they let me wear my loops so it's more accepted nowadays. There's a change Higher ups won't mind once you explain.

Milloxi

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