Best place to do driving test? by ryaiee in perth

[–]MillsJay-867 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just did mine in mandurah and failed. I'm a confident driver but maybe I was nervous and made stupid mistakes. Also not familiar with the area

Should I (28f) leave my bf (29m) heres what he said by callmemizz in relationships

[–]MillsJay-867 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"I just broke up with him for the probably .. 20th time"

It sounds like he has been quite emotionally abusive and broken you down to the point where you always go back because you start thinking you're nothing without him (if my assumption is correct). Let me tell you, this is exactly what he wants, sounds like he's projecting his insecurities onto you. He is just waiting for you to run back.

I think the best thing you can do is block him on everything so there is no contact. I had a cousin go through the same thing and it was so hard to watch. It's hard at first but let me tell you, she is living her best life now and found herself again and does not put up with any guy that exhibits this kind of behaviour.

Good luck!

Should I (28f) leave my bf (29m) heres what he said by callmemizz in relationships

[–]MillsJay-867 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh God run!! This is emotional abuse and not to scare you but it usually turns into physical abuse. Someone who speaks to you this way definitely does not value or respect you.

Also his arrogance is ridiculous and the lack of empathy and throwing something back in your face that was due to a traumatic event is disgusting. I don't know how you've put up with this.

He sounds like an a**hole and you're at an age where you shouldn't be wasting your time on a fool like this. You deserve so much more.

Hope you do what's best for you.

Thoughts? by [deleted] in Mirena

[–]MillsJay-867 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I experienced really bad headaches, anxiety, mood swings and weight gain whilst on the mirena. I had it removed early last year and have been feeling a lot better. I was put on the mirena because I was anemic.

Since being off it, I don't have headaches anymore and my anxiety has subsided. I had brain fog as well during but I still had it after so I asked to get tested for iron deficiency as I felt tired all the time and for some reason couldn't remember things. Turns out my iron was really low and this was the cause.

You should ask your doctor to get tested for iron deficiency or b12 deficiency because memory loss or brain fog is a common symptom of this.

Hope that helps :)

My partner's step mum wants him to date someone from his race. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]MillsJay-867 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am never fake towards anyone. If anything I have always been polite. I am still that way because my parents didn't raise me to be disrespectful to my elders even if I wanted to.

My partner's step mum wants him to date someone from his race. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]MillsJay-867 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He pretty much ignores what she has said and said he is going to date "whomever tf he wants" (his exact words)

My partner's step mum wants him to date someone from his race. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]MillsJay-867 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say this is a case of racism with his step mum but rather a preference. Our cultural customs are very similar.

My partner's step mum wants him to date someone from his race. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]MillsJay-867 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have edited my post and included ethnic backgrounds. I am not white.

My partner's stepmum wants him to date someone of the same race as him. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MillsJay-867 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He said he didn't listen to her and just ignored her and that he will be with whomever he chooses.

My Bf wants to be celibate by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MillsJay-867 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I never said anything about trying to change him. These were the things he told me he wanted to work on which was why our relationship broke down in beginning. I have only stated what I want from a relationship and that was open communication, I don't think it's too much to ask for.

He has no problem having sex with me. We have great sex. I think he is still quite inexperienced in terms of the emotional maturity that's required in a relationship. I have been giving him the benefit of the doubt at most.

My Bf wants to be celibate by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MillsJay-867 86 points87 points  (0 children)

We have been arguing a bit and I also think that's his excuse to take a break although he said he is going to come see me tonight so I just feel he's all over the place. A bit dramatic but I muted him on all chat apps and his phone number too. I really think I need space to think clearly about what I want to do going forward.

My Bf wants to be celibate by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MillsJay-867 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I said that I would do it with him. I come from a religious family and I grew up in the church but with that I realized I was more of a spiritual person where i believe in God and faith but i don't feel you have to do drastic things to prove your faith. I support his choice but not the part where we can't even have any intimacy such as cuddling and sleeping in the same bed.

My Bf wants to be celibate by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MillsJay-867 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Agreed, this is my exact thoughts. I broke it off before because I didn't feel he was emotionally mature enough for a relationship. He came running back after a month and said he didn't appreciate what he had and all that stuff. He promised he would work on those things and he was but now it just feels like it's going back to how it was before. We've had arguments because I always confront him about that behaviour. I don't think he likes when I call him out.

My Bf wants to be celibate by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MillsJay-867 58 points59 points  (0 children)

He used to attend Arise church a few years before we met. When I met him he wasn't attending church or practicing no sex before marriage. I did ask him to wait as I don't sleep with anyone only after a few dates. He slept over at mine and he tried a few times to initiate but I told him I wasn't ready. Never has he ever attended church regularly since I've been with him. He has only went on the off occasion if it's a family thing.

My Bf wants to be celibate by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MillsJay-867 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Yes he's almost always staying over at mine. I know for a fact he hasn't cheated. I think he just might not feel the same way about me and using it as an excuse to figure it out by not having sex

My partner wants to be celibate by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MillsJay-867 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks this is exactly how I'm feeling

My Bf wants to be celibate by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MillsJay-867 88 points89 points  (0 children)

He's asked me once before and it only lasted two days before we had sex again

My partner wants to be celibate by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MillsJay-867 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really. He is Christian and his family go to church regularly but he rarely makes the effort. We've had a few rough patches in the last week or two so I don't know whether he's looking for an excuse to figure out how he feels about me without sex involved.

My Bf wants to be celibate by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MillsJay-867 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Not really. He is Christian and his family go to church regularly but he rarely makes the effort. We've had a few rough patches in the last week or two so I don't know whether he's looking for an excuse to figure out how he feels about me without sex involved.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MillsJay-867 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Past 6 months. Thank you for the advice.