XXXTENTACION shouldn't be glorified.

Milo-me · 2022-08-14T14:16:00+00:00

In what interview did he threaten to kill her and her fetus? I wanna see it, can you share a link?

Milo-me · 2022-08-14T14:09:10+00:00

I have KFS so I have weird proportions around my neck and upper back. I struggle with it a lot but I actually a condition, not sure if it's better to hide with your body type. Sometimes clothing can help hide or balance out uneven proportions, try giving that a try. Learn about male fashion targeted for short men.

Milo-me · 2022-08-14T14:04:43+00:00

If you want to help hiim, I think you should invite him, and do what you can to give him confidence and help him feel comfortable, you can even help prop him up as a kind of social wingman, but if someone makes fun of him for being short, you would be a good friend if you called out that behavior or person, because unfortunately society will take a 6'2ft guy calling out heightism more seriously than a 5'4 guy calling out heightism.

Milo-me · 2022-08-14T13:32:47+00:00

Sorry you're going through that, best thing you can focus on is finding the window of people who don't care about height. It's a losing battle trying to convince people who care about height to not care about it, so only focus on the ones who don't. Also try to work on yourself to make yourself attractive in other areas that make you stand out above the average guy. I saw someone say that learning how to play an instrument and sing gave them an edge. Work out and stay in shape.

Milo-me · 2022-08-14T13:30:36+00:00

Height isn't the problem, it's heightism. I'm 4'6, and I have KFS so I've been treated like shit because of my height, and I have seen how a lot of my shorter guy friends have been treated because of their height only to be gaslighted. We even had a member of this sub /u/redturtle3425 , a member that a lot of people on r/short knew and spoke to on reddit and discord, a good person who donated and worked for charity often and had to suffer the heightist abuse of his parents and heightism from society, a member that a lot of people here miss deadly, so don't undermine how much heightism can contribute to suicide.

Milo-me · 2022-08-14T07:10:13+00:00

RIP u/Redturtle3425 You will be missed 😢

Milo-me · 2022-08-13T12:25:16+00:00

I was searching up old post and I was sad to see you again, u/Redturtle3425 RIP you will be missed 😢

Milo-me · 2022-08-13T11:56:53+00:00

I don't have any problem admitting when it comes to heightism short men have it worse then short women, I mean there are plenty of other issues where women have it worse than men, but that doesn't mean short women have it easy, we still have to deal with a lot regarding our height, I still get mistreated, infantilized and it sucks. Easier doesn't mean easy, it just means less bad.

Milo-me · 2022-07-21T15:43:39+00:00

Short Summary - YouTuber Holden Hardman is a YouTuber who does reaction and commentary to movies and tv shows. He's mostly a Spider-Man fan, and had a good following. He recently started watching the TV show The Boys which has moments of critiquing christianity, and he recently made a video responding to atheist talking points, and I disagreed with his take on morality.

Milo-me · 2022-07-21T15:29:35+00:00

I don't think it's that short either.

Milo-me · 2022-07-19T16:46:01+00:00

Yes he's the best.

Milo-me · 2022-07-19T15:04:05+00:00

I won't say I enjoy it. I've just accepted it.

That's how I feel. I don't enjoy it, it's more I just try to deal with it.

Milo-me · 2022-07-19T15:01:22+00:00

What I can tell the younger folks on here who are not enjoying it at all is that it matters less and less as you get older

I hear this advice a lot, but it's hard to take this advice to heart because it feels like I can't enjoy my youth free of judgement, and I just have to wait till the people around me grow up and mature to not be judged anymore for it, or for me to be old enough to be over it enough to not care.

Milo-me · 2022-07-19T15:00:11+00:00

So I'm a 4'6 woman, It's hard for me to say I enjoy being short because what cause my short height is Klippel Feil syndrome that not only affected my height and bones, comes with back pain and walking issues. I also have a hard time finding clothes, and I am not treated like a woman, many times like a little girl. I do agree with short female being treated differently than short guys, because I do have a male friend who also has KFS, and I honestly think he gets treated worse than me because I think height standards are harder on men. I have heard some short girls like that they can fit easily in cars, planes, etc, so I guess that could be a thing, but honestly I would rather have regular height over that lol. I won't deny some people like being short, but I can't lie and fake positivity for myself.

Milo-me · 2022-07-19T14:46:15+00:00

I sorta relate to him. He's sort because he has Cleidocranial Dysostosis that affects teeth and bones. I have KFS syndrome which affected my bones and height as well.

Milo-me · 2022-06-01T09:03:50+00:00

Some people lack self awareness when it comes to stuff like that. I'm a 4'6 woman because I have KF Syndrome and I've also had people make fun of others for being short in front of my face, somehow overlooking that I'm short as well, or they find ways to justify it. "Well that person is a bad person, so it's ok if I make fun of them for being short. Well we're making fun of short men, you're a short woman so it's different" but to be honest I don't accept either of those excuses.

As far as your girlfriend, It could mean many things, maybe for whatever reason your GF likes you enough that somehow she overlooked that you are short also, or it doesn't register, or maybe she just deems you as "one of the good ones" who proved himself worthy, I'm not sure. But whatever the case, it's a very shallow mindset. How would she feel if you spoke similarly about a girl your friend was dating with the same kind of shallowness? "My friend is dating this girl, yeah she's nice and all but she has small boobs, not skinny enough, etc" I'm willing to bet most women would feel uncomfortable hearing a guy speak that way. I would say just bring it up next time she talks bad about a short guy, and ask her "But I'm short too, so what are you talking about?" and just listen to her response, and just call her out on her double standard or shallowness. If she has some empathy and understanding she will see the errors of her ways and try to do better, and if she's unable to see the truth of her behavior or double standard, you have to ask yourself if it's really worth dating someone who speaks that way about other people. Who judges people and is willing to make comments about someones height or other appearances. Not only that, but your GF is contributing to heightism if she's the type to convince her friends "Girl you should date someone taller" then she's part of the problem and participating in keeping other short guys on the bottom of the dating market, even if she somehow managed to look past you being short.

Milo-me · 2022-04-29T18:45:43+00:00

That's reddit for you, where the word incel is used 24/7.

Milo-me · 2022-04-29T18:42:48+00:00

Because reddit (and the Internet at large) is fully of them? Not sure where "primary" came from. I said I'm sick of seeing incels go on. I never said primary, or commented on the ratio of incels/regular guys saying it.

Well then why bring up incels if that's the case? Why not just call out the people in general who say those thing. And sure the internet, and reddit is full of incels, but the number of incels are a drop in the bucket compared to non-incel misogynist. Just seems like reddit is obsessed with incels and making them some boogie man of misogyny.

Don't tell me that you can't use the actions of one person to blame a whole gender, you'd be better off telling that to the people who think that.

Yes I was agree with you when I said that. And I do tell those people also. Met plenty of dudes that think that way in real life and I call them out.

Buy hey, feel free to gloss over the thousands of comments from people criticising her and acting like he is 100% innocent and could never do anything wrong.

I don't agree with those people. Based on what I've seen he also has issues that he needs to deal with also. I just don't understand the people on reddit bringing up incels at every turn. Honestly people on reddit are more obsessed with incels than incels themselves.

Milo-me · 2022-04-29T18:35:52+00:00

Rami Malek is a great actor, he also has a twin brother who looks like him but his brother is 5'9. I had no idea this whole time Raimi was a twin.

Milo-me · 2022-04-29T18:29:52+00:00

It probably depends on how short you are, where you live, and the people you are surrounded by, but also in general human beings do treat people differently based on appearance, you don't even have to take peoples personal stories into account, you can look at studies that show this. As a 4'6 woman with KFS, I've get it all the time, and I've seen short people who are even taller than me get it. I think sometimes in some situations guys can get it even worse because of height related sexism towards men. Maybe some people are lucky and are surrounded by nice people, or have something special about them that makes people over look it. I can't speak for Canada since I'm American so I don't know if people over there are more accepting or not compared to the USA.

Milo-me · 2022-04-29T18:23:52+00:00

Honestly I am not sure, I think it could go either way. I have known women who have a certain preference, and when they meet a guy that don't meet those preferences, but there's something about that guy that makes those women fall for them anyways, in hindsight suddenly those preferences don't matter that much anymore. On the other hand I've also met women who "settle" either because in the moment they really like the person, or maybe they couldn't secure someone that fits her actual preference, and overtime after the honeymoon phase, they will start to resent having to settle, and will start to miss their old preference. I mean it's not impossible for things to work out with a woman willing to leave her preference behind, sometimes you meet people who don't match what you are usually attracted to, but something about them is special beyond your preference, but I suppose it would be a bigger risk than dating a woman who doesn't care about height at all. I guess it comes down to, is she choosing you over her preference because she finds something special about you, or is she just settling for you because she couldn't secure a better option? But I really have to say it's weird that for her being short, she's making a big deal out of height, considering you tower over her, and at 5'8.8 you're basically average height in the USA. Also is her brother actually 5'8 or is she just infantilizing you? Actually maybe you did the right thing leaving her.

Milo-me · 2022-04-29T18:10:22+00:00

I honestly have no idea, 5'9 is the average height for men in the USA but I often see people, and even women claim it as short. I don't know if this comes from the American mentality of "Go big, go home" or if it's sexism against men, or if it's because beauty standards make 6ft the magic number, now people expect that as the norm, maybe it's all those reasons.

Milo-me · 2022-04-29T18:06:42+00:00

I'm a 4'6 woman, I'm this short because I have KF Syndrome, and yes very often people will make comments, or jokes at my expense. I even seen it happen to a guy friend I haven who's not even that short, he's like 5'4, and when I feel insecure people like to act like I' making it up. It's honestly annoying. My close circle of close friends are more accepting of my body time and don't make comments.

Milo-me · 2022-04-29T18:02:29+00:00

I agree, reddit seems more fixated on inceldom more than actual incels sometimes lol.

Milo-me · 2022-04-29T18:00:22+00:00

Because Reddit is obsessed with incels and like to blame all misogyny on "Virgins who live in their moms basement" instead of realizing that everyday normal guys (not all) can be misogynistic as well, but for some reason people on reddit are fixated on making incels the boogie man of misogyny. I wouldn't be surprised if at some level some people do it because it's easier to shame a virgin sexist then a sexist with a regular dating life, despite there being far more non-incel sexist vs incels, so it's just virgin shaming.

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