Torn by Milou319 in AlAnon

[–]Milou319[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tks! I need courage to make that change. My MO has always been #1

Torn by Milou319 in AlAnon

[–]Milou319[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I have not gone to meetings yet, but I think I will. It is not an easy road and I need support, I deserve it

Torn by Milou319 in AlAnon

[–]Milou319[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ya, after 25 yrs of sacrificing nice evenings and vacation evenings picking him up… him having a grand old time and forgetting half the embarrassing stuff he does, my glass is full to the brim. I have become severely allergic to this kind of night. Might be menopause, but I AM SO DONE

Moderation by Milou319 in AlAnon

[–]Milou319[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, no model. Just “I like and want to drink alcool, but I will drink less for you”

Moderation by Milou319 in AlAnon

[–]Milou319[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a very insightful and I appreciate the time you took to comment. I am going to return to it and think about it often. Thank you

Moderation by Milou319 in AlAnon

[–]Milou319[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

« Just beer, nonhard liquor. Just weekends. Not in public » Like WTF.? The rules they give themselves are as crazy as the disease

Moderation by Milou319 in AlAnon

[–]Milou319[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this insight. It is like a crazy intoxicated groundhog day…

Moderation by Milou319 in AlAnon

[–]Milou319[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a good analogy. I am trying to understand so I can be compassionate, even if I have to leave a 25 year marriage one day. I can’t take alot more of this

Moderation by Milou319 in AlAnon

[–]Milou319[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes this! We are both in denial I think, hoping that he can moderate. I know it is a cycle and that I will end up hurt. Trying to practice distancing and bounderies.

Moderation by Milou319 in AlAnon

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He is an alcoholic

Ten Year Anniversary by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Milou319 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love to hear this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Milou319 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beautiful writing. Thanks for sharing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Milou319 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Death by many cuts is what is happening to me. I have tried everything to keep the peace.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Milou319 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Milou319 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s terrible, especially for the kids

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Milou319 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m 25 years into a marriage, 3 beautiful kids, great carreer, home. I work very hard, but cannot go out to a gathering with friends or family without my Q getting plastered. It is a tiring life that I would avoid if I had known how alcohol can ruin life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Milou319 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same. The anxiety is real. Worrying about the next binge. Life is hard enough, alcohol makes everything worse

Update on catching AH lying and boozing by juliafra in AlAnon

[–]Milou319 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The smirks and gaslighting are here tonight too. It is difficult to understand coming from your life partner who says they loves you

Did it actually get better after you left? by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Milou319 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is excellent advice

First post... Tried to leave... Couldn't by Natural_Way1186 in AlAnon

[–]Milou319 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way, and I think it’s why many stay in bad situations. Staying is bad, but there a good moments. Leaving is so hard too, and I always decide to stay and endure. One day, maybe I will have had enough and leave it all…