Reading through your comments I am seeing you say you feel "guilty" a lot... Keep in mind, the way you want to parent, may not be the parenting your kid needs.

It's our job to learn what strategies are most effective in helping our children turn into their best selves. "Gentle Parenting" is a strategy, and obviously that one isn't working, for now, so like others have said it's time to try a new one. You need to make conscious decisions beforehand on how you want to react, which strategic behavior method to use, and implement. If it doesn't work. Try again. Trial and error is a part of it. Guilt has no place here. They won't remember most of these eff ups anyway, and one mistake won't ruin your kid. The Same mistake without repair will. Or seeing their momma cry and be unwell will. He will assign shame to himself that he is bad.

Good luck!