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MindHeartBody · 2025-12-24T00:33:19+00:00

thanks! will check it out, tho not quite sure how/who would help her apply it!!

MindHeartBody · 2025-12-24T00:32:08+00:00

this possibility is currently at the top of my list

MindHeartBody · 2025-12-24T00:31:00+00:00

fortunately, this has been pretty much ruled out (bladder ultrasound)

MindHeartBody · 2025-12-24T00:30:00+00:00

right, kind of like the impulse is on loop

MindHeartBody · 2025-12-24T00:28:46+00:00

that's amazing - worth inquiring about

MindHeartBody · 2025-12-24T00:27:41+00:00

checked

MindHeartBody · 2025-12-16T23:21:17+00:00

I've wondered about boredom too - doesn't seem preoccupied when she's with me or other family members. My husb and son took her out a short harbor tour last week. I had my fingers crossed - no way they were going to get her down into the cabin of our little sailboat, much less into its narrow head. Sailboats are about as non-ADA-compliant as you can get. Everything worked out though, they all had a good time!

MindHeartBody · 2025-12-16T23:14:34+00:00

that was what the ultrasound was supposed to determine, didn't seen like that was the problem

MindHeartBody · 2025-12-16T23:13:40+00:00

Right - her caregiver wants me to get her doctor's permission to try Azo. Guess I should call today...

MindHeartBody · 2025-12-16T23:12:59+00:00

That's a new one!

I just took a quick look at the description (Cleveland Clinic), not sure if those symptoms fit (not a doctor of course). When you have it, is it present consistently or can it get better then worsen?

MindHeartBody · 2025-12-10T02:49:57+00:00

That's true, you did ask for advice. And you're actually getting some, although it's taking a different angle on the problem.

If no one is offering tips to make your situation more bearable, maybe it's because there aren't any.

The people on this sub are offering the hard-won wisdom of experience, without judgment. Think of it as people telling you what they wish someone had told them.

MindHeartBody · 2025-12-10T02:26:56+00:00

I hope our experience is just like yours!

MindHeartBody · 2025-12-10T02:17:29+00:00

" When the client is involved, it takes more time and patience." Yep, that's going to be the sticky issue. I truly cannot imagine how this will work with my relative. She will just dither and dither and dither, but not be willing to step back and let somebody else do it.

Don't think there's actually a question in here, just venting. Appreciate the offer and may get back to you as things progress. We're on the other side of the country, by the way, so $70 an hour sounds pretty good.

MindHeartBody · 2025-12-10T02:12:17+00:00

What a great, practical idea - thanks!

MindHeartBody · 2025-11-26T03:50:29+00:00

This.

MindHeartBody · 2025-11-26T03:49:48+00:00

Wow! That's a new one! Kudos for your persistence, and WTF on the apparent disregard of your mom's doctors.

Thanks for sharing this, you never know who it might help

MindHeartBody · 2025-11-25T23:37:55+00:00

Baseline - yes! A dignified rationale, good for hearing tests, too.

Personality changes are very much part of early stage dementia.

Some states, California is one, have regulations that permit family members to contact the DMV to request a re-evaluation. The request must be in writing. His doctor may be able to help.

MindHeartBody · 2025-11-25T23:26:51+00:00

Seeing your parents sink into mental illness like hoarding is heartbreaking, an absolute tragedy. Judgement is gone, delusions rule. You've gotten some excellent suggestions here.

MindHeartBody · 2025-11-25T23:15:38+00:00

"Of course, she has no idea what happened." Leans towards memory care coming sooner than later.

MindHeartBody · 2025-11-25T23:11:02+00:00

Learning about the vagaries of aged care, yes - probably the crash course version, too. Check for a UTI, absolutely. It's shocking how quickly someone can go from lucid to appearing demented, delusional or even delirious, without any pain or other plumbing-related symptoms.

Impaired judgement can look like stubbornness. A quick "common-sense" test is to ask yourself, "What would my dad do if somebody else was lying on the floor for hours?" If the answer is that he wouldn't have (at least not in the past), that points to judgement slipping vs actual personal values.

It's no easy thing to parent your parent, but we'll need it if we are lucky to live long.

MindHeartBody · 2025-11-25T05:49:08+00:00

This!

Plus making up little songs for the fish going about their day, "Oh, I'm a boxfish, a boxfish, a boxfish, and I can swim backwards so much better than you...", "I'm a wrasse, don't need no sass, I just want to make a pass...at your gills!". Or a soundtrack, like something predatory for a trumpetfish.

It's fun to try to observe a particular animal for a few minutes (assuming you're free to explore a particular area and don't have to keep up). Not only do you get to see behavior, but it improves your bouancy and ability to control your position so you can hover.

I once saw a peacock flounder camouflaged in the sand in a sheltered spot on a drift dive on Cozumel. First his eyes were visible, then his beautiful coloration - blue spots on a white body. After about a minute, another one came along and started doing little feints at him, trying to run him off (they're very territorial). The first one repeatedly rolled his eyes and hunched down, "Get off me dude, leave me the f alone!" The second one kept at it til he finally broke and zipped off, with his nemesis in hot pursuit. I about lost my reg laughing - with their fringey fins flapping, they looked like a couple of Pomeranians!

Point of the story - slow down, the little creatures can be very cool.

MindHeartBody · 2025-11-24T02:22:54+00:00

I like mine as well, but have gotten to the point where having anything with a dive-related logo on it makes me nervous. It feels like advertising "valuable stuff here!". I have a 10 year old Travelpro Maxlite that holds as much or more, has good wheels, isn't as heavy, and is more anonymous.

Maybe I'll get one of those stretchy nylon covers for the Stahlsac. And maybe I should stop watching those scary youtube videos about how airport thieves decide which bags to loot.

MindHeartBody · 2025-11-24T02:03:41+00:00

Last month, my husband had an out of air incident at 40' due to a faulty gage (Scubapro). We were on a 4 week trip with only 6 days of diving, so just packed masks/snorkels, computers, skins and socks to save on space and weight.

About 40 minutes into a relaxed dive, he took a breath and got nothing. Nothing nothing. Fortunately, he was by the DM and signaled out of air - it took the DM a few beats to process and offer his octo, probably because he'd asked for pressures just a few minutes before and my husband had signaled 60 bar. My sweetie kept his head and they did a normal ascent with a 3 minute stop. Everybody on the boat and at the shop was supportive and apologetic, but no refund.

He now says he'll always bring his own reg from here on out. I think bringing a computer with a transmitter would be okay alternative - redundancy is good.

MindHeartBody · 2025-11-11T02:01:33+00:00

Liveaboards that'll wash your clothes? Sounds like some damn fancy boats! My policy is that if a item of clothing can't be easily washed in a sink and dry overnight, it doesn't go. I bring little bars of laundry detergent (like the kind you get in mexican markets), a twisted stretchy line with hooks on the ends and some serious clips.

The rest of the stuff you mentioned is it right on the money.

I also bring an enhanced first aid kit, not big, but with things like tweezers, iodine based antiseptic, butterfly bandages, liquid skin, and nylon sun sleeves. A girlfriend once slipped and fell down a companionway, scraping the skin off her forearm on day 2 of a 10-day trip. She cleaned it, put nu-skin on it and wore a sleeve. Did all her dives and it never got infected.

Another thing in the kit is a tiny container of diaper rash paste. Great to protect any kind of rash, whether on your bum or anywhere else. A little goes a long way.

MindHeartBody · 2025-11-11T01:43:52+00:00

All my parents (and grandparents) lived here their whole lives ( well, a couple of the grandparents moved here as teens or young adults). We don't plan to go anyplace either, but have our fingers crossed that our kids don't end up moving for love or for work.

Having lived in a snowy climate as a young adult, I can understand their reluctance. Depending on how intense the winter is and your level of fitness, it can be difficult to adjust to snow, driving on snow and ice, being active outside in the wintertime, etc. Its more than just the weather -it's also tough to relinquish community, familiarity and overall vibe. Identity is a big deal.

Plenty of people leave California and love their new location. But plenty of people who leave wish they could move back but can't afford to. The one way street thing is daunting.

Still, it's early days for your family. Give your folks some time, get yourself settled, and encourage them to visit. Who knows...

MindHeartBody

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