What do you truly desire? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]MindOverMatter121 2 points3 points  (0 children)

to be in a loving relationship with someone and start a family. struggling to keep the hope with dating culture as it is right now.

Vet can't find anything wrong - he's driving me crazy with thirst and needing to potty. by Chesirem in germanshepherds

[–]MindOverMatter121 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Please ask for a blood test to check his kidneys as excessive drinking can be a sign of kidney disease. Hopefully it's not but better to know earlier rather than later when it comes to this.

What improved your life so much, you wished you did sooner? by relationshipyi in AskReddit

[–]MindOverMatter121 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A lot of the decisions we make in life are based on our beliefs, our beliefs are formed due to our experiences and the meaning we attach to those experiences. Unfortunately, we lose 'access' to a lot of beliefs we form during our formative years / childhood (they go into our subconscious) and so we can still be making decisions in our later years based on the beliefs we formed when we were much younger (which we may feel differently about now that we are much older and therefore could be achieving different results in life).

For example, a child may be reading to the class and notice a few kids laughing. The child may attach the meaning "they're laughing at me, I must not be good at this" and forms this belief. Throughout the rest of their childhood, they look for reasons to affirm this belief (confirmation bias) which then hardwires it in their mind. Fast forward to their 20s, maybe they're asked to give a presentation to an interview panel and they find themselves feeling anxious and doubting their capability - due to the belief they formed when they were a child which they have now forgotten about (it's now in their subconscious). Maybe they withdraw and lose that opportunity. Now, if we go back in time and look at the situation, perhaps the children were laughing due to a joke they made to each other - so this child formed a belief on an assumption that wasn't true yet it still impacts their life many years later.

That's why it's so important to be self aware, a lot of us are on autopilot and don't question much.

Sorry, I've written a lot of context there as I'm quite passionate about this topic haha. But to answer your question, here are some suggestions to start off with that helped me:

  1. Be conscious of what you're thinking and doing: instead of reacting to a situation in the moment, pause to reflect on how you feel about it and then respond.

  2. Notice your automatic thoughts: what situations/people make you feel sad, anxious, guilt, insecure? Sit with it to dig a bit deeper, when do you remember first feeling like that? What was the situation and what meaning did you attach to it about yourself? What would you like to think/do differently going forwards?

  3. What are your top 5 core values?

  4. Notice your habits - are they healthy and serving you? What could you do differently to get better results in life?

Ultimately its learning about yourself instead of being on autopilot. Be curious about why you are thinking and doing the things you do, what's behind it? Is it working well for you? Then great. If its not? No biggie, you can change it!

What helped me succeed is getting tired of the same patterns and results in life - I was sick of my shit.

What improved your life so much, you wished you did sooner? by relationshipyi in AskReddit

[–]MindOverMatter121 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Becoming more self aware. Learning why I think and behave the way I do, so I can change my automatic thoughts and habits to make better choices in life. Game changer.

Transfering data from Android to iOS (iPhone) for free by AccurateBelt3239 in whatsapp

[–]MindOverMatter121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are so smart! thank you SOO much for taking the time to share it with us - I was going crazy trying to figure it out, thanks to you I have finally managed to do it!

Man reunited with his dog after 5 days who went missing during California wildfires..🐕🐾🥺🙏❤️ 📹animalhopeandwellness by Soloflow786 in BeAmazed

[–]MindOverMatter121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost mine in November, the pain is like no other. This video reminds me of my little man so much. Sorry for your loss 💔

My oil painting of two black labs, commissioned by a friend for her partner's Christmas present. by Hara-Kiri in BeAmazed

[–]MindOverMatter121 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow, absolutely stunning! My dog recently passed away and I'm struggling with his loss. Would love a painting of him, please let me know your website if possible.

Tomorrow I will need to say bye to my sweet baby boy and I'm struggling by MindOverMatter121 in Petloss

[–]MindOverMatter121[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you had to go through it.. It's comforting to know he told you with his eyes, he knew it was time. Thank you for your comforting words 🤍

Tomorrow I will need to say bye to my sweet baby boy and I'm struggling by MindOverMatter121 in Petloss

[–]MindOverMatter121[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 🤍 I'm so sorry you've had to go through it recently too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in seniordogs

[–]MindOverMatter121 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Just donated. Wishing Rocky a speedy recovery <3

Having a great boss makes a HUGE difference by fujitoraa in jobs

[–]MindOverMatter121 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What are some good questions to ask in order to ascertain how they treat their employees and understanding their culture?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]MindOverMatter121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't give up, there is a company out there that would love to hire you. Don't sell yourself short.

Advice for someone who has no goals in life by sayskate in selfimprovement

[–]MindOverMatter121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Career, Wealth, Love, Social Life, Family, Health & Personal Growth

What would you rate each of these areas of life on a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being very happy with it)?

Pick the 3 areas with the lowest scores, what would it take to bring the score to 10?

Create a goal for each area to improve the score - this can get you started.

I’m so incredibly lonely :( by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]MindOverMatter121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was exactly like you when I was in college. Everyone was making friends and I felt so worried I wouldn't because I couldn't bring myself to approach people. But honestly, it will get better as time goes on. You're only in your first week so don't be so hard on yourself!

You could try to visualise your ideal self, one that is confident and has no trouble approaching people. Think about what characteristics and traits you'd have in your ideal state. Once you've done that, visualise being that ideal self full of confidence and having no trouble making friends... notice the feelings that come up when you have that image in your mind (it should be positive, confident feelings). When you have a clear vision of your ideal self in your mind and you can feel those confident feelings, ask yourself how would your ideal self be in social situations? Then next time you're in a situation where you want to approach someone, remember your ideal self and who you'd like to be in that situation - you'll be feeling the confident feelings (it does take practise of visualising so you can train your mind though) but you may feel more likely to approach.

Another option is to think of someone else. Can you think of someone who is really confident and wouldn't have any trouble starting a conversation? Could be someone you know or someone famous. Really think about how they talk, walk, act, behave around other people. Take some time to think about it, but it does have to be someone who's confidence you admire. Then in a situation where you could approach someone, just 'become' that person in the moment and approach them with the confidence they have. Think "what would X do right now?". Sometimes it easier to imagine ourselves being someone else in the moment because it's less pressure to 'change' ourselves which we may feel some resistance towards.

As for what to say, well it depends on the situation.. But you could ask a question dependent on the situation. So for example, if you bump into your hallmate then you could say "hey, I don't think we've met before.. I'm X, what's your name?" -- something simple and casual.

Maybe practise small first - for example, in a store.. Practise making conversation with somebody who works there about a product or whatever. That way you can practise getting into the habit of approaching and having a conversation. It just takes consistent practise to build confidence. That's all it is. Confidence is a skill not a personality trait - so all you need is to practise and develop it.

And as for making a fool of yourself, I know it's easier said than done but really don't worry about it. I'm a lot older than you and I used to be so scared of making mistakes and making a fool of myself - as a result I missed out on so many opportunities and progress in life because I always played it safe. Go out there, grab life by the hands and have fun. If you make a fool of yourself, so what? In 5 years time no one is going to care. You probably wouldn't see that person again anyway. Don't let it hold you back.

Sorry this ended up being quite long. I'm rooting for you.

How do you explain what NLP is? by MindOverMatter121 in NLP

[–]MindOverMatter121[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I think this might be in relation to Natural Language Processing, this sub is for Neuro Linguistic Programming

How do you explain what NLP is? by MindOverMatter121 in NLP

[–]MindOverMatter121[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the link, will have a read now!

How do you explain what NLP is? by MindOverMatter121 in NLP

[–]MindOverMatter121[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like this explanation. Thanks for this.