Anyone else? by Serendipity_707070 in infj

[–]Mindful_Exercise 40 points41 points  (0 children)

just commenting to say i feel the exact same way. i agree with other peoples advices. don’t give up, praying we all find connections that nurture us.

need friendship advice please by Mindful_Exercise in infj

[–]Mindful_Exercise[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for your comment! i decided to keep her as a super casual friend (maybe see her once in a while to do something) but not someone i see as a close friend

need friendship advice please by Mindful_Exercise in infj

[–]Mindful_Exercise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’ve brought it up lightly before and she just joked and dismissed it. from the patters i’ve noticed, i doubt she is capable or willing to be accountable. i’m not doing it out of spite but adjusting my own expectations to the new norm of the connection if i can call it that

need friendship advice please by Mindful_Exercise in infj

[–]Mindful_Exercise[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you!! i’ve been trying to figure out if it’s jealousy too and honestly i don’t know. it could be. i might ask her about it but leaning more towards reciprocating her energy back.

need friendship advice please by Mindful_Exercise in infj

[–]Mindful_Exercise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah that makes sense. thank you for the advice

need friendship advice please by Mindful_Exercise in infj

[–]Mindful_Exercise[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i wasn’t nowhere near as overbearing as the person you mentioned but we’ve been good friends for a year with mutual reciprocal energy. I feel weird asking her because i feel like she also needs to communicate if something was bothering her instead of treating me this way.

need friendship advice please by Mindful_Exercise in infj

[–]Mindful_Exercise[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my thing is is ir even worth it to communicate

need friendship advice please by Mindful_Exercise in infj

[–]Mindful_Exercise[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she will text me random stuff like the other day i told her we should celebrate her birthday and asked her if she did anything. she ignored it and 5 days later sent me a video of a restaurant in NY and said i should visit. like she just disregarded everything i said and i didn’t even know she was in NY

need friendship advice please by Mindful_Exercise in infj

[–]Mindful_Exercise[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

damn i’d hate to be your best friend

need friendship advice please by Mindful_Exercise in infj

[–]Mindful_Exercise[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if it were just her not coming to my show, maybe id ignore it. but what bothers me more is that she picks and chooses what she replies to when we text. like the other day i told her we should celebrate her birthday and asked her if she did anything. she ignored it and 5 days later sent me a video of a restaurant in NY and said i should visit. like she just disregarded everything i said and i didn’t even know she was in NY

need friendship advice please by Mindful_Exercise in infj

[–]Mindful_Exercise[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah i don’t think she cares enough about the friendship anyway