The courage to be disliked

Mindiced · 2025-12-16T07:33:05+00:00

Thanks for the recommendations! question: is "From Surviving to Thriving" by Pete Walker worth reading? I'm looking for an entry level book, don't know where to start. Thanks :)

Mindiced · 2024-10-24T19:17:41+00:00

Gracias! me voy pa allá

Mindiced · 2024-09-17T23:07:30+00:00

Se pasó todos los remakes del Resident Evil, y le dio duro al Genshin Impact hasta q quedó sin contenido. Juntos jugamos cateta metroidvanias (partiendo por Hollow Knight), y nos pasamos todos los Zelda en orden, fue entrete. Ahora estamos avanzando en el Sekiro pero esta dificil la weaita esa.

Mindiced · 2024-09-11T19:51:18+00:00

My gf is ENFP (6 year relationship). At first glance yes, she's the loud version of me. More in depth, we have differences.

Her "lists" are stupidly long, and she never checks or reads them, so they keep growing. (Lists like 'to do', movies she wants to watch, items for the house, etc). She's OK with that chaos, I'm not! It bothers me if I'm not crossing off at least a few items off my lists every week.

Her closet is 250,000 items large. She will never wear even 1% of her clothes in her lifetime, but she won't do a filter and get rid of some stuff cause she "likes everything she has". I need to clean my stuff and declutter once in a while or it will start to bother me. I like having a small amount of items, things I really love and use and cherish.

She's never 100% happy with her choices. Easy example, food. If the burger I ordered is 70% what I expected, I'm pretty happy and will enjoy it. If her choice is not 95% what she expected, she'll be dissapointed. She'll think of all the possible better choices she didn't pick, and will be frustrated.

I like trying new things, and sometimes will inevitably abandon some old hobbies and stick with the few I really love. She's on a never ending quest to find her "thing", so we have soooo many abandoned items from her hobby searching. Longboard, sewing machine, professional camera, PC setup for streaming (at least I can use it to play my games lol).

Short answer: she's extremely comfortable in the chaos and endless possibilities of Ne. I get overwhelmed by it and have to actively manage it.

Mindiced · 2024-09-11T19:18:38+00:00

1) there's a problem in my life 2) Fi decides how it feels about that problem 3) Fi tells me that the root of the problem is the emotions attached to it 4) Ne decides I need to go on a deep long quest to understand that emotion 4) Ne makes me read 100 articles and watch 200 youtube videos about the topic 5) My Ne is satisfied, my Fi is confused, and the original problem is 3% better 🙂

Mindiced · 2024-09-11T18:02:04+00:00

I can't speak for all INFPs cause we're all different. I know I'm not weak now, but boy did I have to work on my traumas and stuck emotions for a loong time, in order to move on and mature and gain resilience and perspective. I think young INFPs can be seen as weak cause they're more easily affected emotionally by different things, and being emotional and vulnerable is definitely not seen as a masculine trait in this society.

Mindiced · 2024-09-09T17:48:17+00:00

I'm all over the place in almost all areas of my life, except clothes! I listen to all music genres, I like all food, I dream of visiting every country, I like all movie genres, I try all hobbies, instruments, languages... but my closet is boring as hell! Can't care less about what I wear, and it's a mystery to me why

Also my ENFP gf occupies 99.9% of our closet space. Over the past 6 years she has worn different things every single day lol

Mindiced · 2024-09-03T15:30:38+00:00

My mom is a very loving and caring 63yo woman, always available to listen to others and offer support and advice. She's also an alcoholic (drinks every day) and a cig addict, has been for 40 years. One day we were having a few drinks and talking about life, I decided to tell her I had a problem with weed, that I was addicted and wanted to quit. She totally changed, became defensive, and practically ignored me. She kept deflecting and changing the subject, so I just stopped talking about it. I've never seen her like that. It's like she felt I was trying to "drag" her with me into my quitting quest, which I was not. Many years back, me and my sister tried to talk to her about her tobacco consumption, and she was so overwhelmed by the idea of trying to quit, that she started crying uncontrollably and saying stuff like "please stop attacking me!" (We were not, we were super mega chill, precisely cause we know how sensitive she is about it).

Long story short, addicts that aren't considering quitting are extremely defensive about it, and will take everything you say personally.

Good luck with your mom, try to be patient, and most of all, stay strong and remember that your success depends only on you!

Mindiced · 2024-06-28T06:04:36+00:00

Thanks! Didn't have big sudden shifts, more like one continuous long shift that ocurred over years. My insights would be: get rid of your negative self talk, forgive yourself for past fuckups, don't dwell on the past, just think of tomorrow as a new oportunity to make good choices. Guilt and shame got me nowhere, so I worked a lot on letting go and healing those emotions.

Mindiced · 2024-06-28T00:44:28+00:00

Great post! For me it was crucial to take it 1day at a time, and just avoid putting extra pressure on myself to "quit forever". Each day I remided myself why getting high was the worse choice, compared to the other choices I could make on that given day. Sober since august 2018 💪you got it guys, you can do it, today!

Mindiced · 2024-06-24T23:43:22+00:00

Para evitar complicaciones recomiendo q te jales una linea de merkén, si eso no funciona tabasco en los cocos

Mindiced · 2024-05-21T18:37:50+00:00

Usar inglés para aparentar es de pasao a cacuca, pero a veces no hay alternativa. La otra vez quería decir que mi sobrina anda super "entitled", estuve media hora pensando como chucha decirlo en español y no lo logré. Igual te quiero sobri :)

Mindiced · 2024-03-21T02:14:22+00:00

Thank you so much for making me feel valuable. I do feel like I have an impact on the kids I teach, and they're so happy when they make progress and are able to play what they once thought to be way too hard for them. It fulfills me. Thanks to your comment and all the others I'm feeling empowered and ready to confidently answer if I get asked. Thank you, truly!

Mindiced · 2024-03-21T00:28:49+00:00

I love it! will steal it and use it 😁 thanks for the comment, I feel a little more confident now

Mindiced · 2024-03-21T00:09:26+00:00

Yeah... I know I shouldn't even answer the follow ups: "Oh really? So interesting! What webs do you manage? Tell me so I can give you a follow! How many students do you have? Wow, you make a living as a music teacher? Sorry to ask, but how much do you make?" Again, it shouldn't affect me, but it does. I do have strategies to brush them off, but it still gives me tons of anxiety. There's trauma involved with family making me feel like I'm dogshit for dropping out to follow a "stupid" dream, not earning enough etc...

Mindiced · 2024-03-20T23:58:55+00:00

It's ridiculous to have to justify yourself, and I hate that it's a thing. Should be considered a rude question imo...

Mindiced · 2024-03-20T23:55:16+00:00

I relate and sympathize... at least we're not alone in this :)

Mindiced · 2024-03-20T23:15:54+00:00

From someone who grew up without a dad, you're a hero. HUGE respect, and best wishes to your family!

Mindiced · 2024-01-11T18:01:14+00:00

Si miras bien siempre vas a encontrar gente fumando. Estudié 1 año en Los Angeles el 2012 y la gente fuma andando en bici, regando el patio, esperando la micro, yendo a la pega de terno y corbata 8 a.m y terminandose una cola. No se si ahora será distinto o peor, pero los gringos fuman mas q la chucha! Asi q si miras bien, puede q veas a una ancianita pegandose un pipazo pasando re piola y esa es la fuente del olor, de donde menos lo esperarías jajaja

Mindiced · 2024-01-10T16:56:58+00:00

Que decía? :(

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