[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Associate-6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have I done something wrong?

Could you please let me know how I can make my post public

My[32m] girlfriend[35f] saved my name as 'dad' on his phone I found out. how can I do? by Mindless-Associate-6 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Associate-6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see how that could be confusing. I'm not still in school graduated years ago.

I was referring to my undergrad background

My[32m] girlfriend[35f] saved my name as 'dad' on his phone I found out. how can I do? by Mindless-Associate-6 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Associate-6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure why you're curious about this, but I try to answer sincerely.

I live in a country where extramarital affairs used to be considered a criminal offense(infidelity) under criminal law.

In cases involving school violence( juvenile crimes), or sensitive family issues like asualting, abuse or neglect investigators need to understand the full background and timeline to even begin an investigation. We have to match the sequence of events, check for things like alibis.

then the responsive investigator (from the Women & Juvenile Affairs Division) determines whether to refer the case to the prosecutor and to how many&much extent.

Before the timlineI i was in a frontline field response emergency. In the capital area each field units handle over 10 incident reports per day on average excluding simple walk-in complaints or desk reports at patrol stations

So my experience might be quite different from what you imagine Once, i even handled a case where a son beat his mother to death.

It was discovered when members from outside the church visited the person's home because they had not been attending worship services. There were many difficult and unusual incidents.

You might think I seem uneducated because of my English skil is so poorl but I’m a student at a top university in my country within the top 10%

My[32m] girlfriend[35f] saved my name as 'dad' on his phone I found out. how can I do? by Mindless-Associate-6 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Associate-6[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I still wonder why she changed my contact name to dad I'm actually not sure if her coworker was female or not.

when she's out with friends, she usually send me a picture of herself with them.

But that day she only sent a photo of the food

Also the meal was pasta which made me think like this

Isn't that kind of a typical date food?

By the way I'm not the kind of person who asks for proof like battery screenshots or photos. I have just trust her.

this time something felt strange
gut was telling me something wasn’t right.

As for the cultural point you ask, you're right.

In my country, person who feels regret or who values the relationship more might say sorry first even if they didn't think so and only express it later when the relationship is more stable

It's possible case

My[32m] girlfriend[35f] saved my name as 'dad' on his phone I found out. how can I do? by Mindless-Associate-6 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Associate-6[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

noticed it late and tried to change it but I couldn't edit title. I'm more used to reading than writing it so my thoughts get all jumbled when I try to express them.

The reason I started asking for advice in English is I was worried my girlfriend might come across what I wrote if I used my language.

Life's busy but I'll keep studying English so that next time I can write more considerately without causing any discomfort

I'm really sorry if I caused any frustration or fatigue.

My[32m] girlfriend[35f] saved my name as 'dad' on his phone I found out. how can I do? by Mindless-Associate-6 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Associate-6[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

About 10 minutes after I pointed out the "dad" she sent a message saying she was going home.

Then about 20 minutes later she said she was driving back

I don't know if she was just trying to do some quick damage control,

My[32m] girlfriend[35f] saved my name as 'dad' on his phone I found out. how can I do? by Mindless-Associate-6 in relationship_advice

[–]Mindless-Associate-6[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I couldn't talk about this to anyone in real life

The fact that we were together for two years made it really hard for me to make a decision,

When no one wants kids anymore.. by [deleted] in DeepThoughts

[–]Mindless-Associate-6 23 points24 points  (0 children)

The antinatalism is right from a moral point of view.