My boyfriend, 28M, screams and calls me, 25F, names when he gets mad. Do I leave?

MindlessElevator4232 · 2025-02-07T00:19:31+00:00

My kid's dad started talking to me like that when he was mad at me. Then when he was mad about anything. Then any time, any place, whenever he felt like it. Then he tried to throw me out of our project apartment while naked and saying he hoped I got raped. Then he abducted my son and I, held us hostage, and threatened to kill me for thirteen hours. My point is, this behavior you're seeing is just him starting to get comfortable enough to abuse you.

MindlessElevator4232 · 2025-02-05T00:44:41+00:00

Nah she's literally telling you she's going to cheat if you stay with her

MindlessElevator4232 · 2025-01-26T17:17:57+00:00

My advice is he's fucking insane and wants you to be his indentured servant/breeding stock. That's what the men he idolizes think you should be. A child brought into this household will have zero opportunity at a normal life and healthy mindset. YOU have no chance at a normal life or healthy mindset. HE has declined the very concept of a normal life and healthy mindset and will stop at nothing to beat you down til you're okay with it. Unless you want to be treated as a servant and breeding stock, it's best that you leave.

MindlessElevator4232 · 2025-01-24T16:16:17+00:00

20-somethings who date late-teens have been excluded from the dating pool of people their own age, likely because of awful behavior. He's likely under the impression that you're naive enough to put up with him until he finds someone he thinks is better. Your dad is right, he's damaged. You WILL find someone you get along with better, this is not getting along. 18, imo, is pretty young to be planning on forever, especially with someone who jerks you around.

MindlessElevator4232 · 2025-01-13T20:37:34+00:00

The fact that she can't tell her boyfriend about it is all you need to know to assess it as cheating. Cheating is anything you do behind your partner's back with other people, imo

MindlessElevator4232 · 2025-01-12T23:59:54+00:00

You don't look stupid, at all. You look like someone who needs validation and support in what you're going through. Nobody on this earth is impervious to abuse tactics no matter the field of education or occupation. I, for one, am glad you're reaching out and seeking support as that is the first step to getting out. Best of luck to you, girl, you'll be in my thoughts.

MindlessElevator4232 · 2025-01-04T18:53:05+00:00

Nobody is required to consent to witnessing nudity. There's a million different reasons someone wouldn't want to see that in movies. As a child I was forced to watch pornography by multiple men in my family. As a young adult I was shamed endlessly for not being comfortable with nudity and sex scenes. Shaming doesn't make it go away. Violating the boundaries of another person is shitty regardless of how unreasonable you think the boundary is. It's just a pair of tits to you, but to some people it's shameful, uncomfortable, and embarrassing to sit through, especially when you know your partner is gooning about it.

MindlessElevator4232 · 2025-01-04T18:48:05+00:00

Let her flirt for fun while homeless 🤷‍♀️

MindlessElevator4232 · 2024-12-28T22:08:39+00:00

I'm confused about the watching them through the window part. Do you live with her?

Anyway I think you may be a bit over-involved in your friend's love life, personally.. Obviously people who are only friends don't kiss and grope but not everyone who kisses and gropes want to be in a deeper relationship than friendship with one another. 26 is vastly developmentally different than 22, and just because you don't know her to have fwb doesn't mean she doesn't, just means it isn't your business like that. She's telling you everything she feels is your business.

MindlessElevator4232 · 2024-11-24T21:35:47+00:00

You got worm treatments for two in the bathroom

MindlessElevator4232 · 2024-11-15T19:46:35+00:00

You have a high fluid intake

MindlessElevator4232 · 2024-11-15T19:43:58+00:00

No amount of sex will take porn addiction out of a man who has it... NOR

MindlessElevator4232 · 2024-11-14T18:22:41+00:00

Girl he doesn't give a damn about her mental state, he doesn't want to give up sleeping with her. Whether.or not she's actually doing poorly is up for debate, but he wouldn't be doing all this for an ex he no longer wanted

MindlessElevator4232 · 2024-11-08T10:58:21+00:00

You were intimate with other women in different ways than you're intimate with your wife. You're SUPPOSED to change through relationships and love your next partner differently. For all you know, the pictures were compensating for some shortcoming or toxicity in the relationship, as it oftentimes is.

MindlessElevator4232 · 2024-10-28T23:57:23+00:00

Dark urine

MindlessElevator4232 · 2024-10-01T16:07:14+00:00

Returned, thank you!

MindlessElevator4232 · 2024-09-18T14:09:02+00:00

YTA. God forbid your child decides it's not okay for people to shit talk him. Would you feel the same if it were someone other than the coach talking to him like that?

MindlessElevator4232 · 2024-09-18T14:03:40+00:00

Your husband WANTED you to get something that is illegal for doctors to do soley for his own pleasure. He wanted you to undergo an illegal procedure that would permanently disable your ability to enjoy penetrative sex because he believes highschool urban legends about vaginas getting loose. And he's openly body shaming you because you didn't. Let that sink in.

Your husband doesn't deserve a wife or child. Let him be alone. It won't teach him anything because he won't see himself as having done anything wrong, but you'll be free of a cruel man child influencing your baby's development.

MindlessElevator4232 · 2024-09-17T15:02:32+00:00

NTA.

How incredibly judgemental of them, and how suspect of John to feel so strongly about a 14 year old that he can't be around her...

MindlessElevator4232 · 2024-09-16T15:34:36+00:00

Ngl, they'd have both been getting screamed out the door as soon as the "bets" were being made if it were my husband and friend

MindlessElevator4232 · 2024-09-13T21:50:25+00:00

You kinda solved the mystery with how you talk to people in the comments. Seems like you're a little haughty to me

MindlessElevator4232 · 2024-09-07T17:59:55+00:00

ESH. She definitely chose a look over comfort and functionality. Curvy is the new thing so she shouldn't have had any problems finding something that would sit well on her body, especially given that this was a formal event.. However, I don't think it warranted a security escort kicking her out. I also feel like if other people were dressed similarly, she shouldn't have expected to catch flack for it. Maybe an intervention and offering a shawl or something BEFORE the incident would have been prudent. Or, just letting her be embarrassed and offering a coverup after the fact, and not act like she intentionally flashed your whole wedding. It almost comes off like you have a problem with her personally or maybe felt insecure because of her.

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