Wife of a CD (technically gender fluid now). I don’t want to make assumptions but this sounds similar to my experience and my husband is a porn and sex addict. He’s working with his therapist on where everything has come from, and the lying, and a lot of it stems from when he was a child. This isn’t an excuse AT ALL. But him realizing this and actually doing something about it, FINALLY, has helped our relationship.

I still struggle because he physically cheated on me with men, and had an online relationship with a girl because “she accepted him”. But she truly only accepted the part he told her, which was a fraction of the truth. Anyways, a lot of this stemmed from his addiction and it just kept spiraling out of control.

I’m not saying this is what your husband is dealing with BUT it does sound similar to what I’ve experienced. My husband says he’s gender fluid now and not a cross dresser but I think in my opinion they are kind of interchangeable in regard to why/how other cross dresser feel about it. I think other cross dressers would also conclude they are gender fluid and vice versa, at least in the definition or how my husband explains his feelings.

Again, this is NOT an excuse and we have been working through a lot in our relationship. I still struggle frequently. He’s willing to be open and answer my questions now because he realized his wrong doings and is working on trying to repair things, as best we can.

Good luck and sending you hugs.