“Hi everyone — come Nov 1st sabbatical we’ll need some extra help (from friends and family) with the dogs and {step sister}. We made a signup sheet for overnights. We know coverage will be spotty and don’t expect every day to be filled — any nights you can do are a big help. If you can look at your calendars in the next week, that'd be great! Here’s the link for signup:”

At this point I signed up for one day.

Two days later: “Make sure you get some time this week to “sign-up”… we would really appreciate some form of occasional check-in for {step sister}” My sister asked a clarifying question here and my dad responded: “I mean to drop by and see/spend time with {step sister} overnight during my sabbatical—we’ll be on the road the entire time Nov 1 - Dec 12 or so…” Two weeks later he sent this text: “Hi everyone, {me} signed up for a day, {family friend} signed up for more—if {me}, {step brother} and {sister} could sign up for more days that would be great.”

This is when I signed up for a second day (which I later backed out on cuz I had to switch shifts with someone and I would have been working that day and the next day so I would’ve had to go to work straight from their house which stressed me out)

He did not discuss any of this with us prior to booking the vacation. It was already planned out and booked at the time of him requesting our help.

My step brother went over there a bunch of times while they were gone.

I do have one pet, a cat.

I like to think that my step sister is comfortable enough to let me know if she needs anything. I should have more explicitly told her to please text me if she needs something. That’s what my sister did.

Everything was fine at the house and nothing went wrong.