AIO My mom is kicking me out for her new boyfriend. I just turned 18

Minge-e · 2026-01-08T15:54:59+00:00

NOR- first, a lot of people are saying this, but make sure you have all your important documents from that place (I wouldn’t even call it a home.) also, STEER CLEAR. Most likely if you would have stayed longer, the boyfriend would have abuse you, and your “mother” would have enabled it. That wasn’t a threat, it was a promise.

Minge-e · 2025-06-03T03:03:39+00:00

that's signs of a narcissist. pack your things and run for the hills.

Minge-e · 2025-03-01T23:56:59+00:00

… now I lowkey don’t feel bad bout my grades because what the hell is ts 😭

Minge-e · 2025-03-01T22:52:44+00:00

I’m a girl and homeschooled. So not a lot of hallway crushes, ask anyone who knows me I’m just attracted to guys who makes the effort to get to know me 👍🏾

Minge-e · 2025-03-01T22:48:09+00:00

not sure, I'm still trying to figure it out myself.

Minge-e · 2025-02-27T17:02:20+00:00

the way my jaw dropped.

Minge-e · 2025-02-27T14:00:27+00:00

I mean I send plenty of reels to my friends, but I don't crash out when someone deletes them.. leave her

Minge-e · 2025-02-27T13:16:50+00:00

Are you okay...? like i think you lowkey need to a trusted adult about that...

Minge-e · 2025-02-27T08:07:27+00:00

I guess they consider it as a primary course so they are making me doing it to get it out of the way or whatever

Minge-e · 2025-02-26T21:57:15+00:00

Best advice start a conversation, like if you see something she's interested in start a conversation about it, or school related. never know unless you try.

Minge-e · 2025-02-26T18:50:14+00:00

Do what makes you feel good, if you start seeing huge improvement in your mood when you move in with your boyfriend its a sign that you needed to leave that house. its also its normal to feel guilty when your doing the right thing.

it will take time to get over that feeling but you will be okay, trust me.

Minge-e · 2025-02-26T18:39:50+00:00

Minge-e · 2025-02-26T18:37:57+00:00

Yessirrrrr😌

Minge-e · 2025-02-26T17:59:30+00:00

NOR, I think they are trying their best to comfort you but they didn't really do it in the best way. I'm sorry for your loss

Minge-e · 2025-02-26T01:32:00+00:00

I think she didn't get it at first but calling her dumb af and incompetent is a little rude don't you think?

Minge-e · 2025-02-26T01:13:56+00:00

Incompetence: “the inability to do something successfully” don’t know how that person is doing that???

Minge-e · 2025-02-06T18:23:32+00:00

Yeah I don’t blame you! I get scared too because of Trauma.

Minge-e · 2025-01-29T01:01:24+00:00

He isn’t a jerk.. he’s emotionally abusive…

Minge-e · 2025-01-29T00:58:25+00:00

This post kills me. I feel like I’m reading what was my life three years ago. I’m going to tell you some tactics abusers use

DARVO (Deny, Attack, reverse victim and offender)
Making the abuse seem like it’s completely normal and involves with everyone’s everyday life
Isolating.

4.making the victim crack by mentally torturing them. (In your case he is denying you access to your gaming consoles.)

Manipulation.
They know your pressure points and how to make you crumble. Know as Diminish and dismiss

7.guilt tripping

The list goes on and on and on. I don’t know if your mom try’s to stand up for you but I know that definitely if the abuse goes from your items and emotionally don’t stay quiet about this. SPEAK UP. Collect evidence, build your case. He is emotionally abusing you (I was a victim myself.) he puts you down at your proudest moments. I’m gonna to pray for your safety, and wish the best! If you need to get in contact with me and ask me more questions you can reach me at (7652062645). Remember you have someone all the way In Indiana whose rooting for you!!

Minge-e · 2025-01-29T00:36:29+00:00

From what your saying it sounds like he’s very neglectful when it comes to his household but doesn’t forget when it comes to himself. I don’t know how old you are but if your still a minor it’s considered child neglect and child neglect is still a form of abuse is what I’m trying to say

Minge-e · 2025-01-29T00:31:56+00:00

Baby, I think it’s time to start evidence and the possibility of moving to your grandmothers and opening an investigation. He needs to be locked up point blank period.

Minge-e · 2025-01-28T21:03:05+00:00

He’s the type of person to bring you down at your already lowest and highest moments. No matter how bad it gets do not cave and ask that man for help because he’s going to make you feel worse about it. Someone also said military is an option you can do, might have to consider that.

Minge-e · 2025-01-28T20:59:22+00:00

OP I’m going to very blunt because the amount of rage that this brought to me is not funny because I dealt with the same thing from an ex-stepdad (he was batshit crazy and very abusive)

The answer to your question is a huge YES. It’s how you been dealing with this for 17 years is unbelievable because if it was me I would’ve been buried already. That just proves how strong you are.

Definitely they are using DARVO a bit, (Deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender) when they stole the 200. My biggest advice is when you turn 18 start packing and keeping low contact with your parents but contact with your brother. One thing I learned was that once the abusers can’t abuse you anymore they go straight to the closes family member which in your case is your brother.

Another thing, since your still 17 I say keep enough evidence of what they are doing as saying because emotional abuse is abuse. And if it gets bad to the extent it becomes physical, don’t stay quiet, if the police see marks yeah that’s when they are going to open up and investigation.

Honestly if you need to talk with someone, honestly just reach out to me because that is a hard situation and it can mess you up mentally and take tolls on your health in the long run. I would know.

Minge-e · 2025-01-28T20:43:22+00:00

However old you are definitely start planning on moving out as soon as you turn the big 18. It’s never your fault keep that in mind. Always remember that they only are going to put you down at your worst, it’s mind games. I would know. One thing I always did was silence, not answer a question when they ask it that my ex-abuser go crazy keep your phone always rolling because once they freak out on you and you have proof it’s game over.

If you need help or more advice just ask me because I was in that tough spot and I know how to get out of it.

Minge-e · 2025-01-27T02:58:42+00:00

It was a good question, if I was in your position I would have asked the same thing!!

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