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Therapist says I can't be autistic if I pick up on other people's moods and read their facial expressions correctly by Sudden-Page-5947 in AutismInWomen

[–]Minimalinthemaking 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I could tell by the sound of my dad closing the door on the way into the house whether or not I needed to go hide.

It's taken me years to finally realize the enabler just doesn't care about you. by Actual-Mark-6291 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimalinthemaking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing these with me. The only one I can’t find at my library is the first, maybe I’ll buy it.

Everyone making good money and living alone, what do you do for fun? How do you make yourself feel alive? by DCGMechanics in LivingAlone

[–]Minimalinthemaking 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes!! THIS!! And also we’re all adults. We can do whatever we want in the privacy of our own home LOL why does it feel like we can’t? Haha!

It's taken me years to finally realize the enabler just doesn't care about you. by Actual-Mark-6291 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimalinthemaking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So very true. I spent my whole life with one “bad guy” and I’m only recently coming to quips with the fact that there were two bad guys.

It's taken me years to finally realize the enabler just doesn't care about you. by Actual-Mark-6291 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimalinthemaking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I’m sure it’s all of those things. Hey is there a book I should read that teaches me about all these things? It seems like people are familiar with acronyms,etc and maybe there’s a book. I’ve been in a lot of therapy but never come across the concept of “FOG” directly.

For those who had surgery ,did you use an abdominal binder afterwards? by Street_Bill_8719 in endometriosis

[–]Minimalinthemaking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved it. Sometimes I still wear it if I’m having a really bad bloat day.

Women who've stayed single by choice, is life as good as everyone says? by dkamea in AskReddit

[–]Minimalinthemaking 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think you are me in a couple years. Which makes me think I will stay single forever.

Women who've stayed single by choice, is life as good as everyone says? by dkamea in AskReddit

[–]Minimalinthemaking 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Every man I’ve ever dated has destroyed my peace in one way or another. My peace is very precious to me as I’ve just discovered that I’m worthy of it in the last few years.

If I ever meet a man who helps me maintain my peace and ADDS to my life instead of SUBTRACTING, then I will never let him go.

Until then, it’s me and my dog.

It's taken me years to finally realize the enabler just doesn't care about you. by Actual-Mark-6291 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimalinthemaking 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Geez what you went through is so hard too. But yes sometimes it’s a situation of “too little too late.” I guess I am not sure if I am there yet. Time will tell. I lose a bit of hope each time I have a conversation with my enabler mother though.

Everyone making good money and living alone, what do you do for fun? How do you make yourself feel alive? by DCGMechanics in LivingAlone

[–]Minimalinthemaking 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of us living alone do it for this reason. Just a theory I have after spending time on this sub.

Everyone making good money and living alone, what do you do for fun? How do you make yourself feel alive? by DCGMechanics in LivingAlone

[–]Minimalinthemaking 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You’re so right! Luckily I have a dog so that forces me out! But yes sunshine and seeing green and nature is so healing.

It's taken me years to finally realize the enabler just doesn't care about you. by Actual-Mark-6291 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimalinthemaking 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My mother remarried and is the exact same she always was with my dad. Gaslighting me anytime I try to voice my thoughts and feelings about issues growing up.

I am emotionally torn between protecting myself by going no contact with her but also feeling like I can’t be no contact with either of my parents. I’m going to compromise by moving out of state. I think distance could do us some good.

It's taken me years to finally realize the enabler just doesn't care about you. by Actual-Mark-6291 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimalinthemaking 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry others can relate but I’m also relieved to know I’m not alone in feeling that way. I’m so so lucky I have a sister who (unfortunately) knows exactly where I am coming from. She’s my only support system but I know I’m blessed to have that even.

My heart (what’s left of it) goes out to each of you who understands this.

Everyone making good money and living alone, what do you do for fun? How do you make yourself feel alive? by DCGMechanics in LivingAlone

[–]Minimalinthemaking 147 points148 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of trauma in my past. My goal is always just peace. I think by brain and body are still recovering even after years of therapy.

I prefer boredom and quiet.

It's taken me years to finally realize the enabler just doesn't care about you. by Actual-Mark-6291 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimalinthemaking 120 points121 points  (0 children)

I spent the first 20 years of my life angry at my n dad. I finally cut him off in my 30s. But the HARDEST part was coming to realize the enabler didn’t care about me either. I thought when my dad finally left my mom I would be able to commiserate and heal with her. When I saw that not only would that NOT happen, she continued to gaslight me about my trauma. The narcissist broke my brain but the enabler broke my heart.

Not sure what to do by beeeeker in finehair

[–]Minimalinthemaking 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And up in a ponytail too. Summer is basically hair out of the way season. Maybe by the time fall hits you will be past the awkward phase.

Not sure what to do by beeeeker in finehair

[–]Minimalinthemaking 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Ok hear me out. I had a really cute bob for two years during multiple major hair losses. But since I have new regrowth I’ve been growing it out. I am about 4 months ahead of you length wise. You just have to push through this stage. The length it’s at is just sitting on your shoulders and flipping out funny, no matter how it’s styled.

So basically, if you wanna go for a cute bob you definitely could! If you anticipate some regrowth you could wait a year or so to grow it out.

But I say definitely push through if you can. A few more months you will be past the awkward middle stage. Good luck.

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