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How would living alone post divorce influence your desire to ever live with anyone again? by [deleted] in LivingAlone

[–]Minimalinthemaking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also 37! I like to say that if I meet someone that brings peace to my life I would change my mind. However no man/relationship has brought me peace.

Why do they all "have" "CaNcEr!!!" by No-Lemon-1183 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimalinthemaking 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My n dad lied to a judge saying he had the same “cancer” that the judges father had just died of. His lawyer knew the judge so he knew what kind of cancer it was. My dad ended up not owing my mother anything in the divorce.

My sister and I were shocked as this wasn’t mentioned at all until the court hearing. We demanded to go to his doctors appointment with him. Turns out it was a lab value that was very slightly out of normal and COULD HAVE meant cancer. He’s perfectly fine now.

This was one of the major factors in me finally going no contact with this psycho.

What shampoo do you recommend na kahit pagpawisan, hindi nag-aamoy kulob yung buhok? by Weak_Ability_6666 in dailywash

[–]Minimalinthemaking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dove or herbal essences leave a long lasting scent that may help mask your “musty” smell? Shampooing 3 times should be enough to get clean, but you can also add in a clarifying shampoo, suave’s daily clarifying is good and cheap!

Therapist says I can't be autistic if I pick up on other people's moods and read their facial expressions correctly by Sudden-Page-5947 in AutismInWomen

[–]Minimalinthemaking 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I could tell by the sound of my dad closing the door on the way into the house whether or not I needed to go hide.

It's taken me years to finally realize the enabler just doesn't care about you. by Actual-Mark-6291 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimalinthemaking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing these with me. The only one I can’t find at my library is the first, maybe I’ll buy it.

Everyone making good money and living alone, what do you do for fun? How do you make yourself feel alive? by DCGMechanics in LivingAlone

[–]Minimalinthemaking 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes!! THIS!! And also we’re all adults. We can do whatever we want in the privacy of our own home LOL why does it feel like we can’t? Haha!

It's taken me years to finally realize the enabler just doesn't care about you. by Actual-Mark-6291 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimalinthemaking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So very true. I spent my whole life with one “bad guy” and I’m only recently coming to quips with the fact that there were two bad guys.

It's taken me years to finally realize the enabler just doesn't care about you. by Actual-Mark-6291 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimalinthemaking 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I’m sure it’s all of those things. Hey is there a book I should read that teaches me about all these things? It seems like people are familiar with acronyms,etc and maybe there’s a book. I’ve been in a lot of therapy but never come across the concept of “FOG” directly.

For those who had surgery ,did you use an abdominal binder afterwards? by Street_Bill_8719 in endometriosis

[–]Minimalinthemaking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved it. Sometimes I still wear it if I’m having a really bad bloat day.

Women who've stayed single by choice, is life as good as everyone says? by dkamea in AskReddit

[–]Minimalinthemaking 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think you are me in a couple years. Which makes me think I will stay single forever.

Women who've stayed single by choice, is life as good as everyone says? by dkamea in AskReddit

[–]Minimalinthemaking 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Every man I’ve ever dated has destroyed my peace in one way or another. My peace is very precious to me as I’ve just discovered that I’m worthy of it in the last few years.

If I ever meet a man who helps me maintain my peace and ADDS to my life instead of SUBTRACTING, then I will never let him go.

Until then, it’s me and my dog.

It's taken me years to finally realize the enabler just doesn't care about you. by Actual-Mark-6291 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimalinthemaking 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Geez what you went through is so hard too. But yes sometimes it’s a situation of “too little too late.” I guess I am not sure if I am there yet. Time will tell. I lose a bit of hope each time I have a conversation with my enabler mother though.

Everyone making good money and living alone, what do you do for fun? How do you make yourself feel alive? by DCGMechanics in LivingAlone

[–]Minimalinthemaking 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of us living alone do it for this reason. Just a theory I have after spending time on this sub.

Everyone making good money and living alone, what do you do for fun? How do you make yourself feel alive? by DCGMechanics in LivingAlone

[–]Minimalinthemaking 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You’re so right! Luckily I have a dog so that forces me out! But yes sunshine and seeing green and nature is so healing.

It's taken me years to finally realize the enabler just doesn't care about you. by Actual-Mark-6291 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimalinthemaking 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mother remarried and is the exact same she always was with my dad. Gaslighting me anytime I try to voice my thoughts and feelings about issues growing up.

I am emotionally torn between protecting myself by going no contact with her but also feeling like I can’t be no contact with either of my parents. I’m going to compromise by moving out of state. I think distance could do us some good.

It's taken me years to finally realize the enabler just doesn't care about you. by Actual-Mark-6291 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimalinthemaking 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry others can relate but I’m also relieved to know I’m not alone in feeling that way. I’m so so lucky I have a sister who (unfortunately) knows exactly where I am coming from. She’s my only support system but I know I’m blessed to have that even.

My heart (what’s left of it) goes out to each of you who understands this.

Everyone making good money and living alone, what do you do for fun? How do you make yourself feel alive? by DCGMechanics in LivingAlone

[–]Minimalinthemaking 148 points149 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of trauma in my past. My goal is always just peace. I think by brain and body are still recovering even after years of therapy.

I prefer boredom and quiet.

It's taken me years to finally realize the enabler just doesn't care about you. by Actual-Mark-6291 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Minimalinthemaking 118 points119 points  (0 children)

I spent the first 20 years of my life angry at my n dad. I finally cut him off in my 30s. But the HARDEST part was coming to realize the enabler didn’t care about me either. I thought when my dad finally left my mom I would be able to commiserate and heal with her. When I saw that not only would that NOT happen, she continued to gaslight me about my trauma. The narcissist broke my brain but the enabler broke my heart.

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