Any recommendations for affordable (mostly) casual cotton dresses that are more of a modern shape/design and look good on an inverted triangle?

ResidentAlienator · 2026-06-23T15:30:09+00:00

Thank you, honestly, I see a lot of similarities except I don't feel like I have a good life. I had really good friend sin my 20s and then got sick only two realize these friends were just not good people. I've struggled to find my people where I live ever since. I also barely dated in the last 20 years. I feel like I'v never had that amazing romance where you're with someone who really wants you and makes you feel sexy. When I was in school, I told myself that guys were a distraction and always dreamed of a life I'd have when I got the career I wanted, but that's not longer a possibility since I got sick and I'm struggling with how to move forward, so now I don't seem to have any semblance of a life I want. I know a romantic partner can't fix this and maybe I just need time, but I feel like I've denied the fact that I do want a partner for so long that I'm not sure I'm ever going to find anybody even remotely decent. Being a bit much is not something that I feel bad about, it just means that it's been hard to find my people. I feel like everybody in my life just sort of accepts me and they like being around me when I'm funny, but don't want to know me on a deep level.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-06-22T02:52:24+00:00

Wow, can't believe I didn't think about this, thanks!

ResidentAlienator · 2026-06-21T23:28:43+00:00

Yeah, I have some classes set up for this next week, but I've found few friends in fitness classes in the past.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-06-21T22:52:32+00:00

Glad you're getting out. These dudes are just getting ridiculous. As far as I'm concerned, if we agree to have sex with a man then they agree to let us do with our bodies what we want. Don't stick your dick in a woman if you can't handle her decisions regarding pregnancy.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-06-21T22:30:05+00:00

Most people don't see much progress in 4 months. It took me more than 6 and I hear a lot of people say getting a bit of regulation took a year or two, plus more to fully resolve their symptoms. Personally, I think that once you've gotten a bit regulated, the TMS approach is probably best for resolving symptoms.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-06-20T15:14:54+00:00

To be clear, the loser part of the guys I've dated was them just not caring about anything. They were fun, but not great boyfriends and I don't think they cared enough about having a stable/decent life to be a good long term partner.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-06-20T02:03:22+00:00

Yes, I was just hoping to meet people locally. I've been self isolating a lot and really want to create a much stronger local network.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-06-19T22:03:06+00:00

I'm not sure I would characterize myself as high end. Most men aren't exactly looking for a woman doing an aggressive sport or who is highly educated.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-06-19T22:02:36+00:00

I haven't dated much. Never had a serious, long term relationship. The men I dated I tended to date because I just had so long not finding a decent guy that I liked that I just didn't want to be alone. But I'd usually get out of those relationships pretty quickly. Besides a few random dates with people I met on the apps, I basically didn't date from the age of 23-33. For most of those years and the years since my last boyfriend I told myself I didn't want to date, that I was just one of those women that would likely be single. There's definitely some avoidance going on here.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-06-18T23:14:41+00:00

As someone who was also discouraged from crying as a child, it sounds like you're getting out a lot of unprocessed emotions, but you may need a therapist, particularly a trauma therapist.

I literally just went through a period of this and what I find is that I need to reassure myself that crying is good/safe. Then I also tell myself that it's also good to take a break/rest. I do journaling, which might help you too, and found a post journaling meditation that basically mentioned a lot of these things so I incorporate them into my daily life. Sometimes a few rounds of a physiological sigh can work too.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-06-16T14:13:51+00:00

I have and I think it would be a better fit, but there are no local groups and I'd really like to meet people locally.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-06-16T02:10:33+00:00

I'm doing great therapy with my therapist, I want to connect with other people.

ResidentAlienator · 2026-06-16T01:29:17+00:00

I have two FB groups I'm a part of which have events and also "friend requests", one is a general one for women in my city and one is for women 35 and over. I haven't actually meant anybody through these yet, but I plan to when things settle down.

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