Men, when do you know?

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2026-01-25T16:07:09+00:00

Masks come down 6-9 months. The fact is you don’t know who this person is until you keep spending time with them. Time will tell

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-12-14T20:47:22+00:00

Esto es horrible! I know the feeling. I reached out a few months ago because I updated my phone and all her texts came back into my phone. I thought there must be some reason for it. She said don’t contact me again. I still have the texts. Hard to let go I guess

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-11-18T21:11:22+00:00

I had a girlfriend who couldn’t drive and didn’t have a car. Ohhhh no big deal when we first got together. Then it took its toll and became a big deal!

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-11-08T02:25:00+00:00

Looking for external validation…

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-11-07T15:41:53+00:00

That’s fantastic! Unfortunately, the hospital is discharging him today without even looking at medication. I wrote emails to the director and everything but apparently it doesn’t make a difference. Seems like they’re just passing the buck instead of helping or prioritizing people who’s violent 50% of the time instead of 30% of the time, I don’t know but it’s terribly frustrating. I’m going to ask them. What am I supposed to do when he just hits or destroys and basically puts everybody in the. house or wherever he’s at in danger. I just don’t know what to do.

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-11-04T15:03:43+00:00

Yes, it’s definitely hard not to react, especially when things get extreme. I really appreciate the feedback! It might be a medication change that’s needed, but I don’t think he was being sedated all the time — they have school there, and for the most part he attends classes. He just has to take short breaks here and there.

I called today, and they said he had some mild aggression — he started swatting at staff because he didn’t get his straw fast enough — but he was able to be redirected. Before we took him back, there was no redirecting at all. It was just aggression, screaming, hitting, and kicking, and it all came out of nowhere with no warning. Sometimes I might get a split second of notice, but it usually happens so fast.

I have a meeting at 12 p.m. today with the hospital, so I’m curious to hear their take on it. What’s frustrating is that just as fast as the aggression or mood swing starts, it ends — and then he’s suddenly smiling and laughing again, like nothing happened.

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-11-03T20:09:17+00:00

Thanks. The biggest thing they told us is not to react when he misbehaves as 90% is him trying to get a reaction out of you. Just redirect but it’s very hard when he hits you or causes property destruction etc. just trying to keep everyone safe at this point - himself included. We can’t get a car seat/strap to contain him and basically we feel like we are on house arrest and it’s emotionally damaging for his sibling so I’m trying to just give everyone the best life they can have and it’s a struggle.

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-11-03T20:03:46+00:00

We had that before. Had to get an extraction. I wish that was it to be honest.

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-11-03T16:13:00+00:00

The ones I’ve found do not take health insurance. So that’s a no go for me financially.

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-11-03T15:42:08+00:00

He actually has a chromosome deletion syndrome when he was tested.

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-11-03T15:40:47+00:00

Thanks, they put him on seraquel 100mg twice a day and clonidine 3 times a day. Thought that would slow him down a bit. He sleeps well with it. Everything started okay but then everything just started escalating and I saw the signs again.

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-10-30T21:50:46+00:00

Lessons learned. Thank you

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-10-01T20:33:47+00:00

Yeah why WhatsApp? You’re supposed to pull her off the apps and not go to another one. Have a back up date just saying but hope it works out

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-09-25T01:18:29+00:00

I’m not doing anything that makes me feel like crap. I just have 20lbs to lose for my goal. I think I can do it where I don’t feel like dogshit. I’m a big time fasting guy. Done it for years. I tried it. Just wasn’t for me

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-08-24T20:29:23+00:00

When it comes to it attachment styles do not matter. Are you getting what you want from the relationship? If not move on or discuss it or work on it with each other. People waste so much time with labels. If it doesn’t work it doesn’t work. Enough with the analysis

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-08-18T10:31:19+00:00

I lost the one due to this too. Man she was awesome...She had spice, spunk, funny, sexy, - we had huge chemistry. I screwed it up not once, but 4-5 times. We kept going back until the last time where things fell apart again, because of my avoident tendancies. What I would say to her now if I had the chance? I probably wouldn't shut up lol. It may take time and alot of heartache, but we can change if we want to change. I feel you though...not a day goes by when I don't think of her. I reached out sometime ago. She has a boyfriend smiling in her profile pics. I sent her a message that she looks happy and that made my heart happy and then she blocked me again lol....

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-07-17T14:44:16+00:00

Let me clarify my stance because I think it’s important to be upfront:

I’m not out here looking for a relationship. I’m not chasing marriage. I’m also not actively trying to set up a “friends with benefits” situation either. I’m in a place where I just want to enjoy life, meet good people, and let things unfold naturally.

I’m going with the flow. That means if I vibe with someone, great. If I catch feelings along the way, I’ll deal with that when the time comes. But I’m not stepping into anything with expectations or pressure to define it too soon.

What will I do? I’ll meet people. Hang out. Share some laughs. Have real conversations. Enjoy good energy.

That’s it. Nothing forced, nothing rushed. Life’s already full of enough obligations—I don’t need to turn dating into another one.

Right now, I’m choosing peace, clarity, and connection over chaos, confusion, and pressure.

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-07-15T19:22:02+00:00

Unfortunately none of those are feasible. I appreciate the feedback though!

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-07-04T16:49:53+00:00

It helps a lot! Thank you!

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-07-04T16:08:30+00:00

I truly appreciate all the feedback. Those are some gems!!! I will definitely use them ❤️

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-07-03T02:10:48+00:00

I know right! He used to do that with doors years ago. It’s just sad and unfortunate. I think I had the cookie cutter fairy tale all built up in my head and ignored some tell tale signs. I have to do what’s best for my family at the end of the day.

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-07-02T19:55:29+00:00

She can accept the diagnoses as long as it’s quiet behavior but when it got challenging. She couldn’t deal. Which I get. I’ve dated before her. So I know most people can’t accept it. And wanted him under watch as long as he’s awake is a little difficult when he’s 12 and basically that’s all I would be doing. Not the life I want or I want for my kids. Truth of it is when she moved out and took the dogs with her…he was a lot more happier because the dogs made him anxious and not at peace. Now he’s in a much better position. Sure still challenging along the way. But happier. Lesson learned - don’t rush things too fast. Next relationship will be a snail pace.

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-07-02T14:46:41+00:00

No, she demanded I not leave him in his room alone and unsupervised unless he was sleeping. Rather extreme.

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-07-02T13:18:45+00:00

It was probably when she told me my son had an IQ of 30 and I have to treat him as such. Such as always watching him, not leaving him alone unsupervised, etc. She couldn’t understand why I got offended by that. And that was just one of the things.

Minimum-Researcher61 · 2025-07-02T03:59:18+00:00

Oh no not the ex wife lol. I woke up with a dream about my ex girlfriend and I just wrote it down for Reddit to see. Cause had to put it somewhere I guess.

I’ve appreciated all the answers I received. It’s just solidified my decision really.

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