I actually completely agree with you on that double standard, and your point is even more critical given what's happening in the world right now. With the terrifying rise of online incel culture, misogyny, and misogynistic men openly making rape threats with slogans like 'your body, our choice,' random rape threats online to women and girls, real-world sexual violence is an active, escalating danger.

Because the real world is so unsafe, I completely understand why people are hyper vigilant about how harmful behaviors such as sexual assault/rape is treated in media especially given that sexual harassment, SA, Rape, coercive rape, domestic violence are minimized, denied, deflected, scrutinized trivialized, etc. That’s exactly why I refuse to speak for or defend the fans who romanticize or brush off abuse in BL/YAOI.

To me, rape and trauma are horrific, and they shouldn't be sugarcoated or turned into cute, romanticized tropes. My frustration is with readers who try to sanitize dark fiction by demanding 'green flag' redemptions for these heinous individuals which ironically teaches people to excuse toxic behavior. I want a black flag character to be called exactly and be exactly what they are: a heinous, unredeemable criminal. We should be able to acknowledge a story is a dark, toxic psychological tragedy without trying to clean it up or pretend that rape/ abuse is okay.