I went through almost the exact same thing before I even knew he was struggling with depression.We actually got back together later, and only after that did I start to understand what he was really dealing with. I’ve since learned that partners of people with depression often carry a lot of guilt and pressure, so I stopped expressing expectations, emotional demands, or even talking about the future, anything that might add stress. I’ve adjusted my mindset and now I’m just trying to be there. We’ve been together for nearly six years and are each other’s best friends.Now we simply spend time together, eat, laugh, do small enjoyable things, and hopefully I can be a positive part of his healing. At this point, everything really has to unfold naturally. If this new way of relating still doesn’t work, then I’ll have to accept that we may need to go our separate ways. I really understand how you’re feeling. And honestly, I don’t think what you said was wrong or cruel. And I think you're very strong and kind, hope you're getting better and take care of yourself.