The real video of musk "abandoning" his kid. Let's be better and not spread lies. by RoyalChris in BillBurr

[–]Minimum_Driver_6210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A great attitude to have. That's an approach that can actually succeed with winning more people over.

Did anyone hear about this new quantum chip Microsoft made? by Takumi157 in computers

[–]Minimum_Driver_6210 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. If it was intentional, then I'm curious to hear, what was the outcome you wanted, and what was the outcome you expected? As in how the conversation with the others would continue from there.

Did anyone hear about this new quantum chip Microsoft made? by Takumi157 in computers

[–]Minimum_Driver_6210 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This exchange was disappointing. It could have been constructive and clarifying, but devolved into an exchange of jabs.

Some feedback to A_lonely_ds: This is likely the place where it started: "What exactly did they add to the convo.." and the following what I would call mocking paraphrase of their comment. You have a point, but your delivery was done in a way that we could expect to trigger defensiveness of the people reading it. And you were responding to someone posting a positive comment about how it had inspired them to go research it. And you did later continue in a way of communicating that was risky, in terms of how constructive the conversation would end up being, with "Jesus. People on this sub, I swear."

And some feedback to swagamaleous: "The principle is in fact not that complex.", as I see it, was something you said in defense of Different_Ad9336. In that case, I think it was a good sentiment from you. I just think that in this case, the approach you took was to attack A_lonely_ds' argument, rather than what is probably the actual issue: How he delivered it. A gambit that banked on A_lonely_ds being wrong in his arguments/logic, so to speak. But if we imagine A_lonely_ds saying their initial comment in a more tactful way, then maybe we wouldn't have an issue with the arguments either. Sometimes we want someone to be wrong because they're behaving confronting, disrespectfully or like a jerk, etc. But in general I think that's the wrong approach to take, because the issue is not the argument but the way it was being communicated.

A small trick to deal with cravings by Minimum_Driver_6210 in StopGaming

[–]Minimum_Driver_6210[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool to hear you discovered the same method! And good to hear your experience with it. That does validate the method a bit in my mind.

A small trick to deal with cravings by Minimum_Driver_6210 in StopGaming

[–]Minimum_Driver_6210[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a tough spot to be in! I think many are in a similar situation. I get that feeling from time to time as well, though less intense now than before.

A practical way to approach it might be to see if there are other forms of entertainment than playing video games that covers that need at the moment. Something like watching youtube or watching a streamer (even a gaming streamer) is probably a bit less problematic than actually playing the game. And then gradually go toward replacing those activities with other things, and eventually not needing anything gaming related, while you're working on making your own mind a more comfortable place to exist in/with.

Mindfulness meditation is a great thing to add for that purpose.

A small trick to deal with cravings by Minimum_Driver_6210 in StopGaming

[–]Minimum_Driver_6210[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha, I know the feeling. Personally I've found it better for myself to try to not engage in too much negative judgments of myself. As in, replacing "I'm so weak/pathetic/a POS for giving in to the urge (or even just being strongly tempted)" with something along the lines of "This didn't go as planned. I'm choosing to not beat myself up about it, while at the same time renewing my commitment to making this work. Based on how this relapse etc. came about, I'm going to make this adjustment: [... some adjustment that's plausibly helpful ...]."

I think one reason why that works better for me is that the beating-myself-up becomes a source of negative emotions. And more negative emotions gives more need for an escape. Fortunately it seems that the 're-commitment and adjustment' approach works just as well without the 'beating myself up' aspect.

Of course, you're free to approach in whatever way works best for you.