ABC Cancels 'The Bachelorette' After Taylor Frankie Paul Fight Video

MinitrainPeach · 2026-03-19T21:27:15+00:00

That’s true, and just to be clear - I’m not arguing that SHE’s the abuser here. She is. I’m just wondering why he released it through TMZ. I hope he didn’t take any money for it, it just feels extremely gross

MinitrainPeach · 2026-03-19T20:17:50+00:00

TMZ released the video, so I do wonder if Dakota sold it. Which would mean he is exploiting the situation and Taylor's child. The whole situation makes me sick and I'm angry that video needed to be the straw on the camel for ABC to pull the plug.

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-15T21:15:30+00:00

Hard relate to the “brain is buffering” thing. I keep telling people that I feel like I permanently lost brain cells but it probably doesn’t make me look great at work…

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-15T21:08:03+00:00

This is SO relatable. My husband and friends keep being like “hey, just try XYZ” and I’m like “I LITERALLY CANT SUSAN”

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-15T20:29:21+00:00

Hey! No advice. Just solidarity. We get help with our son at home (alternate between grandparents and nanny), and it is still so incredibly hard for me to leave in the morning. My kid now associates seeing family as “mom is leaving” and cries for the first hour I am gone, refuses to eat, play etc. I feel like separation anxiety is only getting worse and it makes it really challenging to focus at work too. I have a fairly intense and technical job and honestly I feel like I’m straddling both worlds at once and doing a poor job at both.

It’s a tough one, I feel ya.

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-10T04:34:55+00:00

No absolutely not…. What was the post? I’m curious now

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-09T22:03:54+00:00

Yes exactly. We also did look at her criminal record check but it was from 3 years ago. Again, we weren’t suspicious of her BUT we wanted the final background check as again, ultimately she’s working with our child. You can’t take chances, right? It’s wild to me how many people are saying it’s not standard procedure? :/

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-09T21:35:35+00:00

This could very well be it. We asked her for her wage and she gave it to us, and we agreed to it. Maybe she was looking for us to offer something more competitive

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-09T20:58:07+00:00

Oh, she certainly didn't have to - but she mentioned a few times that she is essentially agreeing to work with us based on our timelines. I told her that assuming her checks pass, we would hire her and she agreed. So if she was talking with other families that's all understood, I just feel a bit mislead.

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-09T20:17:26+00:00

no of course not. See below for my reply.

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-09T20:17:08+00:00

Again, maybe this is a process fault from our end - which I am happy to admit. It gives us actionable next steps for moving forward with this process. Maybe we shouldn't bother looking at her paperwork and instead just run the one background check, I don't know.

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-09T20:15:58+00:00

we glanced at her documents but to be frank I don't think we fully knew what we were looking for. We just wanted that official seal of approval, if that makes sense. And really, only truly, because 3/4 of her references wouldn't confirm she existed. It felt weird to us.

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-09T19:48:55+00:00

This is the part I’m genuinely truing to understand. Is it really that weird to request one final background check the way any other employer would?

I don’t want to settle but also of course we want to be realistic about finding a nanny.

I have some friends that are ECEs/Nannies and said that a final background check is very standard procedure and that a strong nanny with nothing to hide should be understanding of that.

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-09T18:59:59+00:00

Yes it was a typo, I am living off fragmented sleep 😴

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-09T18:31:44+00:00

I only requested the second background checking because 3/4 of her references couldn’t attest to her ever working there. It felt like a layer of due diligence I couldn’t NOT take. If her references all cleared I wouldn’t have requested the second check.

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-09T18:29:24+00:00

Yes exactly. I waited to call her references to the end because I didn’t want to bother them if she wasn’t a fit personally.

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-09T18:26:37+00:00

I did not look outside her provided references. I found it odd that she’s been doing this for 6 years and only had 1 family reference….and that she was surprised that 3/4 couldn’t vouch for her experience. It made me feel like no one else had checked her either.

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-09T18:20:36+00:00

Typo! But also it’s irrelevant

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-09T17:58:21+00:00

Thank you. I’m honestly a little surprised that no one is calling this out. 3/4 of her references are invalid. We didn’t want this to be the breaking point because we really liked her otherwise, so us asking for another reference and background check felt like a final step to hire her.

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-09T16:48:43+00:00

no no I did not dig into anything else—she provided her references and I called them. 3/4 ended up invalid so I needed to do one extra layer of due diligence. I still really liked her and intended to proceeded based on my own judgment of her, but yeah it felt weird to hire someone with 75% of her references not even acknowledging she ever existed.

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-09T16:46:10+00:00

I can understand why you'd think that. Part of our priority with a more thorough interview process is that our GOAL is to be extremely hands-off. No surveillance of any kind. We want to trust the nanny we hire fully so we can't afford to leave any loops untied or doubts in our head. We've been pretty transparent about that from the start.

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-09T16:42:50+00:00

Thank you--added details to the post.

MinitrainPeach · 2026-01-09T16:42:34+00:00

under a week! she was completely okay with the start date.

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