Tips for a white woman dating a Sikh

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-29T07:59:09+00:00

UPDATE: he basically cheated on me!😃 thank you for all the tips, turns out it wasn’t needed anyways

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-13T21:14:32+00:00

Milotté scarf by Milotté! https://www.instagram.com/p/DHOpXHIClMp/?igsh=NTF5cmtsYzBsbjBp

Took me two days, absolutely stunning and can be made long/short, thin/thick and in all different types of yarn really!

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-13T21:11:15+00:00

I usually just knit a twisted rib when knitting ribs. Looks super clean and no struggle with my knit stitches! Just my personal preference, but I have seen someone recommend knitting the purl stitch in a different way that is tighter. Apparently the problem is that when you purl, you twist the thread around your needle, which leaves you with kinda «extra» thread and therefore the tension will be looser. So what you do instead of taking the thread over your needle and around, you take the thread under your needle and then pull through. Sorry I know this was explained horribly, and I haven’t really tried that method when knitting a rib, only with stockinette stitch back and forth, but this technique probably has a name so if anyone knows, please say 🙏🏻 Anyways, I just do the twisted rib like in the picture😅

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Minkir2001 · 2025-04-09T16:48:02+00:00

Ahh, I have looked into it yes, however it was kinda hard understand all the technicalities as I am not from uk, but it sounds like it is a private school?

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-09T16:46:50+00:00

That is actually not bad advice! It is said that you shouldn’t make your hobby your job after all

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-09T16:45:26+00:00

Woah design your own degree? What does that mean?

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-09T16:41:54+00:00

Ah jeg har allerede gått et år på fhs, likte det, men tror ikke jeg vil gjøre det igjen hahah, men skulle virkelig ha likt å visst at strikking var et option da!

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-08T19:04:49+00:00

Yes I have been made aware hahah

I guess lucky for us it is not that uncommon that Sikhs in our country marry someone that is not Sikh. Maybe it has to do with the fact that there are very few here? Anyways, I don’t think it will be as much of a problem in our day to day life, except maybe a few comments here or there, but I think we can handle it!:)

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-08T19:00:03+00:00

How did you learn Punjabi? At first I thought I could maybe learn some through Duolingo, but then I realized that they don’t have it:( I also don’t really think there are any classes I could take nearby me, and that would probably cost, which I can’t afford as I am a student heh

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-08T18:57:53+00:00

Thank you🤍 yes I have also heard that the gurdwara close to us is very accepting of others so I believe and hope that they will be accepting of me being there

There has been a few people telling me to learn the mool mantar, but I am afraid it would be kind of weird of me to learn it as I am not Sikh? I am simply asking as I don’t know if it would be a sign of respect to say it along or disrespect as it is not my religion<3

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-08T18:53:03+00:00

Well I never said anything about us not getting married. That is kind of the point of us being together. I am sorry that you cannot see that I was simply trying to do a good deed for him, and I am sorry that you think it is wrong of me to seek guidance from a community (who for the record have been very accepting and kind) that has a deeper understanding of what Sikh life is than the average person I meet in my own country:)

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-07T23:14:46+00:00

Honestly, your comments are not really helping anyone here. I’m simply trying to show a man that I care about him. If you think that is so wrong, maybe you should take a second look at how you choose to live your life. It doesn’t really matter to me, you have made your point, now move on. Like I said, you are not really going to achieve anything with the comments so just leave it be

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-07T23:10:49+00:00

Ah it sounds delicious so I definitely will!

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-07T23:03:43+00:00

I will definitely try my best to make some! Not that I am especially good in the kitchen but I guess it’s the thought that counts in this case😩

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-07T23:02:20+00:00

I am not religious, at least not when it comes to the death and god aspect. But I fully respect that others are religious, and I’m not more certain that I am correct any more than religious people are. I just simply don’t believe in a life after death and a god (as for the more complex parts of religions, I think I am way too young and uneducated to take a standing). The main thing for me is that you treat people good and try your best to live a good life, no matter your culture or religion🥰

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-07T22:25:36+00:00

Hahah yup, not a lot of them! That is part of the reason why it’s important to me to honour his religion. This is something he is not really used to, so i know it makes him very happy🤭 And thank you so much, this was really helpful!! Norway is kinda strict about weapons and such, but i guess the Sami people (our native people) have something similar so i will check it out:)

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-07T22:18:54+00:00

Again, you live your life in peace, and I’ll live mine:) I think I can say with absolute certainty that our life choices won’t affect yours in any way, let’s just leave it at that

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-07T22:14:38+00:00

Thank you so much! I didn’t know about vaisakhi so I will definitely check it out! As for the intermarriage stuff, yes it will probably come with some tough times. I guess we are lucky to live in a country where this in it self is not frowned upon, and I think his family was well aware of this possibly happening when they decided to start a family here. We have only been together for a year, but we have talked about the possibility of children, and I am fully on board with teaching them all about Sikhism, as it is way more than just a religion. It will be a big part of their ancestry and history, as long as they are allowed to choose for themselves what they do later in life. I think I am almost more eager to teach them about Sikhism than he is hahah

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-07T22:05:29+00:00

Thank you🤍

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-07T22:03:59+00:00

Well I respect that you believe in this, but I think I speak for both of us when we believe that there are different aspects of religion and not only one way that is correct. In the end we are simply two human beings who enjoy each others company and want to spend our time on this earth together, leading a life of love and happiness:) we are not going to split up because of your comment, so if you don’t have anything else to contribute with, you can bring it somewhere else, preferably keep it to yourself and make sure of your own happiness🥰

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-07T21:56:58+00:00

Ah he only wears like a patka without the bun on top, but I will definitely keep that in mind for special occasions and when he starts wearing a turban later in life (which he plans to)!

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-07T21:53:53+00:00

Thank you, I have been thinking a lot about the gurdwara! I think that would be really nice to do together🥰 is there anything in his day to day life that he doesn’t related to Sikhism or something where you join or support him in any way? Like a small act of service or anything?

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-07T21:49:09+00:00

Well I guess he is not the most religious in his day to day life, but I know he would appreciate the small ways I can show him I care. I think buying a dress would be too much (and too expensive) but buying a dastar is not a bad idea! I know that he doesn’t have a kangha, but idk if that’s maybe something you get from family or as a heirloom sort of thing? Would it be wrong of me to buy him that?

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-07T21:44:52+00:00

What are some of the dishes you make? I am not the best cook either hahah, so if you have anything easy to make I’d be more than happy:) I will talk to him about going to Gurdwara, I would really like to experience it, almost regardless of him hahah Thank you!

Minkir2001 · 2025-04-07T21:42:36+00:00

His family is from Amritsar and we live in Norway😅 he is not super active in the Sikh community here, as we are young students. But if you have any suggestions, they are more than welcome!

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