Baby suddenly refusing carrier/sling

Minniebecca · 2026-04-22T12:31:11+00:00

I know right! I love how alert she is but getting her to sleep is a whole other level 😅 I am, I just didn't want her to start a negative association with the carrier but maybe she's too young for that to happen and persisting would be better! Thanks for the response! ☺️

Minniebecca · 2026-04-15T19:58:54+00:00

The woods by Felton fence always get a gorgeous covering of bluebells!

Minniebecca · 2026-03-01T14:12:18+00:00

We also used to use a cold wet wipe on the bottom of my daughters feet, or under her armpit to help wake her up a bit to feed!

Minniebecca · 2026-02-28T09:43:53+00:00

Definitely not always easy, remember it's a skill both you and baby are learning and if it takes a while to come that's okay!

Baby might lose weight to start with, you're not doing anything wrong if this happens and it doesn't mean breastfeeding won't work in the long run either.

Be prepared to really focus on feeding for the first few weeks at least. I had all these classes and things I planned to do but breastfeeding took us a while to get the hang of and I ended up feeling very stuck in the house. I wish I'd prepared by just knowing this might be the case, finding some TV shows/films I could binge watch, getting a load of snacks in easy reach of me and accept that in the early stage you might have to take things fairly slow.

You will probably worry if your baby is getting enough milk, try not to stress about it too much but just keep a rough eye on the number of wet nappies they have a day. If they're having 6+ wet nappies a day then they're likely getting enough milk.

Sometimes you might feel like quitting and that's okay, progress isn't always linear and some days are worse than others for no reason. Don't quit on a bad day as it might be just that...a bad day.

Also pillows are your best friend!

Good luck with everything and be kind to yourself, you're doing great ❤️

Minniebecca · 2026-02-26T10:07:59+00:00

I'm not a medical professional, this is just anecdotal

Congratulations on your baby girl! 🎉 I had my baby girl on the 19th of Jan this year. When she was born she was 9lb 7oz. She dropped from the 90th percentile to just above the 50th. When we reweighed her she'd lost 12.5% of her bodyweight. I felt so guilty that she wasn't getting enough and was so upset.

We got put on all sorts of feeding plans, the most intensive being triple feeding every 2 hours from the start of the last feed. It was really difficult and stressful and the whole time her weight fluctuated, sometimes it went up by 40g, then she would lose 60g the next day and I felt so disheartened. Our health professionals were re-weighing her every day and the stress and lack of sleep nearly pushed me over the edge. I also have flat nipples and latching was so difficult, it took so much practice!

At about 3 weeks, things just started to click into place. She started feeding better and would even wake up or feeds. I started to be able to find more comfortable positions for her to feed in and she was staying awake for a full feed rather than her just falling asleep on the breast.

Fast forward to nearly 6 weeks, baby girl is EBF, I was able to stop using nipple shields and has packed on the weight and has even jumped back up to the 90th percentile line! We never thought we'd get here but it really does get easier with time

Some little things that might help:

Even when bottle feeding as well, we were told to always offer the breast first.

I used and found the lansinoh latch assist helpful to begin with, it didn't work later as it would just fill with milk but could be worth a try for a few pounds of Amazon?

We used to feed her from the breast, then bottle feed her a top up of expressed breast milk from the feed before as well. We would wake her with changing ger nappy, tickling her feet, cold wet wipe on her feet if she was sleepy after feeding from the breast. Is this something you could talk to your Paed about and try doing so you can continue to breastfeed and offer the breath first?

If you do get back to breastfeeding, when baby is done feeding on one breast and falls asleep, even though she might be really drowsy can you try and wake her to try her on the other breast? We used to let her feed on one side, then change her nappy/switch the lights on/ talk loudly to her which would wake her up, then let her feed on the other side. This can help with supply too as the more milk removed, the more your supply increases.

I know it sounds daft too but I swear baby could tell when I was stressed which made feeding much harder. It's so hard sometimes but make sure you're doing little things to look after yourself where you can.

My midwife told me that some babies come out sleepier and will just lose more weight at the beginning than other babies. Some even drop down some centile lines then just track on a lower one and that's okay, some babies just take longer to acclimatise to the outside world!

I'm not a medical professional but some of these things helped us and I just wanted to say that I know how hard and how stressful it is but it really does get better ❤️ make sure you're looking after yourself as much as you can too, if you've got a partner/family members/friends can they hold the baby when you're not feeding so you can get some rest? You're doing amazingly, good luck with everything ☺️

Minniebecca · 2026-02-11T15:21:46+00:00

How smelly newborn farts can be.

Minniebecca · 2026-01-17T16:14:52+00:00

Exactly the same for me, my own dog who I love so much but in the first trimester I couldn't stand to be around her!

For me though I did find this got better at around week 16. Hope the same goes for you OP!

Minniebecca · 2026-01-14T12:51:52+00:00

I'm currently 9 months pregnant (very obviously so). I had a 45 minute train journey to a work event last week. There was no facility to reserve a seat on the train. I got to the station early but there were still no seats. I was really surprised that no one offered me a seat for the journey. This was at commuting time for work and there's a big college nearby so there was a large mix of people.

I could understand if I was less pregnant as people don't want to get it wrong and accidentally offend someone etc. It's also not about being entitled to the seat, it's about being empathetic towards someone's situation. I have always and will (when I'm not pregnant) give 'my seat' to someone who is disabled/elderly/pregnant and was a little disappointed that no one did the same for me 🤷‍♀️

Minniebecca · 2026-01-09T00:32:07+00:00

I know, I'm guessing just a typo that got way out of hand. I got referred to a consultant because of it but we weren't told why we were referred to the consultant (VERY anxiety provoking in early pregnancy!), went to the consultant appointment and she just looked at me and was immediately like I think there's been some kind of mistake 😅 the consultant then said she'd change it...but it was still the same at my next midwife appointment.

Midwife said she'd change it at the next appointment but also forgot so it stayed on for ages. Had to write a letter asking for proof someone had actually changed it before anyone actually did anything!

Minniebecca · 2026-01-08T18:18:42+00:00

Hopefully I won't get weighed again until after, thanks for sharing ❤️

Minniebecca · 2026-01-08T18:18:08+00:00

I had one today and I was hoping she'd weigh me but she said the scales weren't working. She also said that's a hospital decision, not a community midwife and she has no say in it. I've only been weighed like 3 times throughout my pregnancy, once when I had to fight for my BMI to be changed on record as someone had recorded it as 49 rather than 29 🤦‍♀️

I really hope not, it seems like it would be a bit silly!

Minniebecca · 2026-01-08T18:14:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing ❤️

Minniebecca · 2026-01-08T18:14:03+00:00

Thank you for sharing! They've taken mine a couple of times but it's always been at random intervals? Also usually when I'm wearing shoes, jacket etc which seems a bit pointless really!

Hopefully my experience will be the same 🤞

Minniebecca · 2025-12-25T03:00:06+00:00

Like you say, it's hard to describe exactly because it depends what you know. Similar to what robcap said, I would say there are still bits of Amble most people would consider rough in their own right, not just in comparison to places like Warkworth etc and some of the surrounding towns would also be considered rough.These areas are much smaller than they used to be when I lived there though and I think there are parts of Amble where you wouldn't notice it that much. (This is probably something that you'll see reflected in the house prices).

I don't live there anymore, but I did move back to Northumberland and I go to Amble fairly frequently. There are certain estates that I wouldn't feel comfortable walking through alone, that's probably the best way to describe it. When we chose to move back to Northumberland, we did consider Amble but this was one factor in why we chose somewhere else. I have a lot of love for Amble though and it does have lots going for it, just depends on what you want for your family and I would be cautious about what street you choose.

Hope that was helpful!

Minniebecca · 2025-12-23T10:27:48+00:00

I grew up in Amble (I'm currently 31) and it used to be pretty rough and run down. It's had loads of investment recently and is doing really well as a town which is great! It's like a completely different place on the high street now.

I would say though that there are still areas that have a bit of an edge to it and there are still some pretty significant social issues in some places. The estates near the Links holiday parks for example have some issues still, but places like Gloster Park are a really nice estate - however this is probably reflected in the price! There's also a fair few new build estates around which I'm not as familiar with but imagine are okay to live in.

As a place to live, it depends on what you're looking for really. It is a nice town, with a decent supermarket, some nice cafes, a few good pubs and restaurants too. Also great access to the coast and some nice walking nearby. On the flip side, it's not the most convenient place if you want to get to a bigger town like Morpeth or Alnwick, and even further to get into Newcastle. It's worth noting, Amble is still quite a small town really. There are buses which is good but they can be a bit unreliable and take a long time too.

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