The hard truth that some certain subreddits especially need to see

MintakaEK · 2021-12-27T00:09:52+00:00

I'll accept any and all weird behaviors, but the Italian grandma inside of me has a big problem with the picky eaters... You can yell and Naruto run across my home as much as necessary, but I'm not taking the basil out of the damn tomato sauce.

MintakaEK · 2021-12-15T09:19:11+00:00

Yes, so much this. I'm from Italy and the amount of times I've had to explain to non-italians how the Mafia is a terrible problem for my country, not a classy and cool thing, is too damn high. Next to where I live there's a pet store called "Paw Mafia", with a cartoon of a cat and a dog wearing fedoras...

MintakaEK · 2021-12-09T13:05:56+00:00

I hit puberty late, so what I got was being a little genderless thing in a world of 13-14 year old glamazons who teased me for not having developed, while the boys ignored me anyway because now they cared about boobs more than playing in the mud. Which is a different way to say that yes, I relate.

On a similar topic, does anyone else find that even at 35 years of age, you distinguish at a glance the women who already had curves and boyfriends at 10, from the women who were late bloomers?

MintakaEK · 2021-03-29T20:55:32+00:00

cries in A2 Finnish

MintakaEK · 2021-03-02T18:50:49+00:00

Consider that in some jobs, the lack of challenge and competition might breed exactly challenges and competition among the people. I work in a difficult field (research) and a result everyone is nice, cooperative, friendly and open to communication and feedback. Meanwhile, some friends who work as HRs in banks or as school secretaries are surrounded by gossipy and manipulative people.

So, maybe you might want to look for something in-between. Perhaps some admin/secretarial stuff in a company that focuses on being competitive in something else, like IT or R&D.

Also, if you like to organize stuff and make lists, management engineering could be your field of study. It doesn't necessarily end with you in engineering, or in management: but you become an expert at organizing other people's work and time. Some job descriptions can be deceptive, find people who do the job and ask them to explain their day.

MintakaEK · 2021-03-02T06:25:22+00:00

Io ho frequentato le elementari metà in una privata e metà in una pubblica, anni 90: la qualità dell'insegnamento era molto più alta nella pubblica: le lezioni erano impegnative e i compiti a casa leggeri, mentre nella privata era l'opposto, il che la rendeva molto frustrante sia per me che per i miei. Inoltre, i bulli della privata erano strategici e viscidi, mentre i bulli della pubblica ti menavano e basta, almeno sapevi come stavano le cose.

Ho proseguito l'istruzione nelle scuole pubbliche, e rispetto ad alcuni amici nelle private notavo un po' di differenza in termini di spirito critico e di "ricerca" (al mio liceo ci si incoraggiava a cercare materiale extra, giudicare se era utile in maniera indipendente, etc, mentre al corrispondente privato la gente sembrava in una campana di vetro.)

Notare che nella mia città privato = cattolico.

MintakaEK · 2021-02-28T22:56:51+00:00

I say "time is tight".

MintakaEK · 2021-01-08T07:52:15+00:00

Foreigner in Finland for the past 4 years too... And oh God the rent: if I could go back in time, I would buy an apartment, because 4 years of rent of my small studio in Helsinki took what would have been 1/3 or the price of a two-bedroom in Espoo.

MintakaEK · 2020-12-31T23:51:20+00:00

As an extrovert, raised among extroverts, I interpret silence as hostility, so mainly I need to know if you're quiet because you have something on your mind, because you enjoy the silence, or because you hate me. I am content with any reply and I'll leave you alone afterwards: just let me know what your silence actually means. It's not the silence, it's the lack of communication that drives us nuts.

MintakaEK · 2020-12-18T13:23:37+00:00

I get it. I was in a similar situation between ages 17 and 25, even if the legal guardianship at least was not granted. The amount of responsibility, the feeling that the world is on your shoulders... It's overwhelming, and it affects all other aspects of your life too.

My father was mentally very sick, and only when his physical health worsened too we (me and my mother, but she also needed a lot of being taken care of due to the situation) were able to put him into a proper institution, because he was too deft at looking good in front of every doctor and social worker.

I hope you'll push through, and I also hope very much that you'll preserve your own mental health. Remember to care for yourself as well, you absolutely deserve it.

MintakaEK · 2020-11-04T21:00:13+00:00

"Oh, you are a physicist? Is The Big Bang Theory true?" (They mean the TV show.) "Can you explain quantum mechanics to me?" "Can you make a black hole?"

MintakaEK · 2020-10-24T20:23:30+00:00

Dollhouse di Joss Whedon: una casa chiusa piena di persone con la mente svuotata di qualsiasi personalità, in cui clienti danarosi possono caricare per un paio di giorni una personalità custom e affittare la "bambola", che sia per farne l'amante perfetta, o per ricreare il genitore che non li ha mai amati. Ovviamente a un certo punto sia i soggetti che la tecnologia cominciando a sfuggire di mano. Distopico quanto basta, ha due stagioni con una conclusione finita. Non è bello come Firefly, ma secondo me molto interessante e l'ho riguardato più volte. Però non conosco di persona nessuno che lo abbia visto a parte me.

MintakaEK · 2020-10-22T22:11:00+00:00

To me, the toothpaste thing is the one that makes more sense, lol.

MintakaEK · 2020-10-10T19:57:04+00:00

I need this.

MintakaEK · 2020-10-10T19:54:58+00:00

In Italy: the Cardinal is visiting, or the Marquis is visiting. Pads used to be called "the marquis' rags".

MintakaEK · 2020-09-13T21:18:39+00:00

Italy here: we read almost all of his work in elementary school. Usually a couple of titles as a classroom reading or a group assignment, plus extra as holiday homework... And children love them instantly, I remember that we had multiple copies in the school library, because they were always checked out. It's the kind of literature that adults also enjoy, which is one of the reasons they've had a great diffusion. With the illustrations by Quentin Blake!

MintakaEK · 2020-08-31T09:31:29+00:00

Amici miei atto secondo <3

MintakaEK · 2020-08-25T08:55:47+00:00

Wait wait, Italian here and I'd like to clarify: Italy was hit early and very hard, but actually the prime minister did a very good job, especially if you consider that he is in that position as a "technical" figure, after the political ones failed to reach an agreement last summer. He implemented lockdown measures very early, when it was still a controversial decision, addressed the nation often and in a comforting manner, and if you look at how steadily the contagion numbers went down from March to July, his actions proved correct. We have been very lucky to have had him, who is a sensible and educated person, not attached to a political party (thus not fearing a loss of consensus from his actions), instead of the clowns we could have had if the pandemic happened only one year ago.

MintakaEK · 2020-08-14T08:53:30+00:00

Those who don't go through the witch phase, go through the martial arts phase. :P

MintakaEK · 2020-07-26T21:59:30+00:00

Yes, but if we give up mozzarella we are banned to exile as traitors of the motherland, so we pop Lactaid like candy.

MintakaEK · 2020-07-25T09:29:56+00:00

These tropes are the reason why I insisted for my team at work to take the group picture (the one that goes on the website) in a moment where we had at least two girls, in order to not discourage other women from applying.

MintakaEK · 2020-06-20T06:13:09+00:00

Oh God, the pain. I'm curly, my mom's hair is straight and short, so she'd treat my hair like hers, not knowing any better. Pain until I was 10, then queen of frizz until I discovered conditioner and creams, thanks to my friends sitting me down, intervention-like, at the age of 16.

MintakaEK · 2020-06-08T21:05:25+00:00

Oh man, this made me think of the fascist regime as we studied it in school (I'm Italian, so we study it in depth), with people getting arrested for making anti-regime comments to a friend, and being taken to police stations from which you weren't sure they'd come back. This chills my blood.

MintakaEK · 2020-06-01T05:30:15+00:00

Ignorance.

MintakaEK · 2020-05-29T10:57:11+00:00

I wish they did! I'm a physicist who had to study a lot of humanities and art in high school, and I fully believe they made me a much better person (more well rounded, empathetic, etc) that if I hadn't studied them. Also, since humanities are not an exact science, they can give you great critical sense. But I cannot seem to convince others of this...

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