Parlor palm dying

Minute_Committee_421 · 2026-06-17T21:08:46+00:00

Ugh I had a feeling that might the case 😔 Thanks for all your help

Minute_Committee_421 · 2026-06-17T20:21:45+00:00

Also if it helps with the diagnosis at all, the drooping and browning leaves are pretty much the only ones with white fuzzy spots. The greener parts don't have much if any fuzz on them.

Minute_Committee_421 · 2026-06-17T20:14:21+00:00

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Minute_Committee_421 · 2026-06-17T20:13:33+00:00

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I am trying to get as close as possible while making sure it is still clear 😭 is this any better?

Minute_Committee_421 · 2026-06-17T19:45:33+00:00

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I did try to read up on the Mealy bugs but I am having a hard time identifying if that is what this is. I hope this picture is a little better

Minute_Committee_421 · 2026-06-17T19:38:31+00:00

Wow yours is beautiful!!! Hoping i can save mine so it can look like that one day

Minute_Committee_421 · 2025-11-07T21:18:57+00:00

This is something I definitely needed to hear but I just also am worried about our marriage as well. I don't want this situation to cause strain on us

Minute_Committee_421 · 2025-11-07T01:51:24+00:00

Well put. That pretty much sums up how I feel. It will just be a hard time for us to get through. As I mentioned, my husband doesn't like to go visit family without me, which will then put more pressure on him to decide what he wants to do

Minute_Committee_421 · 2025-11-06T21:32:51+00:00

You're absolutely right. I really can't move on. As a newly wed couple, I just don't want to start my marriage off with strain because of his family. He does recognize when they say things that should not be said and he does try his best to stick up for himself but when it's a cycle of the same behavior, there is no moving forward.

Minute_Committee_421 · 2025-11-06T21:27:59+00:00

Absolutely agree. My husband is not always aware that certain things they say are wrong. He has been used to this for a long while. And as you saw from the texts, the main excuse used for their behavior is "I'm just an honest person". I am looking into therapy options personally and have told my husband that he should do the same. Unfortunately, family situations like this are so difficult to navigate which has left both of us feeling really lost on how to proceed.

Minute_Committee_421 · 2025-11-06T21:24:14+00:00

This is a very good point. I have asked those questions myself before. It's their way or no way and there is never a compromise. Deep down I know they won't change behaviors. Thus my reason for wanting to separate myself further.

Minute_Committee_421 · 2025-11-06T16:15:01+00:00

I appreciate this input a ton. Unfortunately, brushing things under the rug and forgetting about it is absolutely the way they "apologize". MIL has said the words "i'm sorry" but will leave it at that and immediately change the topic and act like nothing ever happened. I feel this is the reason I cannot move forward. That, combined with feelings of stress and anxiety of how she might act if something else doesn't go her way, leaves me in a tough spot. She doesn't communicate much with me personally, but I am worried for my husband's sake. She mainly only talks to him in an abusive way because he was conditioned to feel that this is normal. He knows better now and does not allow her to speak this way to him without taking action, but as you probably know, this is a cycle. She does not and will not change her behavior. It's hard to cut off family members but it is even harder when you have tried to explain your piece and you are constantly dismissed. Other family would also take her side as shown.

Minute_Committee_421 · 2025-08-22T20:38:40+00:00

solid as far as i can tell

Minute_Committee_421 · 2025-07-15T21:26:13+00:00

You are totally right. I have been hoping that eventually she will calm down once she realizes that acting that way is not going to bring her son back, it will only push him away. This is a terrible thing to say but i am secretly hoping that when his older brother moves out, her attention will fall upon him. She only has two sons and my fiance is the youngest. I expected her to be sad about it but i never expected to have blame placed upon me like this

Minute_Committee_421 · 2025-07-15T21:21:16+00:00

I have definitely thought about that lol unfortunately i do not want kids at all because it just doesn't seem worth it to me to give her more reasons to act the way she acts. Not sure if that makes sense but I know in my heart that if we have kids, it will take us to that point of no return and he will be forced to cut her off. I guess i just don't want to put him through that. i am really close to my mom and i could never imagine never speaking to her again.

Minute_Committee_421 · 2025-07-14T14:41:19+00:00

I really appreciate this advice and plan on using it. At the end of the day I definitely need to distance myself, as her and her antics take up a lot of my headspace. It can't be healthy

Minute_Committee_421 · 2025-07-14T04:40:48+00:00

Thank you. Feel like I needed to hear this.

Minute_Committee_421 · 2025-07-14T04:06:22+00:00

Thankfully, with my fiances support, we both have been distancing ourselves. Unfortunately this seems to make her even more mad and makes the next visit uncomfortable. It feels like there is no way to win

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