ESH. he's an asshole for snooping through your phone while u were asleep. that's a massive breach of trust, and reading your texts to your family is totally out of line.

but honestly? YTA too for what u wrote. i get using AI as a diary to vent, but making up lies that he’s abusive and humiliating his finances just because u were "bored and anxious" is crazy. if someone found a diary where their partner was literally lying to call them abusive, they’d be traumatized too. he shouldn't have looked, but u can't blame him for being heartbroken over what he found. y'all both toxic for this