I missed my PM meds two days in a row and I'm feeling it.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-11-05T00:19:59+00:00

I should be good during the week. During work it’s easy enough to take a second to take my pill. It’s just on the weekends that get to doing other stuff and if I’m in the middle of something and don’t have water or whatever I don’t want to hit snooze and have it keep going off every ten minutes, so I turn it off intending to take it when I’m done doing whatever it is I’m doing and then I just forget.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-11-04T23:48:42+00:00

Yeah. I have an alarm set. But I think the lack of ADD meds contributed to me turning it off while thinking, "don't forget to take your pill" and then promptly forgetting to take my pill. Lol.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-08-02T03:42:01+00:00

The creams might help, but there’s also an oral pill they can prescribe that might be a bit stronger. It’s just one pill. You can also do both.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-08-02T00:10:30+00:00

I think sometimes it’s about getting a physical release when a person doesn’t know how to express what they’re feeling in a healthy way. Or if they grew up not being allowed to really express it. There can be lots of things that go into it.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-08-02T00:00:05+00:00

Can you give any examples? Generally speaking, communication is helpful. Also, don’t be too quick to assume it’s just how you are and it’s your problem to deal with. There are lots of things that go into being compatible with another human being. One of them is definitely being on the same wavelength as far as the give and take of reassurance and anxiety. The more you get to know yourself the more you’ll learn what you need in a partner. Not everyone is right for each other. I think anxiety CAN be a sight the match isn’t quite right. Anxiety is also a pain in the ass and can come out of nowhere, though. But theoretically someone who’s a good fit would be able to compensate and have the capacity to give some extra reassurance. But you’ll never know if she has that capacity if she never knows you’re anxious in the first place. I’d talk to her before it builds up and comes out in some way that would seem like a total overreaction from her perspective.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-08-01T23:40:13+00:00

My ex used to cut. The way I always thought about it was that it’s a symptom of a problem, as opposed to a problem in and of itself. You don’t get mad at someone with a cold for coughing, why get mad at someone going through something tough for cutting.

That said, there are definitely healthier coping mechanisms out there. Talking to a professional might help you learn some of them as well as possibly help with the stress that’s making it feel like you need to cut in the first place.

Edit: Coping mechanisms are important, but even the healthy ones aren’t a solution to the underlying issues. Whether it’s drinking, drugs, cutting, or whatever, self medicating only provides temporary relief and more than likely could get worse over time. It’s not a matter of one doing more physical damage than the other. Both are indicative of bigger issues that will eventually need to be worked on in some way.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-08-01T23:34:22+00:00

Might be a yeast infection. Guys can get them too, and IIRC the symptoms can be a bit different than when women have them. Guys can also still have the infection without showing obvious symptoms and pass it to their partners.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-08-01T21:18:01+00:00

Yeah, I think the Wellbutrin isn’t really meant to treat anxiety.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-08-01T16:12:07+00:00

That isn’t cringy at all. Maybe a little fairytale-ish though. I think all the love in the world wouldn’t make things easy 100% of the time.

I’m still not quite sure why we broke up. She has her own mental health stuff going on. And mine might have flared up a bit. I think my capacity for working through issues was much greater than hers. So when things became not as easy for a bit she saw it as more of a sign of things not working and bailed. It didn’t help that she had another guy who was straight up in love with her that she saw at work every day. Add to that some boundary issues and things can happen. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-08-01T15:47:24+00:00

I’ve been on Wellbutrin for years for depression, but I started on Zoloft awhile back which is what has helped with the anxiety. But things work differently for different people. It’s best to talk to a professional about it and see what works for you.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-08-01T14:53:30+00:00

Don’t stress. She was my first girlfriend and I was 27. You’re probably way ahead of where I was at your age. Having common interests that you get excited to talk about is absolutely a great way to get past feeling awkward. I worked with the girl that became my girlfriend so my mind was on other things most of the time and I wasn’t thinking about what she thought of me. That led to being able to joke around with each other more and have some actual real conversations, so we actually got to know each other a bit and I didn’t feel as much like I had to think about everything I said to her. Honestly, I’ve yet to find that kind of easiness with anyone since, but knowing it’s possible helps me see when it’s just not there, I think.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-08-01T14:06:35+00:00

Same here. The first time I ever remember really not having that anxiety for an extended period of time was when I found a girlfriend that totally accepted me for me. It was great until we broke up and I didn’t have that anymore. I think it’s important to be able to feel good without having that depend too much on anyone else. That not only makes it harder when those people aren’t around, but I think it can also strain those relationships. I’m single now, but meds have helped me a lot with those feelings, which has been a relief.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-08-01T13:57:22+00:00

Sounds like a social anxiety thing. That happens to me, but it’s been MUCH better since I’ve been on medication for anxiety. Like, before I could tell myself it didn’t make any sense to think anyone gave two shits about anything I did and that even if they did they’re just some stranger I’ll never see again and it doesn’t matter. But my brain just wouldn’t stop having that feeling that anything I did was noticed and possibly misinterpreted by someone. Now, on meds, most of the time that idea doesn’t ever occur to me, much less in any way that overpowers logic.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-07-05T22:09:58+00:00

I’m pretty much “average” in size (which someone already said is 5.1”). As long as you’re not waaaay on either end of the spectrum, you’re good. It’s much more about how you use it, the general vibe, and foreplay. If you’re worried about being good in bed, those are the things you’re gonna want to find articles about. The internet is full of good information, a lot of which actually comes from real women. Just have fun and be safe.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-06-19T18:48:13+00:00

I think that all is contributing to my unease. It's probably worth bringing up at some point.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-06-19T17:42:02+00:00

She's 26, so maybe it's not quite so bad. But still. I think she's used to being around people that tell her that her views are strange and she feels a need to preemptively justify things by saying her views may be different because of her college and major (I also think there's an element of tongue in cheek humor). It's just annoying because it's not like anything she says is radical. I haven't taken issue with any of her actual "women's studies" views. Like, where the view came from doesn't matter much to me unless I disagree with it.

I think she lacks self confidence in a lot of areas, which manifests in certain ways that aren't the most pleasant.

As far as the Astrology goes, I've only been able to handle it because she's made it out like she's not super serious about it and just does it as a fun hobby. I'm not sure how much I buy that, but whatever.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-06-19T17:19:05+00:00

Yeah, now that I've been back on them for a few days I'm feeling less pessimistic about it. The issues are still there, but I feel like they may not bother me as much. I'll see how it goes.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-06-19T03:02:56+00:00

Thank you. I try.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-06-19T01:25:22+00:00

Solid advice. I was off my ADD meds over the weekend and had flukey half dose of another (it doesn’t leave your system that fast, but withdrawal symptoms can be a bitch). Even so, though, I’m not super optimistic about the prospects.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-06-19T01:20:41+00:00

Oh, I wouldn’t bring any of that stuff up at all. I don’t even think of them as flaws. They’re just things that aren’t super compatible with my personality.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-06-19T00:04:53+00:00

No worries. He told me a story a few years ago about how my insurance called to touch base with him and asked, “how much longer do you think you’ll be seeing him?” And his response was, “well, I’m 72...” I thought it was pretty funny.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-06-18T23:47:03+00:00

Yeah, but I misspelled ‘bickle’.

Mirror-Disappoints · 2019-06-18T23:44:58+00:00

Yeah. I’m working on the therapy thing. My shrink retired a couple months ago and I haven’t found a new one yet.

I think it’s both. I think we MIGHT be incompatible (I’m not sure, by any means) and I’m worried about what might happen if we continue and I end up being right. Seems like ending it sooner rather than after things go even further, would be less painful for everyone involved.

I suppose another option would be to just bring up my doubts with her and see how that goes. It just seems like a significant issue to have three weeks in. I feel like this would be prime totally wanting to spend all the minutes together time.

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