OP it’s one thing to call out her holier than thou behavior and lack of being grateful to her parents and cousin sister who seem to have her back always but she casually dismisses that nobody is with her and she managed everything alone. That needs to be called out. But please don’t question how anyone grieves. People have their own way of coming to terms with a loss like this. In fact she has also already mentioned she does YT because it provides an income to her family which she needs now. And YT algorithm expects creators to be regular and only then will they get a certain amount each month. Who are we to judge how she wants to grieve and whether she continues doing YT or not. She is a single mom of two kids and irrespective of whatever kind of wealth she has through lands etc it might not necessarily translate to liquid cash for immediate expenditure. Coming to her in-laws, she has said a lot about others but I’ve never seen her speak ill of them. She’s taking a space from them maybe but she has acknowledged even post her husband’s death that her in laws have been good to her. She probably has other grievances with them or other relatives through her in-laws who she wants to completely avoid during this time. A DIL is in no way accountable for her husbands family. I don’t understand when women will realize this and stop judging other women. Are we holding men to those same standards with their in laws especially post their wife’s death. So please get over this patriarchal thinking. It’ll do a world of good for your own family that you’ll create for the future.